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Dece Sterling

Be Full of Yourself - Your Worth. Your Expression.

Your Needs
I help spiritually-led women who old space for everyone else but rarely feel truly seen - be full of themselves, so love & life finally reflect their worth & truth. Imagine a healing center like a restaurant with an array of international and domestic items hand-crafted for your unique energy optimization. You still get soul-food, but your group orders inspiration and emotional health in a fun and creative environment. Though food can do the same, Dennector is more of an energy movement in the body and mind through tangible practices and connecting to yourself holistically in group settings.

01/10/2026

I’ve always been a mirror, the kind that made people uncomfortable.
It made me the odd one.
Now it makes me the one women trust when they’re done lying to themselves.
In our space, I don’t reflect your surface - I reflect your self-worth, your truth, and the patterns you’ve outgrown.
Then we clean your self-expression until your love, your life, and your leadership finally rise to meet your standard.

01/05/2026

Everyone sees the wedding. Few people talk about the freedom a safe marriage gives you.

The best gift God has ever given me is freedom, and yes, it came packaged as my husband, Dr. Sterling.

Not because a man completed me.

Because I finally chose the kind of love that does not require me to shrink.

Freedom to express my needs.
Freedom to express my dreams.
Freedom in self expression.
Freedom to say what helps me feel safe in marriage, and be met with care.

And I know you feel like this kind of man does not exist.

Because you have always been the different one, even in your own family.

You are successful in life.
You are high functioning.
You have done deep work on yourself.
You move with God.

And still, you crave something so simple it almost feels dangerous to want.

A stable man.
A grounded man.
A man who commits to you and your union.
Who sees all parts of you, accepts your eccentricities, and gives you room to live fully.

But most people have not built the capacity to hold you.
So you filter yourself.
You soften your truth.
You edit your needs.
You try to be easier to love.

Not because you are fake.

Because you learned that being fully expressed came with a cost.

So you tried to become normal in love.

You did therapy thinking, once I heal enough, relationships will finally work.

You went deeper into astrology hoping it would explain why you can figure out so much of life on your own, yet love still does not match what you give

And at some point, you got tired.
So now you avoid it altogether.

Relationships. Men. Hope.

Here is what I want you to know.

You do not need to become normal to be chosen by a good man.

You need to become anchored.
Anchored in self worth.
Anchored in self expression.
Anchored in standards you actually keep when chemistry shows up.

You decide who you are.
You decide who you want to attract.

Because you are the expert of your own needs, you can identify what kind of love actually fits you and what kind of life can hold you

I’m not here to be the authority over your truth.

I’m a mirror.

I reflect your patterns, your words, and your standards back to you until what you want and how you’re living finally matches.

And yes, this work requires bravery.

But you’ve been brave your whole life.

DM me FULL for a gifted coaching session.
On the house, my treat. No strings attached.
Come experience your mirror.

08/19/2025

The words you whisper to yourself when no one is watching are shaping everything about your life.

They are guiding the way you show up in love
They are deciding how far you rise in your career
They are even influencing how much money you allow yourself to receive

Most people never stop to notice the dialogue running inside of them. They wonder why they feel heavy, why opportunities slip away, or why they keep second guessing themselves.

I want to give you the gift of awareness. I am offering a gifted 60 minute self talk audit. Together we will uncover the voice that has been directing your choices and open the door to a new language within you that lifts instead of limits.

If your heart knows it is time to stop fighting with yourself and start building a relationship with yourself that feels like home, send me a message with the words self talk.

06/27/2025

What you’re not changing, you’re choosing.

If you’ve known me for 20 years, 8 years, or even just 1, you’ve noticed one thing about me: I change.

I invest more in my mindset and beliefs than anything else because when you change your perspective, you change your life.

Life is short. I refuse to spend my precious days living as an extension of other people.

My life has been abundant for a long time and I still change because there is too much to experience to stay the same.

This is what I value most and the quickest way to uncover the comfortable lies that keep you stuck is through coaching.

Therapy is beautiful. It helps you feel heard, understood, and heal old wounds. Coaching is different. It is about becoming the woman or man you know you are capable of being. It is about going all in on yourself and your life. It is about showing up brave and fully alive so you can create the relationships and life you truly want.

Whether you have a tangible goal like making more money or an emotional goal like living more authentically, coaching sets you up to actually do it.

