Anchored Counseling LLC

04/21/2026

While you're at it...

✨ Relax your jaw
✨ Lower your shoulders
✨ Take you tongue off the roof of your mouth
✨ Take a deep breath in for 3 seconds, hold it for 4 seconds, and breathe it out for 5 seconds.

Maybe do these together if you need a way to refocus.

Connecting with your partner helps you to create safety, so when the tough things come up there is calm and peace between you to handle them.

Make connection a priority.

Not sure where to start? I have openings for couples in FL, CO, NY, VT, or certain locations outside of the USA beginning in May. Comment "let's go!" Here, DM me, or check out my link in bio to see how to sign up to work with me.

***rcouples

04/17/2026

Sure, I definitely believe you when you say WE are the problem.

Being a q***r couples therapist in 2026 is a wild thing. Trying to help people regulate together when the world feels like it is on fire is not something they teach you about in grad school.

Then, watching the things happening that involve mostly straight men (with no consequences) adds a whole layer to an already effed up feeling.

When things get this overwhelming, I have to remind myself and my clients that the people you have directly in front of you are the MOST important people you have. You circle is vital to your peace. So create your circle the best way you can. Trust yourself, trust your people, and fight like hell to keep those relationships healthy.

The crazier the world gets, the more important that circle is.

04/16/2026

Hint: it's not a out is doing what we want when we want.

It's the kid thing. It's dropped off a bit as we have gotten older, I'll admit. But now people's reactions to us not having children is pity.

"You'll miss so much about what's good in life"
"Who will take care of you when you are older?"
"You can't know real love until you are a parent"

All of these things are dismissive and belittling...and untrue. But .ore than that, it's the intrusive nature that people know what's best for anyone else.

The other thing that a lot of straight people don't think about is how much work goes into having kids for a q***r couple. Many can't do it because it is cost prohibitive and bills have to be paid. The majority of people who are child free by choice OR q***r parents have thought a hell of a lot more about parenthood than most cishet parents I know.

So, where are you in the great child debate that seems to be on people's minds these days? Drop your thought in the comments, I'd love to hear them!

***rcouples

04/14/2026

I keep seeing post after post after post with comments about how this group or that is out to get this other group with their attitude or the way they move their lives.

Do we really not get, as adults, that very few people actually think about us as much as we think they do?

It's just not necessary, especially when the world exists the way it does right now, to get so caught up in what people are trying to "do" to us. And if you do get caught up, maybe ask yourself why?

04/04/2026

Audits aren't just for taxes, they are also for anything you want to check in on to make sure thing are happening the way they need to be.

So how about a relationship audit? Check out these topics and questions with your partner. Feel free to tag them, send this post to them, or just save it for when you are together.

Whatever you do, use this post to do a health check up and check in on your relationship this April

Make sure you are following here for more relationship content 🫶🏼

***rtherapist

04/02/2026

If you didn't know, now you know.

Obviously if you've been following me for a bit you know that I talk a lot about the fact that there is a need for specialized support for our relationships.

But I haven't been very specific. So let's try to clarify some things.

In addition to all of the things that I mentioned, there are some uniquely beautiful things about q***r love. And I don't want to ignore or undercut any of that. But typically people are not coming into therapy to celebrate the great things going on in their lives but to get support for the things that are making their lives feel complicated or hard.

If you are not trained in the areas where members of q***r relationships will be needing the most support, then that might not be the best place for you to be focusing or supporting in your practice.

This is a hill I would die on, honestly. I'm not saying you have to be q***r yourself, but I am saying that being educated is necessary whether you are q***r or not.

Thoughts?

***rlove

04/01/2026

I'm losing patience for all of this and I'm not known for holding my tongue.

If you are spending your energy telling people that the supreme Court ruling about conversion therapy could have been worse, you are telling q***r people to take what they can get and be glad that they didn't get worse things.

If you championed the love story and heated rivalry and said things like love is love and are upset about the sapphic storyline in Bridgerton because you're not attracted to women, you were exploiting gay and bi men, not being a good ally.

If you are a therapist who will take any couple because you don't see a difference between a straight and a q***r couples, you are not doing couples therapy correctly.

***rcouples

03/29/2026

Feeling connected in your q***r relationship can be difficult, especially if it's been a while since the connection was present.

And it shows up in your communication, in how you feel supported, in the way you make plans...it isn't just about physically connecting. That's just a small part of the bigger picture.

Feeling truly connected to your partner is something that takes attention to maintain, and at times that attention slips or is split. That's ok, but you also have to get back on the same page again.

Have you told your partner how you feel? Tried to have an honest conversation? Vulnerability can be scary, but is necessary

10/24/2025

Myths and Fears -

We can easily forgive a child who is afraid of the dark; the real tragedy of life is when men are afraid of the light.- Plato

07/27/2025

I know why you still haven't booked a therapy appointment.

You also know why.

But the job of the therapist in the room with you and your partner is NOT to tell you if you are going to "make it" or not.

Your therapist's job is to help you and your partner work through your current relationship stressors, help you find the reasons you keep coming back to the same arguments again and again & resolve the things that can be resolved so the relationship can move forward.

If you are worried about a therapist thinking negatively about you or or partner (or your relationship) let me try to put you at ease.

Yes couples who come in doing these things are typically in a more cooperative and "ready to heal" space, I ALSO see these signs when a relationship is healing and becoming stronger.

So if you aren't sure that you are currently willing to face one another when having the hard conversations, or attending to one another while in therapy, or even if you aren't sure that therapy ISNT you or your partner's last real try to repair the relationship, those aren't reasons to not book the appointment.

🤔 Interested in working with a relationship therapist who is also a real human 💁🏻‍♀️? I have some openings for couples starting immediately. Check out the link in my bio, comment LET'S GO here, or DM me for more details on how to work together.

Not quite ready for 1:1 therapy? There's nothing wrong with that, and I still want you to have tools to help your relationship.

P.S. Curious about my other resources? Check out my bio for my Amazon storefront, partnerships, and all things therapy-related!

Reminder: Social media is for education and connection, but it’s no substitute for working directly with a licensed therapist.

***rrelationships