The Classy Girls' Guide to Divorce

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The Classy Girls' Guide to Divorce

Divorce is an emotional process, but the classy girl or guy can not only thrive, but stay their bada

11/14/2025

Think of your marriage like a game of baseball.
You trained, showed up, gave it your all.
But not every team wins the championship — and not every game is worth staying in.

Walking away doesn’t mean you lost. It means you knew when to call it.

11/13/2025

“Do I need a lawyer?” isn’t the only question.
Ask better. Get better results.

Here are 3 questions I encourage all women to ask early in the process:
1️⃣ What are my resolution options — mediation, litigation, or collaborative?
2️⃣ What should I focus on this month (not this year)?
3️⃣ How do I protect my finances and my peace of mind right now?

Write them down. Bring them to your consult. And remember: you’re interviewing them.

11/11/2025

Divorce isn’t a solo sport.
You need a team. Choose them wisely.

Your divorce dream team should include:
A therapist or coach who helps you emotionally regulate
An attorney or mediator who explains, not pressures
A financial advisor or CDFA who tells you the truth

You are not auditioning to be liked — you are interviewing to be respected.

11/04/2025

Before you do anything else — pause.
You don’t need a perfect plan. You need a steady mindset.

Divorce doesn’t start with filing paperwork. It starts with getting centered.
In my professional experience, women who take 48 hours to breathe, write down what they know for sure, and hold off on panic-fueled decisions fare much better long term.
You don’t need to move fast — you need to move with clarity.

10/30/2025

Some days you’ll feel strong.
Other days you’ll feel broken.
Most days, you’ll feel both.

You’re allowed to miss the good parts and still know this is the right choice.
You’re allowed to be angry and still want peace.
You’re allowed to laugh again — even when your heart still hurts.

Let it be complicated. That’s what healing looks like.

10/28/2025

Your kids won’t remember every detail of your divorce — but they’ll remember how you made them feel.
Stay calm. Stay honest. Stay grounded.

One of the most powerful tools we have during divorce is how we show up in front of our kids.
Speak about the other parent respectfully
Acknowledge your emotions but don’t make them your child’s burden
Be consistent — even when things are hard

This isn’t just about now. It’s about who they’ll become.

10/23/2025

You don’t need to be ready to divorce to start learning what it involves.
In fact, the best decisions happen before things fall apart.

One of the most empowering things you can do is learn about divorce before you’re in the thick of it.
What are your rights?
What does mediation look like?
How can you protect your peace, your finances, and your children?

In my professional experience, gathering information doesn’t mean you’re committing to anything — it means you’re preparing to lead.

10/21/2025

Teenagers don’t need lectures.
They need honesty, consistency, and freedom to feel what they feel.

Teenagers may say, “I’m fine.” But divorce can hit them harder than they show.

What helps?
Respecting their privacy
Answering their questions honestly
Being emotionally available without hovering
Checking in — even when they say they don’t want to talk

Keep the door open. Stay present.

10/20/2025

For little ones, consistency matters more than explanations.
Be brief. Be gentle. Be reassuring.

Children under 7 don’t understand the full picture — and they don’t need to.
They just want to know:
💛 Who’s picking me up?
💛 Where will I sleep?
💛 Are you still here for me?

Answer those questions with love and repeat them often. That’s what helps them feel secure.

10/17/2025

Tweens are caught in the middle — old enough to understand divorce, but still emotionally fragile.
They need space and structure.

This age group might pretend they’re “fine.” But inside, they’re often overwhelmed.
What helps?
✅ Being clear — without blaming the other parent
✅ Validating their feelings without overexplaining
✅ Reassuring them they are not responsible for the outcome

It’s not about perfect language — it’s about open connection.

10/16/2025

Not every divorce has to be a war.
In fact, most shouldn’t be.
That’s why I recommend mediation or collaborative divorce whenever possible.

When I guide women through divorce, one of the first questions I ask is:
“How important is it for you to stay in control of the outcome?”
Because if the answer is “very,” mediation or collaborative divorce are usually the best options.

They’re private, cost-effective, and puts the power back in your hands — not a judge’s.

10/15/2025

There’s more than one way to divorce.And the path you choose will shape your future.

Litigation may sound like the default, but it’s not the only option — or even the best one for many people.

From mediation (my personal favorite) to DIY, understanding your choices can be a game-changer.

In my professional experience, the most peaceful and cost-effective divorces happen when both parties start with how they want to separate — not just what they want to fight for.

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