I am offering a gifted coaching session so you can see just how much can shift in 60 minutes.

Happy Friday,
Dece

06/01/2025

Meet the Sterlings ✨

I legally changed my name to
Dece Sterling.

My husband is now Al Sterling.
And my son is now Henry Sterling.

If you have been following my work for the last seven years, you already know how much I care about the relationship we have with ourselves.

Self-awareness.

Identity.

The power to choose who we become instead of living out a version of ourselves handed to us by others.

So I took what I believe a step further.

I spent over a thousand dollars
Filed every document
And put a new name to the identity I have consciously grown into.

My old name was beautiful
My ancestors are honored
And I carry their strength with me

But I believe in evolution
I believe in choosing
I believe that words, names, and titles shape the story we live by

Dece Sterling started as an alter ego
And now she is fully me

Thank you for witnessing my journey
Thank you for walking with me

Cheers to 2025,
Dece Sterling

04/02/2025

Can you imagine how easy it would be to pursue what you truly want in life if you had a relationship like this?

You wake up in a peaceful, intentional home.
Sunlight pours in. There’s no chaos. No rushing.
Your day unfolds on your terms.

𝗬𝗼𝘂 𝗳𝗲𝗲𝗹 𝗰𝗮𝗹𝗺.

𝗖𝗹𝗲𝗮𝗿.

𝗙𝗼𝗰𝘂𝘀𝗲𝗱.

You move through your morning slowly,
Savoring your coffee.
Not replaying yesterday.
Not bracing for tomorrow.
In the present that you can feel each breath moving through your nose.

Then you hear a voice say:
“𝗚𝗼𝗼𝗱 𝗺𝗼𝗿𝗻𝗶𝗻𝗴, 𝗺𝘆 𝗹𝗼𝘃𝗲. 𝗜’𝗺 𝘀𝗼 𝗽𝗿𝗼𝘂𝗱 𝗼𝗳 𝘆𝗼𝘂. 𝗜 𝗹𝗼𝘃𝗲 𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝗹𝗶𝗳𝗲.”

And again, later when things didn't work out as planned for you:

“𝗣𝗲𝗿𝗳𝗲𝗰𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻 𝗶𝘀 𝗻𝗼𝘁 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗽𝗿𝗶𝗰𝗲 𝗼𝗳 𝗺𝘆 𝗹𝗼𝘃𝗲. 𝗜’𝘃𝗲 𝗴𝗼𝘁 𝘆𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝗯𝗮𝗰𝗸, 𝗮𝗹𝘄𝗮𝘆𝘀.”

You soften.
Not because life is perfect, but because you’re held, so you :

✢ You move through the hard things with clarity.
✢ You pursue the big things with boldness.
✢ You trust your timing, your decisions, and your capacity.

𝗬𝗼𝘂 𝗱𝗼𝗻’𝘁 𝘄𝗮𝗶𝘁 𝘁𝗼 𝗳𝗲𝗲𝗹 𝘄𝗼𝗿𝘁𝗵𝘆. 𝗬𝗼𝘂 𝗺𝗼𝘃𝗲 𝗹𝗶𝗸𝗲 𝘀𝗼𝗺𝗲𝗼𝗻𝗲 𝘄𝗵𝗼 𝗮𝗹𝗿𝗲𝗮𝗱𝘆 𝗶𝘀.

And just when you think this must be the kind of love you’ve been waiting for…

You realize: 𝘁𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝘃𝗼𝗶𝗰𝗲 𝗶𝘀 𝘆𝗼𝘂𝗿𝘀.

The partner you've been craving?
The one who sees you, roots for you, validates you, and stays?
It was always meant to be you.

𝗧𝗵𝗶𝘀 𝗶𝘀 𝘄𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝘄𝗲 𝗯𝘂𝗶𝗹𝗱 𝘁𝗼𝗴𝗲𝘁𝗵𝗲𝗿.

A living, breathing relationship with yourself that becomes the source of your confidence, peace, emotional stability, and magnetic leadership.
And it doesn’t take years to feel.
My clients experience the shift within the first few sessions.

❥ They speak with more certainty.
❥ Make aligned decisions without spiraling.
❥ Feel energized and focused again.
❥They stop contorting, stop
performing, and stop outsourcing their power.

But here’s what’s costing you every day you don’t do this work:

*You're still negotiating your needs to keep the peace.

*You're still holding back, afraid your ambition will be “too much.”

