Tamera J Stouton,LPC, EMDR CIT

Tamera J Stouton,LPC, EMDR CIT EMDR CIT | Sacred Healer | Sacred Guide & Yoga Teacher in Training 🌿 Supporting therapists to find their voice, embody their work & grow with confidence.

12/08/2025

The Myth: Many couples believe that needing therapy means your relationship is broken, or that there's something fundamentally wrong with one or both of you.

The Truth Is: You're not broken......you're overwhelmed.

Life is complex. Work, kids, finances, health, and family demands all pile up. Over time, this stress creates patterns of distance, miscommunication, and conflict that feel impossible to untangle on your own.

Therapy is not a sign of failure; it's a sign of commitment.

It's a dedicated, safe space to:

Unpack the overwhelm.

Identify the stressful patterns you've fallen into.

Learn new tools to communicate and connect under pressure.

Therapy is simply asking for a guide when you're lost in the fog of life. Your love isn't broken......it's just temporarily struggling under a heavy load.

✅ Ready to trade overwhelm for connection?

DM me the word "CONSULT" to schedule a confidential consultation and take the first step toward a stronger relationship.

đŸȘ¶You have to do your own healing work...continously.đŸȘ¶ Your presence matters just as much as your skills.đŸȘ¶You must find y...
12/07/2025

đŸȘ¶You have to do your own healing work...continously.
đŸȘ¶ Your presence matters just as much as your skills.
đŸȘ¶You must find your way of helping..be yourself, lean into your healing identify & find your voice.
đŸȘ¶This work will change you before it changes anyone else.
✹I believe BE-ing a therapist is more than a job. It’s a sacred calling.
✚ If you’re on this road too, comment “becoming.”

12/04/2025

I Am...Evolving into an EMDR Consultant is intentional.
I’m growing my craft — especially in EMDR for couples — and investing through Trauma Therapy Institute.
This is chosen growth.
How are you evolving?

Most Black couples don’t just fall out of love
 they fall out of curiosity.We’re taught not to ask too many questions—bu...
12/03/2025

Most Black couples don’t just fall out of love
 they fall out of curiosity.

We’re taught not to ask too many questions—but intimacy grows through curiosity, not silence.

In couples EMDR, I help partners rediscover each other with gentleness instead of defensiveness.

We often think, “If I bring it up, it’ll ruin the mood.”
But avoiding the conversation doesn’t protect the relationship.
Curiosity does.

Try asking tonight:
“What’s something you wish I understood about the way you love?”

Ready to reconnect?
DM to schedule a couples consultation with me.

What are you curious about in your partner right now?

12/03/2025

I’m choosing to deepen my skill, strengthen my presence, and grow through consultation with Trauma Therapy Institute. I’m evolving with purpose
 how are you choosing to evolve in 2026?

12/01/2025

Love shouldn’t feel like survival mode.

Hey family, I’m Tamera — an EMDR & Couples Therapist for Black couples who are ready to break old patterns and build something healthier.

Most of us didn’t grow up seeing soft, safe love. We learned to shut down, avoid conflict, or carry everything alone.

But it can be different.
I help couples slow down, communicate with more care, and heal the wounds that keep replaying in the relationship.

I have 3 openings for new couples this month. Comment “COUPLES” or message me to schedule your consultation.

Black love deserves to grow — not just survive.

Most Black couples don’t just fall out of love
 they fall out of curiosity.We’re taught not to ask too many questions—bu...
12/01/2025

Most Black couples don’t just fall out of love
 they fall out of curiosity.

We’re taught not to ask too many questions—but intimacy grows through curiosity, not silence.

In couples EMDR, I help partners rediscover each other with gentleness instead of defensiveness.

We often think, “If I bring it up, it’ll ruin the mood.”
But avoiding the conversation doesn’t protect the relationship.
Curiosity does.

Try asking tonight:
“What’s something you wish I understood about the way you love?”

