Amanda Wattie - Healing Happens Within

25/02/2019

http://amandawattie.com/blog-1/2018/10/1/3-step-path

I recently created something that I wanted to share with you.  It’s a  3-Step Path for Greater S*xual Confidence.   My sincere hope is that it will help you to start creating the intimate life you are seeking.  Because who doesn't want more love and connection?

14/11/2018

Super excited to announce I’m launching my online course - Messy to Miraculous. It’s about getting out of the muck and unstuck to create a Relationship Break-through with my Somatic S*x Educator spin.
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But before I say more, I’m wondering if you’ve ever identified your relationship resources?

You know, the tools you draw on when things break down and aren’t flowing with your partner - things like physical intimacy, emotional connection, confidence?

My friend Shimon sent me this prayer a few weeks ago. “May the grasses, trees and plants awaken as I come and send their life force into my prayer.”

As I walked this morning, I just kept asking for help. Recognizing that everything in that woods, including me, was alive. The power and love in that whew!

There is no denying it. Walks and talks with God are one of my key resources that assist me in keeping relationships flowing and full of vitality. Evolving. Not getting stuck no way. New perspective opens up when I draw on Life 🍃🌿🍃

So the course - Messy to Miraculous...

This will be a radical approach to relationship and the self-discovery of the resources that support you shifting the old dynamics to the New. Shaking up the teaching with embodied, Transformative learning - out of the head and into the body.

Consider what it might feel like to create magic and movement in your relationships, including the one with yourself. Fully alive, confident, fulfilled?

Is this something you might be interested in? I’d love for you to take a look and get your feedback before I officially launch this. To receive the link include your email in the comments or PM me. ✌️❤️

30/10/2018

I think about relationships a lot; specifically how do we go about creating a fulfilling connection with people no matter the circumstances?

The other day, someone reflected that my relationships are my most prized possession. It’s true. I never give up on them. I’m fiercely devoted. My people are my life.

Right now, there’s a relationship that I'm extremely proud of. Humbled to tears. We’ve gone thru the fire of betrayal, lying and grief to an oasis of forgiveness, repair and new possibilities.

I’ll leave out the details because what's important is what I am living into these days…
Letting my agenda go
Letting pleasure guide
Letting Love/God lead

If I approach a relationship with hard and fast rules of how it has to be, there is no room for what is. Or for the person standing before me. On the other hand, with no agenda, I can simply be with this human for who they are right now and love them from there, no expectations.

Pleasure is a way of life. Rather than looking to another for fulfillment, I practice connecting to my own pleasure. Whew, it is not always easy to keep orienting towards what feels good! But when I’m there… I have calm, insight and tremendous patience to offer. Connection to pleasure is my superpower. 🦄

When I let Love lead, I’m able to offer my fearless, out of the cage kind of loving. It’s a senseless act of vulnerability, not knowing if or what I will receive in return. But Love doesn’t overthink, it just offers love through action - creating a life of daily almost missed miracles that feed my soul. Even tho I fail at this on a daily basis, Love is still there, always calling me forward.

Would love to hear your thoughts, does anything resonate for you?

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26/10/2018

What a great experiene with Natalie and Molly. Feeling the love ❤️

19/10/2018

Being truthful with our loved ones, even when we fear how they will respond.

A few months ago, I was thinking about my dad. I really wanted to close the gap between us, the years of arm's-length love.

I simply wanted him to know that I loved him, no matter what. To talk about what mattered, not the mundane.

But, this was not so simple for me. It required courage. I felt my heart pounding, the familiar tightness below my sternum, my mind spinning into all the “what ifs.”

So I sat with it, taking deep breaths, noticing how much I wanted to run. My mind calmed and the tension released. I felt more space across my chest.

That dropping in to slow my breathing took about 2 minutes and I was able to make the call. It was one of the best of my life.
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So, right now - want to try this on with me?