*You're still looking for certainty outside of yourself before taking action.

*You’re still leaking energy in the gap between what you know and what you live.

Maybe you’ve been in therapy.
You’ve gained insight.
You’re self-aware.

But the 𝗲𝗺𝗯𝗼𝗱𝗶𝗲𝗱 𝘀𝗵𝗶𝗳𝘁 still isn’t happening.

That’s not a failure , it’s a signal.

𝗧𝗵𝗲𝗿𝗮𝗽𝘆 𝗵𝗲𝗹𝗽𝘀 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝘂𝗻𝗱𝗲𝗿𝘀𝘁𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝘀𝘁𝗼𝗿𝘆.

𝗖𝗼𝗮𝗰𝗵𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗵𝗲𝗹𝗽𝘀 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝗿𝗲𝘄𝗿𝗶𝘁𝗲 𝗶𝘁.

This is for the woman who knows who she wants to become
and is done talking about her.

She’s ready to 𝗯𝗲 her.

You already know the vision.
I’m here to help you live it.

- To make your inner voice your home.
- To move from self-awareness to self-devotion.

Change sticks when it’s felt, practiced, and emotionally encoded.

That’s the work we do: on purpose, with precision, and at the pace your future requires.

This is a sacred, strategic 5-month one-on-one coaching transformation.

It’s $4,600.

And it’s designed for those who are ready to build an unshakable relationship with the one person they’ll never live a day without:
𝘁𝗵𝗲𝗺𝘀𝗲𝗹𝘃𝗲𝘀.

DM me “HOME” if your soul is ready to be chosen by you.

We’ll talk.

We’ll feel.

We’ll see if this is the beginning of your next becoming.

With devotion,
Denette

04/02/2025

When your inner dialogue works for you rather than against you

You stop needing validation. You validate yourself.

You stop waiting to feel worthy, you just start taking the steps.

You stop seeking acceptance. You’ve become an expert of looking at all parts of yourself.

You don’t need to be understood or appreciated to feel at peace.
You act from love, not from a grip on outcomes.

This is what self-trust creates.

So ask yourself how would your life, your work, and your marriage feel if this was your new baseline of living ?

That’s the transformation we create together.

And honestly,

What could possibly matter more than learning how to stand strong in your own presence?

03/21/2025

What if everything you’ve been chasing; the success, the love, the impact... was never the real purpose? What if the real purpose has always been you?

So many people spend their lives chasing purpose through careers, relationships, family roles, even social status.

But despite all the doing, all the striving…

➲ 𝟗𝟎𝟎 𝐦𝐢𝐥𝐥𝐢𝐨𝐧 𝐩𝐞𝐨𝐩𝐥𝐞 𝐰𝐨𝐫𝐥𝐝𝐰𝐢𝐝𝐞 𝐟𝐞𝐞𝐥 𝐮𝐧𝐟𝐮𝐥𝐟𝐢𝐥𝐥𝐞𝐝

➲ 𝟕𝟎% 𝐨𝐟 𝐰𝐨𝐫𝐤𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐀𝐦𝐞𝐫𝐢𝐜𝐚𝐧𝐬 𝐚𝐫𝐞 𝐮𝐧𝐡𝐚𝐩𝐩𝐲 𝐢𝐧 𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐢𝐫 𝐣𝐨𝐛𝐬

➲ And only 𝟒𝟕% 𝐫𝐞𝐩𝐨𝐫𝐭 𝐛𝐞𝐢𝐧𝐠 “𝐯𝐞𝐫𝐲 𝐬𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐬𝐟𝐢𝐞𝐝” 𝐰𝐢𝐭𝐡 𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐢𝐫 𝐩𝐞𝐫𝐬𝐨𝐧𝐚𝐥 𝐥𝐢𝐯𝐞𝐬

Do you see the pattern?

We keep chasing things outside of us...

And it keeps leaving us 𝐬𝐞𝐜𝐨𝐧𝐝-𝐠𝐮𝐞𝐬𝐬𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐩𝐚𝐭𝐡, 𝐟𝐞𝐞𝐥𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐝𝐢𝐬𝐜𝐨𝐧𝐧𝐞𝐜𝐭𝐞𝐝 𝐟𝐫𝐨𝐦 𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐩𝐮𝐫𝐩𝐨𝐬𝐞, 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐰𝐨𝐧𝐝𝐞𝐫𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐰𝐡𝐲 𝐰𝐞’𝐫𝐞 𝐬𝐭𝐢𝐥𝐥 𝐧𝐨𝐭 𝐩𝐫𝐨𝐮𝐝 𝐨𝐟 𝐨𝐮𝐫𝐬𝐞𝐥𝐯𝐞𝐬.

