01/22/2026
Are you stonewalling in conflict, or is your nervous system hitting the brakes? In relationships, pulling back can mean different things. Sometimes it’s avoidance, resentment, or punishment.
But often, it’s:
• Flooding: your heart is racing, thoughts are scrambled, and you can’t think clearly.
• Dorsal shutdown: your system is overwhelmed and goes numb.
From the outside, it might look like you “don’t care.” Inside, you might care so much that your body can’t keep up.
In conflict, are you more likely to say too much or shut down completely?
📌 Save this if you’ve ever felt misunderstood for needing space.
Couples and individual therapy at Monarch can help you understand your patterns and practice conflict that doesn’t cost your mental health.