Ready to reconnect?
Schedule a couples consultation with me.

What are you curious about in your partner right now?

12/01/2025

So many of us grew up hearing the same script: “Be strong. Don’t rock the boat. Don’t ask too many questions.”

And we carry that into our relationships thinking we’re keeping the peace

but intimacy doesn’t grow in silence.
It grows in curiosity.

When I’m working with couples in EMDR, we slow things all the way down so partners can actually wonder about each other again.
Not interrogate.
Not blame.
Just
 discover.

Because honestly? Curiosity softens everything. It’s the antidote to defensiveness.

And I hear this all the time:
“If I bring this up, it’ll ruin the mood
 so I let it go.”

But here’s the real truth: avoiding the conversation doesn’t protect the relationship. Asking with gentleness and curiosity actually strengthens it.

If you want to try something simple tonight, ask your partner:
“What’s something you wish I understood about the way you love?”

You’d be surprised how much that one question can open things up.

If you’re ready to bring curiosity, softness, and connection back into your relationship,
schedule a couples consultation with me.

And tell me.....What’s something you’re curious about in your partner right now?

11/25/2025

I believe we as Licensed Clinicians have an ethical responsibility to safeguard our field. One of the most damaging patterns I’m seeing?
Practicing outside our competency. Using modalities we’re not trained in, calling work “trauma-informed” without understanding the nervous system, or taking cases you’re not equipped to hold yet. This isn’t about judgement or perfection. It’s about integrity, humility, and protecting the clients who trust us and the work we do.
What’s one area of concern, you have witnessed or experienced that you believe we need to do better in/at?

11/24/2025

Most women I serve grew up carrying whole generations.Healing is how we stop passing down what hurt us.

What generational pattern are you ready to break?

Friends
 let me speak a word to you and your beloved.Most couples don’t fall apart because they are “broken.”They’re sim...
11/24/2025

Friends
 let me speak a word to you and your beloved.
Most couples don’t fall apart because they are “broken.”
They’re simply overwhelmed,,,by life, by stress, by the holidays,
and by the memories that get stirred up when old family patterns meet new expectations.

You and your beloved....like many other black couples...may be thinking...“If we need therapy, something is wrong with us.”

The Truth is Friend: Your nervous systems are tired, not defective.
You are overwhelmed, not unlovable. You are carrying too much, not giving too little.

And friend...during the holidays..that overwhelm can increase.

Whew
 the pressure rises, the emotions deepen, and suddenly you’re not just arguing with your partner....you’re unknowlingly arguing with the echoes of what shaped you....past hurts, disappointments and disagreements...all rise during the holidays.

Friend, you and your beloved don’t need fixing..... you both need healing, clarity, and space.

EMDR Therapy can Help: EMDR supports you in clearing the emotional backlog..so you’re not fighting yesterday’s wounds in today’s relationship. It brings regulation, peace, and connection back into the relationship.

💛 You’re and your beloved are not broken. You’re both overwhelmed. And overwhelm can be healed.

✹If this resonates, comment “overwhelmed.”
To schedule your EMDR Couples Consultation, visit:
đŸ‘‰đŸŸ https://tinyurl.com/Healourlegacy

Why Your Relationship Feels “Different” During the Holidays 🩃✹More stress = more triggers.This season stirs old memories...
11/22/2025

Why Your Relationship Feels “Different” During the Holidays 🩃✹

More stress = more triggers.
This season stirs old memories, unspoken expectations, and emotional pressure.

You’re not broken.
Your nervous systems are overwhelmed—protecting, reacting, and shutting down.

The good news?
EMDR Couples Therapy helps you see what’s getting activated, break old patterns, and reconnect with safety and tenderness.

🩃 If this season feels heavy, you don’t have to carry it alone.
đŸ‘‰đŸŸ Schedule your EMDR Couples Consultation:
https://tinyurl.com/Healourlegacy

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