✨ Imagine an alternate way to look at life:

𝐘𝐨𝐮 𝐰𝐞𝐫𝐞 𝐧𝐞𝐯𝐞𝐫 𝐦𝐞𝐚𝐧𝐭 𝐭𝐨 𝐟𝐢𝐧𝐝 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐩𝐮𝐫𝐩𝐨𝐬𝐞 𝐢𝐧 𝐬𝐨𝐦𝐞𝐭𝐡𝐢𝐧𝐠.

You were meant to find it in yourself.

Your life, your one, sacred, beautiful life is not happening “out there”.
It’s happening in you.

What if the entire reason you’re here is to know you?

Ancient philosophers said it long ago: “𝐊𝐧𝐨𝐰 𝐭𝐡𝐲𝐬𝐞𝐥𝐟.”

And modern research confirms it:
A Harvard study found that 𝐡𝐢𝐠𝐡 𝐬𝐞𝐥𝐟-𝐚𝐰𝐚𝐫𝐞𝐧𝐞𝐬𝐬 𝐢𝐬 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐬𝐭𝐫𝐨𝐧𝐠𝐞𝐬𝐭 𝐩𝐫𝐞𝐝𝐢𝐜𝐭𝐨𝐫 𝐨𝐟 𝐬𝐮𝐜𝐜𝐞𝐬𝐬 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐟𝐮𝐥𝐟𝐢𝐥𝐥𝐦𝐞𝐧𝐭.

So no matter what path you take; whether you become a scientist, a stay-at-home mom, a coach, or a prison guard

there’s only one common thread:

☒ If you’re not learning yourself and evolving along the way, you suffer.

☒ If you keep blaming others/circumstances instead of adjusting inwardly, you repeat the same problems.

☒ If you abandon yourself to meet expectations, you disconnect from your soul.

Because your soul doesn’t want more things.
It wants you.

✢ Your truth
✢ Your alignment
✢ Your peace
✢ Your fulfillment

That’s why I do this work.

Not because it’s trendy.
But because it’s the only thing that’s sustainable for a lifetime.

The most important work you’ll ever do for yourself, your family, your kids, your business, your impact, starts with you.

But the longer you delay it...

The more deeply you become entangled in the mask

The survival patterns

The inner voice that doesn’t partner with you, but works against you

🌹That’s why I offer 𝐟𝐢𝐯𝐞 𝐦𝐨𝐧𝐭𝐡𝐬 𝐨𝐟 𝐢𝐧𝐭𝐢𝐦𝐚𝐭𝐞, 𝐢𝐧𝐝𝐢𝐯𝐢𝐝𝐮𝐚𝐥𝐢𝐳𝐞𝐝 𝐜𝐨𝐚𝐜𝐡𝐢𝐧𝐠.

Imagine:

✨ One hour each week, fully devoted to mastering yourself.
✨ A space where you are safe, seen, and supported.
✨ A space where the right questions guide you to the answers you’ve carried all along.
✨ A space where your relationship with yourself becomes so healthy,
so alive, so loving
𝐢𝐭 𝐜𝐨𝐮𝐥𝐝 𝐛𝐞 𝐦𝐨𝐝𝐞𝐥𝐞𝐝 𝐢𝐧 𝐚 𝐫𝐨𝐦𝐚𝐧𝐭𝐢𝐜 𝐦𝐨𝐯𝐢𝐞.

This isn’t surface work.
It’s not for everyone.
☹️Some will keep waiting for life to get easier.
☹️Some will keep outsourcing their power.
☹️ Some will stay stuck in the illusion that success is external.

But not you.
❥You want to live intentionally.
❥ You want to build your life by design, not default.
❥ You want to live by your values, and your heart’s desires.
❥ You want fulfillment, peace, and alignment- 𝐝𝐨𝐰𝐧 𝐭𝐨 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐥𝐚𝐬𝐭 𝐝𝐞𝐭𝐚𝐢𝐥.
And for that...
I’m your partner.
You already have the wisdom.
I help you uncover it, trust it, and live by it.

With deep respect and much vision,
Denette

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