06/07/2021
"fully grieve your losses
and also, let yourself feel
the full weight of your joys..." MHN
There is so much that surrounds the process of birth, and it be such a mixture of grief and joy. The importance to debrief and process through the events of birth, and work through the challenges is essential. If there is trauma, we need to name that, so we don't carry that with us into the new season ahead.
Debriefing a birth with my clients is one of my favourite meetings. Usually it's filling in gaps, answering questions, and letting go of disappointments. Then, we are able to celebrate the joys, the process and the beauty that was there through it all, even when at times it was hard to see.
Morgan Harper Nichols;
fully grieve your losses
and also, let yourself feel
the full weight of your joys.
if the conversation that night
felt like poetry,
then let it be poetry.
if their laughter
felt like music,
then let it be music.
let what is beautiful
be beautiful.
let it speak to you forever.
even if beautiful things
only ever seem to live in your memory,
as old photographs,
turning into closed-off portals
to a time you can never get back to you
may you know this to be true:
it’s really hard to fully notice
what is beautiful in real-time,
but when you look
you will find
it was real,
and your soul
still knows it.
so hold on to it
and trust:
there is still
more to come.
let joy be joy.
let what was beautiful
be beautiful.
even if it seems fleeting,
trust
you will find it again.
we tell ourselves
so many stories.
here’s to making room for
beautiful ones.