Anchored Counseling LLC

03/28/2026

No two couples are the same, but most are similar.

The best predictor of a couples outcome in therapy is their willingness to learn and grow. But within that, there are other important pieces. And when you do this for a while, you start to notice the patterns in the relationships that include people who are willing to do the work and those who aren't.

If you are interested in knowing more about 🌈 relationship, make sure you swipe to get to my profile and follow along!


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03/27/2026

Especially after an exceptionally long client day.

You know, sometimes I'm tempted to say "luckily she"....

As in "luckily she is understanding" or "luckily she is kind about it" or" I'm really lucky to be with her". And all those things are true but I also don't think that it's luck.

I think we worked really hard to get to the place where we understand one another's need for silence sometimes, or need to talk things out, and how to navigate that is a result of a lot of years prioritizing each other in our relationship and as individuals.

The thing that we didn't have access to that probably would have made the whole process easier is a therapist who was educated in q***r relationship issues.

I have a lot to say on the topic of being educated in q***r issues if you're going to work with q***r couples. It's all over my Instagram. And I'll keep saying it as long as I have a platform to use, but that's also the reason that I went into this particular line of work in the first place.

If you and your partner are looking for therapist who gets it, possibly has been there, and appreciates humor and emotion in session, send me a DM or check out my link in my bio to see if we would be a good fit to work together.

Or, just stick around and hopefully enjoy this account for the humor and help it's intended to bring 🌈

03/24/2026

Three REAL tips for your 🌈 relationship:

1. Don't forget that they aren't mind readers. You have to tell them what you're thinking or you can't expect them to do anything to help you with the things going on in your mind. No matter how well you think they know you.

2. Moods are allowed to change. That's called life. Your moods, their moons, the moods of your dog or your kids. You're going to spend a lot of your time reacting to the things around you, that doesn't mean you need to take it out on one another in your relationship. Work to be each other's safe place instead of each other's emotional punching bag

3. Develop rituals for after work. How do you greet one another how do you catch each other up when your day. What do you do in one of you has had a heavier day than the other? Creating those rituals give you a soft place to land even when your day has been hard.

Obviously this reel is a parody, but the caption is not. There are lots of things that we do instinctually that are not productive for our relationships but there are also a lot of ways to be productive in our relationships.

Start with these three, drop a note in the comments as to which one you can use the most work with

Interested in more tips for your q***r relationship? Make sure that you are following this account for helpful and sometimes humorous content.

03/21/2026

I just love seeing happy couples.
I live for the dynamics of q***r relationships, the uniqueness of each individual and the beauty they see in each other.

I choose to work only with these couples because their appreciation for one another and desire for understanding pretty much shines through any issue they may be having, and attended to one another during session happens more often than not.

I love it so much ❤️

If you are looking for support for your q***r relationship, make sure to swipe right to get to my profile and follow along for more.

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03/20/2026

Nuance, yes. But also, principals.

It is SO EASY to jump on the bandwagon of bashing someone you don't know. And since we absolutely have a different set of standards for women than men, and for mothers vs non mothers, I don't expect many people to take kindly to this post.

But people, we have GOT to stop making people, ab*se, power exploitation, and greed the things that rule our decision making, both from a prossional and network perspective and from a personal perspective.

ABC, HULU, the LDS Church, and honestly TFPs family have some things to answer for also here.

03/20/2026

Saving these for date night? Great! But tonight works too.

Finding time for just the two of you can be a lot these days. Let me help. With these four questions there's not really a good excuse to not have some bonding time this weekend. Tag your partner, or send this to them, or just save this reel for the next time the two of you are together.

These and more are always available on this account so that you never run out of questions to ask one another during date night, downtime, or just trying to spark conversation.

Make sure you are following here for more of these types of resources. ***rtherapist

03/19/2026

Almost 30 years together, and we have learned a LOT.

We don't have everything perfect, but the ways that we have worked together and learned some of the hardest lessons of our lives have left us with a supportive and deep connection that neither of us ever expected to have in the beginning.

So today I am sharing some of what we have learned over the years with you. Maybe it resonates and maybe it doesn't, as usual take what helps you and leave what doesn't. Every relationship is different This is just what has been true for us.

If you are looking for support and community around your q***r relationship, make sure that you are following us here in our little corner of the internet.


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03/14/2026

Love languages have long been a staple in understanding your partner. Unfortunately, they are actually a bunch of crap.

Put together by a pastor who made a name for himself by bashing people who are gay, and telling countless women if their husbands aren't listening to them it was because they were not motivating the men "with their bodies", love languages have a fairly stories history. And don't have much of a place in modern couples therapy.

Instead of love languages, why don't you try asking your partner these questions:

- When do you feel most seen
- What makes you feel safe
- What actions or words or activities make you feel loved and cared for

And use those to begin to inform how you love your partner well.

So, do you use love languages still? Are you ready to move past them? Drop a comment below and join the conversation

***rtherapist

03/13/2026

Relationships aren't always easy to navigate, and needing support should not have to feel shameful.

You also shouldn't have to wonder if the therapist you are going to is going to fall into microagressions against you and your partner(s).

If you and your partner are interested in the starting therapy with a therapist who gets it drop me a comment, shoot me a DM, or check out my links to see how we can get started working together.

Not quite ready for 1:1 therapy? Follow 👉 ***rtherapist for expert relationship advice, LGBTQIA+ insights, and mental health tips from someone who’s been where you are.

💾 Save this post for when you’re ready, and 📲 share it with someone who needs to hear this today.

P.S. Curious about my other resources? Check out my bio for my Amazon storefront, partnerships, and all things therapy-related!

Reminder: Social media is for education and connection, but it’s no substitute for working directly with a licensed therapist.

10/24/2025

Myths and Fears -

We can easily forgive a child who is afraid of the dark; the real tragedy of life is when men are afraid of the light.- Plato

07/27/2025

I know why you still haven't booked a therapy appointment.

You also know why.

But the job of the therapist in the room with you and your partner is NOT to tell you if you are going to "make it" or not.

Your therapist's job is to help you and your partner work through your current relationship stressors, help you find the reasons you keep coming back to the same arguments again and again & resolve the things that can be resolved so the relationship can move forward.

If you are worried about a therapist thinking negatively about you or or partner (or your relationship) let me try to put you at ease.

Yes couples who come in doing these things are typically in a more cooperative and "ready to heal" space, I ALSO see these signs when a relationship is healing and becoming stronger.

So if you aren't sure that you are currently willing to face one another when having the hard conversations, or attending to one another while in therapy, or even if you aren't sure that therapy ISNT you or your partner's last real try to repair the relationship, those aren't reasons to not book the appointment.

🤔 Interested in working with a relationship therapist who is also a real human 💁🏻‍♀️? I have some openings for couples starting immediately. Check out the link in my bio, comment LET'S GO here, or DM me for more details on how to work together.

Not quite ready for 1:1 therapy? There's nothing wrong with that, and I still want you to have tools to help your relationship.

P.S. Curious about my other resources? Check out my bio for my Amazon storefront, partnerships, and all things therapy-related!

Reminder: Social media is for education and connection, but it’s no substitute for working directly with a licensed therapist.

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