Connect to what you want to share with someone. To the truth you aren’t telling because you’re afraid of how they’ll respond.

Can you breathe deep and be with the fear? And then say it anyway? To say the things that really matter to you?

My dad was touched by my call. And most likely by my willingness to speak what had long gone unsaid.

But ultimately, that call changed me.

I got to show up as someone different than who I knew myself to be. To go beyond myself. To repair a relationship - just by being brave.

Are you able to express yourself fully to the people that matter to you? What would you say if there was no someday, but just now?

15/10/2018

Most people work with me because they think something needs to be fixed. Maybe they worry about disappointing their partner because they struggle with their body's response and staying confident.

And while I could give you a few techniques here to address this, it wouldn’t be enough.

What I really want you to know is that first, it’s important to just get present to your pleasure and your partner.

Ever notice how your mind wanders?

If you’re worrying about what will happen in next 5 minutes, or how things will end, then you’re not actually present to all the pleasure in the moment. And that shift is what can support you.

I get it - this may all sound completely counter-intuitive or just plain crazy!

We want fool-proof, done-deal solutions. Something to rely on.

Not going into the great unknown of the present moment.

Noticing pleasure might take a bit of work, when your focus has been caught up in worry and anxiety.

But rewire and follow the pleasure, giving it your precious undivided attention and see. What shows up now?

It is just one big beautiful experiment. Explore.

There is nothing to “figure out.” We are not broken. We don’t need to know all the tricks and tips and techniques.

Because this is the secret, there really aren’t any.

It’s just about being present, leaning in and learning how to notice pleasure. ❤️

Hope this shines a light for you xo

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09/10/2018

Please join the Somatic S*x Educators Association for the remaining 2 webinars in this dynamic 3 part somatic s*xuality series that is a fundraiser for our scholarship fund!
I will be hosting Webinar 2 on Wednesday, October 24th, 10am PST / 1pm EST as Tracy Montgomery presents: Trauma Skills for S*xuality Professionals.

Excited to hear all that she has to share with us!

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02/10/2018

Sleepless nights...nauseous stomach...worry, endless thinking.

Basically this is me when I fall into what I call “anxiety mess mode.” It’s a place of forgetting - my deep love of life and my connection to all that is.

Especially my connection to my own body and senses.

I’ve been working with a breath practice - an “erotic” breath, while walking out in nature for over a year now. It is my medicine for connecting back to my inherent self where peace prevails.

I’m sharing it in a video below.

The first time I tried breathing like this I was out walking. It was part of my Somatic S*x Education training - my homework.

There weren’t any birds singing. My partner and I were in a challenging spot...again. The sun wasn’t shining. It was pretty cold and dreary. And actually, I was pretty bored. I remember I had to keep telling myself, “Just keep going, just breathe and walk.”

Then the resistance really started up. “What was I even looking to feel? Why are they having us do this? Uggh.” I had no idea.

But I kept breathing. With no expectations to feel anything. With no outcome in mind. Yet, within a few minutes, my heart and chest felt wider. Like a weight was lifted. I was no longer thinking about the cold weather or the crappy conversation I had that morning.

I started laughing and crying at the same time for no reason.

Everything felt right.

I was grateful to just be.

How many breaths did it take?

Who cares?
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When you try this, I have no idea what you will feel. For me it changes every time. That’s the exploration, the diving into the unknown of our human experience, no matter what the circumstances with no expectations.

Learning to breathe this way can:

Help you access bliss
Open up the connection between the heart (emotions) and the ge****ls
Increase libido and pleasure
Decrease anxiety and depression
Provide a natural remedy to PE and ED
To name a few…

In this video I’ll walk you through:

What a deep breath really is.
How to know if you’re actually breathing erotically.
Why this breath practice works on our anatomy to increase sensation and pleasure - no woo woo here ;)
Where and when you can breathe this way.
Why you might have resistance to breathing differently.

Would love to hear what you find in this exploration!