Anchored Counseling LLC

03/06/2026

Saving for this weekend? Good, that means tonight. Tag your ❤️, send this to them, or just save this post for when you are together.

Connecting doesn't have to be hard, you just have to prioritize it.

Make sure you are following here for more content from your favorite q***r couples therapist 🌈

03/04/2026

The planets are not playing nice right now, and honestly neither am I 🌠

Saturn just conjuncted Neptune for the first time in decades. Mercury is in retrograde. We had a lunar eclipse yesterday. The cosmos are doing the most, and your relationship is feeling it whether you're paying attention or not.

Maybe you're not a zodiac girlie. That doesn't mean this doesn't impact you and your partner.

So I did some work and pulled some charts and I'm giving you the advice that somebody would tell you if they weren't worried about hurting your feelings.

You're welcome

Save this, share it with your partner, or don't. But don't say the stars and I didn't warn you.

Drop your sign in the comments so we know who see this the most 🫶

***rastrology

03/01/2026

I get a lot of questions about why I went to Liberty University. And while the explanation is much more complex than this post, there are things I draw pleasure in now that would have shocked me or my classmates and professors back then.

I am in a field that requires an intense amount of education and in many cases a considerable amount of debt to realize the goal of graduating and licensure. That's the reality of the system we are in right now.

So the other thing that comes up for people regularly is how do we continue to help therapists prioritize their longevity in this field. For me that is more and more transparency, more visibility, and more deconstruction of patriarchy, high demand religion, internalized misogyny and q***rphobia.

If you are interested in that journey too, make sure you are following for more!

02/26/2026

The Bi Cycle deserves more conversation time. Because not understanding it leads many people in the LGBTQIA+ Community to misunderstand attraction and how it can show up for people who are bisexual or pansexual.

Those misunderstandings lead to people erasing themselves, other people erasing them, and division within a community that could be benefitting from diverse understandings of attraction.

I have a longer form video about this on my YouTube channel (link is in bio or you can just search KellyRMinter in that app) if you are interested in learning more!

***rtherapist

02/20/2026

No one can tell you what to do with the way your past is interacting with the present news. But I can tell you it is not in your head.

That feeling of "I know I have been here before" is very real. Institution over people, protecting power over seeking justice, silence over truth.

The play book is the same.

Give yourself time, space, and consideration. Give yourself what maybe you didn't get before. Most of all be gentle with yourself for your responses right now. You're responding to horrible things in the present and it has triggered horrible things from your past. Boxing that back up is an old move, borrowed from the religion that taught you these feelings in the first place.

You aren't too much. Your reactions are valid. What's happening is not ok.

02/14/2026

Just a smattering of thoughts I had today, in the form of shareable Valentines Day Cards 🥰

Happy Valentine's Day, friends! 💘

02/06/2026

I didnt know some of these were controversial, honestly.

One that I know is controversial and I didn't put in the slides is this: is a therapist is not educated in how to work with our community, they should not be working with our relationships.

In therapist groups I am part of online people will say "I've worked with LGBTQIA+ couples before" when someone is referring out for relationship therapy.

Not having a problem with us is different from understanding the potentially complex and varied nature of our experiences.

Anyway, there you go. Let me know what you think. I hope I don't regret saying that lol.
***rcouples

02/05/2026

5 Unsexy Habits That Can Save Your Relationship -

If you're drowning in to-do lists, work projects, family & friend obligations, and feeling like managing the world situation while trying to maintain your mental health is getting in the way of actually connecting with your partner, then you're in the right place.

10/24/2025

Myths and Fears -

We can easily forgive a child who is afraid of the dark; the real tragedy of life is when men are afraid of the light.- Plato

07/27/2025

I know why you still haven't booked a therapy appointment.

You also know why.

But the job of the therapist in the room with you and your partner is NOT to tell you if you are going to "make it" or not.

Your therapist's job is to help you and your partner work through your current relationship stressors, help you find the reasons you keep coming back to the same arguments again and again & resolve the things that can be resolved so the relationship can move forward.

If you are worried about a therapist thinking negatively about you or or partner (or your relationship) let me try to put you at ease.

Yes couples who come in doing these things are typically in a more cooperative and "ready to heal" space, I ALSO see these signs when a relationship is healing and becoming stronger.

So if you aren't sure that you are currently willing to face one another when having the hard conversations, or attending to one another while in therapy, or even if you aren't sure that therapy ISNT you or your partner's last real try to repair the relationship, those aren't reasons to not book the appointment.

🤔 Interested in working with a relationship therapist who is also a real human 💁🏻‍♀️? I have some openings for couples starting immediately. Check out the link in my bio, comment LET'S GO here, or DM me for more details on how to work together.

Not quite ready for 1:1 therapy? There's nothing wrong with that, and I still want you to have tools to help your relationship.

P.S. Curious about my other resources? Check out my bio for my Amazon storefront, partnerships, and all things therapy-related!

Reminder: Social media is for education and connection, but it’s no substitute for working directly with a licensed therapist.

***rrelationships

07/11/2025

Send this to the person you thought of when you read it...

Or save this for yourself because you KNOW you get this twisted up, especially when you are getting into it with your partner.

I can tell you, as a relationship therapist, that when arguments between partners happen many people say (in hindsight) that they don't know why they felt so attacked.

They know their partner isn't coming for them. But they can't help feeling like they have to defend themselves.

This right here is a lot of the reason why. Especially for so many who grow up religious, grow up q***r and heteronormative society, or both, you're taught that if you're just good enough you can be accepted and loved no matter what else you have going on.

And maybe that was actually true in your family of origin. But that should not be true with your partner. And so often if we can just let go of the idea that our partner seeing us as right means that we are good we can usually meet in the middle on things and resolve conflicts so much faster.

And wouldn't that just be lovely for everyone?

Follow 👉 ***rtherapist for expert relationship advice, LGBTQIA+ insights, and mental health tips from someone who’s been where you are.

💾 Save this post for when you’re ready, and 📲 share it with someone who needs to hear this today.

P.S. Curious about my other resources? Check out my bio for my Amazon storefront, partnerships, and all things therapy-related!

Reminder: Social media is for education and connection, but it’s no substitute for working directly with a licensed therapist.

***rTherapist ***rCouples

07/08/2025

✨It’s my birthday, so I’m dropping the 10 realest things I’ve learned this year about relationships, love, and life.✨
(Some of them I learned the hard way. Some I’m still learning. All of them feel true.)

💬Swipe through for the full list or read below. If something hits—let me know in the comments.👇

🧠💔 Here’s what this year taught me:

1. Presence > perfection.

2. If love requires silence, it’s not love.

3. Compatibility is about how we repair.

4. Deconstruction = reclaiming my gut.

5. Growth always comes with grief.

6. Desire doesn’t have to be logical to be valid.

7. Boundaries are a form of healing.

8. I’m not here to be easy to love—I’m here to be real.

9. Q***r love = intentional love.

10. No one is more qualified to lead my life than me.

🎉 I’ve laughed, cried, questioned everything, and come home to myself more this year than ever before.
And I’m not done.

🪩✨ Tell me:
Which one hits you right in the gut today?
Or what’s your biggest lesson from this past year?

Follow along for more content from a q***r relationship therapist who is just trying to help support her community while we all figure it out together.

👇Drop it in the comments—I wanna know.
***rtherapist ***rtherapist