12/22/2020
Did you make a New Yearâs resolution last year? Can I take a guess? Was it something likeâŚ
⢠get in shape
⢠eat healthierÂ
⢠cut out *insert this-is-bad-for-you food trend here*
Did I come close? A great big goal thatâs majorly different from your current lifestyle?
Seriously, no shame - Iâve been there too. And I donât have to get very far into a year for these resolutions to get put in the âignore thisâ pile in my brain. đ§ đ
I hear this from people who are smart and capable - and I do it myself - so why the big FLOP at the new year?
I figured out why: theyâre too broad, too nebulous, too ambiguous.
We say things like âget in shapeâ with no place to start and no parameters, so we set ourselves up for failure.Â
âĄď¸âĄď¸âĄď¸Hereâs how to create a flop-proof resolution:
1ď¸âŁ Accept it. âItâs okay for me to want ______.â In order to move toward something, you need to admit that you want it. Wanting is a good thing! Write it down, say it out loud. Quit playing hard-to-get with the universe and be okay wanting something.
2ď¸âŁ Give up whatâs in the way. âIn order to get _____, I am giving up ______.â If it feels uncomfortable to give something up, thatâs okay! Youâre on the right track. Once you identify this, you are freeing up the space for your goal to unfold.
3ď¸âŁ Zoom in. Way in. More, a little further, almost there⌠okay, you get the point. Take your idea from step one, and ask â¨how, â¨what, â¨when, â¨where, and â¨how long.â¨
âFor example, if you want to âeat healthier,â maybe your HOW is by cooking more, your WHAT is organic foods, your WHEN is once a week, your WHERE is at home, and your HOW LONG is two months. So weâve transformed a vague idea with loads of pressure behind it - âeat healthierâ - into a very specific target with clearly identifiable parts - âhome cook an all-organic meal once a week for two months.â
Thatâs a big CAN DO! đŞ
What are your New Yearâs resolutions, before and after this revision? I want to hear them!