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Daily Parenting Support & Inspiration from Lisa Howe, MSW, Certified Peaceful Parenting Coach But we don’t get that as parents! This is where I come in.

It has been my experience that parenting is the hardest job there is! I know that is also true of the parents I work with and others I talk with in the community. I am always reminded that any other job we have provides us with training, support, and often a mentor to help us learn the ropes, figure out what to do, and how to handle tricky situations. While new parents do get advice from others, often before the baby is even born, and while there are aisles of parenting books available, how do you separate the good advice from the bad? And how do you find time to read all those books? Or perhaps you have already read the books but struggle with putting the ideas into practice? I am a parenting coach who has the education, experience, and knowledge to be that mentor to you as you navigate the unpredictable waters of parenting. I have taken the classes, read the books, the evidence-based education, and have the insight, strength, and hope to share from not only my own family but also others I have worked with thus far.

11/02/2025

Here’s some empathy in action thanks to a client who shared a win! This is such a beautiful example of transitioning out of a really fun experience which you can apply to any situation where leaving is hard.

“On Friday, when Halloween was wrapping up, my son (age 4) was very sad, and the crying began. I walked him into the kitchen, said “I’m here for you” and waited a moment. I tried really hard not to say “Well, we get to come back another time” (solution before feeling).. Then I said “You’re really sad trick or treating is over. It’s such a bummer when something so fun is over” and we left in some tears, but no extreme emotional outburst. “It’s okay to feel sad” was met with some chuckles by the elders, as expected, and we made it to the car. He strapped himself in and stopped crying. Then he looked at me and said “I wish there was a magic button and we could start this whole Halloween over.” I said, “Me too baby” and we drove away talking about how much we had and what kind of magical machines we could make to rewind time.”

10/31/2025

This amazing infographic from MindLaunchers is what we really need for today. All people, children and adults, have executive function strengths and challenges. If you have learning differences or ADHD, etc, you will find you struggle more with these skills.

Days like today place a lot of demands on children and adults. Expectations are high. Lots of plans are happening. School aged kids may be feeling nervous or worried about wearing their costume to school. What will other kids say or do? Schedules are often thrown off. Extra parties or staying up late!

Let’s all show each other extra grace, empathy, love, and patience. Holidays are amazing but also require extra support and flexibility for all of us.

10/23/2025

This is what it's like in our house in the morning when our 13 year old with ADHD is "getting ready for school right now, I swear!"

Watching a carbon copy of myself navigate the world is a wild, hilarious, and humbling adventure.

09/30/2025

My mother died unexpectedly just five months after my father died suddenly. It's complicated. Read more at the link in the comments.

💕

09/04/2025

I'm so thrilled to share this wonderful upcoming opportunity with my friend and colleague !

08/24/2025

My teen challenged me to ride the snake on the carousel today for "exposure therapy" since I am terrified of them.

Our kids are internalizing what we teach them all the time.

Anxiety is no joke. If your kids are struggling with it, you're not alone. Reach out.

07/30/2025

When our young teen hasn’t had camp this summer, I’ve been writing them a “honey do list” for the day. We strive for a balance of important tasks to accomplish working towards a larger goal, things that bring them joy, time outside, rest, and their daily contributions to the family.

They have ADHD so breaking up non-preferred tasks with mini rewards are super helpful to keep them on track and motivated although this approach works for all kinds of brains.

This morning, when they asked me about their list, I said I think you should put your own list together today. They did a fantastic job.

kids do well when they can, and if they aren’t doing well, they need more support.

Sometimes the support can be as simple as a structured list like this.

Have you ever tried something like this?

06/09/2025

Hey parents! Are your kids out of school yet? What is working, and what isn’t?

Thanks for the funny

06/07/2025

Is there anything more humbling than parenting?

I don’t think so.

Raising humans is hard on the best of days, but it’s been especially hard since my dad died. I am trying to navigate grief, untangle the logistical nightmare of his state, work full-time, run a business, and parenting an almost teenager at the end of 7th grade.

I haven’t been offering myself as much grace as I would offer anyone reading this.

So that’s where I’m starting. I am doing a great job.

So are you. And you. And you.

I wrote something on applying The Four Agreements to parenting yesterday morning and then proceeded to break everyone one of them by the afternoon.

And you know what?

That’s okay. Turns out I’m very human after all.

Sending us all a big hug.

🥰

Link in comments!

06/03/2025

If you are unsure about how to handle discussions about sexuality and gender with your children or grandchildren, I've offered some practical suggestions here...

https://becomingpeaceful.substack.com/p/nurturing-everyone-affirming-parenting

06/01/2025

Happy Pride Month!

I am proudly a LGBTQIA+ affirming social worker and parenting coach. Many families are reaching out to help navigate conversations around gender and sexuality. I’m here to help support you and offer suggestions on how to approach these discussions with acceptance and love.

50% of all proceeds from coaching sessions this month will be donated to The Trevor Project who mission is to end su***de among LGBTQIA+ young people.

05/23/2025

Yesterday, I was helping a long time coaching client work through a situation with his son.

Generally, I only work with parents but will occasionally bring older kids in to help them see each other’s perspective.

It’s one thing for me to say to a parent, “I think what he really needed from you in that moment was support rather than problem solving” and it’s another thing altogether to create space for a child to ask for what they need.

I said to the son, “I heard you say it wasn’t helpful for you having dad try to make your feel better in that moment. Can you turn to him and tell him what you need the next time you’re in a situation like that?”

This 11 year old turned to his dad and said, "I just need you to stand there with me. Like a shield. A healing shield.” 🛡️

My eyes immediately filled the tears and so did the dad’s.

I paused to catch my breath.

Smiling through my tears, I said, “You got it, kiddo. That’s all of us ever really need when we are hurting. A healing shield.”

What a gift this father has given his son to be open to hear him ask for what he needs. It is a testament to the work this father has done and the kind of parent he is that his son sees him as a healing shield in the first place.

I’m so grateful to be able to support parents and these moments are such a gift for everyone.

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