The Classy Girls' Guide to Divorce

The Classy Girls' Guide to Divorce Divorce is an emotional process, but the classy girl or guy can not only thrive, but stay their bada

Happy New Year Ladies! May 2026 bring healing, a renewed spirit, and classy growth! 🥂
01/01/2026

Happy New Year Ladies! May 2026 bring healing, a renewed spirit, and classy growth! 🥂

This year brought change. Pain. Maybe even chaos.But also:🌱 Growth🧠 Clarity❤️ CourageEven if it doesn’t look like much f...
12/30/2025

This year brought change. Pain. Maybe even chaos.

But also:
🌱 Growth
🧠 Clarity
❤️ Courage

Even if it doesn’t look like much from the outside, I see you.
Your healing wasn’t loud — it was real.

Take a breath. Take a bow.
You made it.

Today might look different than it used to.Split schedules. Quiet moments. Unexpected emotions.But different doesn’t mea...
12/25/2025

Today might look different than it used to.
Split schedules. Quiet moments. Unexpected emotions.

But different doesn’t mean broken.
And healing doesn’t mean pretending.

Give yourself permission to feel it all —
to cry, to laugh, to rest, to opt out of things that don’t feel safe.
Let this be the year you give yourself grace instead of guilt.

Staying friends with your ex right away can feel mature.Like you’re doing this “the healthy way.”But often, it’s a safet...
12/24/2025

Staying friends with your ex right away can feel mature.
Like you’re doing this “the healthy way.”

But often, it’s a safety trap.
It avoids grief. Delays boundaries. And blurs what’s actually happening.

You’re allowed to take space.
You don’t need to prove how evolved you are.

Friendship might come later, and it might not.
But healing comes first, and you will be ok regardless of a future friendship with your ex.

In hard moments, we sometimes turn to our kids for reassurance.A hug. A smile. A sense that something is still okay.But ...
12/18/2025

In hard moments, we sometimes turn to our kids for reassurance.
A hug. A smile. A sense that something is still okay.

But emotional anchoring puts pressure on children to carry adult pain.
It’s not intentional — it’s instinctive.
And it’s also unsustainable.

What helps instead?
☕ Talking to a friend
📖 Journaling the ache
🧘 Finding calm in your body first — then showing up for your kids

Your steadiness is the anchor they need.

There’s a sneaky way many of us measure progress: “If they think I’m doing well, I must be.”But here’s the truth:Healing...
12/15/2025

There’s a sneaky way many of us measure progress: “If they think I’m doing well, I must be.”

But here’s the truth:
Healing isn’t performative.
It’s private. Personal. Messy and nonlinear.

Let go of being “seen as okay” and lean into actually being okay.
Define your progress by how grounded you feel — not by how impressed they are.

Need help in grounding yourself when those big feelings come up? Co-burdening with a friend who won't tell you what to do but will sit with you in your ungroundedness, a therapist, pastor, coach.

Obsessive researching was my favorite trauma response.It gave me the illusion of control — but underneath, I was spirali...
12/12/2025

Obsessive researching was my favorite trauma response.
It gave me the illusion of control — but underneath, I was spiraling.

Eventually, I had to stop asking Google and start asking myself:
“What do I need right now?”

Information is helpful.
But healing comes from what you feel, not just what you know.

Oversharing might feel a flaw. It’s often a survival strategy.I was trying to soothe the chaos inside me by spilling it ...
12/09/2025

Oversharing might feel a flaw. It’s often a survival strategy.
I was trying to soothe the chaos inside me by spilling it out to people who weren’t always safe, wise, or helpful.

But it didn’t bring peace — just noise.
Therapy taught me to hold space within instead of leaking pain outward.

Try this:
📝 Write your story — but don’t send it
🎧 Tell your truth in a voice note to yourself
💬 Save your softness for the people who can hold it

There were nights I stared at my phone, needing a response.Maybe for comfort. Maybe for closure.But truthfully, I wasn’t...
12/06/2025

There were nights I stared at my phone, needing a response.
Maybe for comfort. Maybe for closure.
But truthfully, I wasn’t texting for answers.
I was texting because I didn’t know how to sit with my pain.
It might feel shameful, but I realized it's actually human. It's human to feel, and it's also human to avoid pain. But sometimes we have to feel through it to get through it.

In therapy, I learned to ask:
“What am I really seeking right now?”
And I practiced doing something different: journaling instead of texting.
Creating space. Feeling, not fixing.

Let’s talk about safety-seeking behaviors — the things we do during divorce to feel better, but that actually keep us st...
12/04/2025

Let’s talk about safety-seeking behaviors — the things we do during divorce to feel better, but that actually keep us stuck.
I’ve done it.
✔️ Overshared with too many people
✔️ Jumped too fast into connection
✔️ Turned to comfort that didn’t last
None of it made me feel safe in the long run. It gave me a moment of relief — but no long-term regulation.

In my professional experience and my personal journey, I’ve learned:
🛑 Unhealthy safety-seeking = looking outside ourselves to stop the pain
✅ Healthy safety-seeking = learning to feel the pain safely and reconnect with ourselves

You’re not broken. You’re trying to survive. Let’s just make sure you're using tools that actually help you heal.

Holidays can be hard during and after a divorce. Sending blessings your way ladies.
11/27/2025

Holidays can be hard during and after a divorce. Sending blessings your way ladies.

The early days can feel like a storm — but they’re also your foundation.In my experience, women who focus on these 3 thi...
11/27/2025

The early days can feel like a storm — but they’re also your foundation.
In my experience, women who focus on these 3 things gain traction fast:
Emotional regulation
Knowing their financial basics
Interviewing professionals (not just hiring the first one)

Move small. Move smart.

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