Therapy With Talia

Therapy With Talia Hi, I'm Talia (she/her), a gender-affirming, s*x-affirming, trauma-informed therapist.

11/26/2025

If your brain has ever turned one tiny interaction into a 27-step emotional flowchart… you’re in good company.

A lot of my anxious, intuitive, people-pleasing clients learned to run full mental simulations before they respond to anything — texts, emails, a casual “hey, can we talk?” It’s a pattern that usually comes from having to anticipate other people’s reactions for a long time.

In therapy, we slow it down. We get curious about the part of you that’s trying to keep things calm and predictable. And we explore what it feels like to respond from a more grounded place instead of a rehearsed one.

If this feels familiar, you’re not alone — and there’s nothing wrong with the way you learned to cope.

Follow for more anxious-gay-overthinker humor and gentle reminders that connection doesn’t require mental chess.

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10/30/2025

Second-guessing your intuition doesn’t mean it’s broken. It might just mean your nervous system has been on high alert for way too long.

In therapy, we get curious about the parts of you that learned to survive by double-checking everything. You’re not crazy, you’re cautious — and there’s wisdom in that, too.

✨You can rebuild trust with yourself. It just takes gentleness, time, and a whole lot of nervous system regulation.

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10/22/2025

When a client says, “Can I just read you the texts?” …that’s when my whole face lights up. Because therapy with me isn’t about being perfectly put together — it’s about bringing in the real stuff. The awkward texts, the spirals, the “should I say this or not?” moments.

I love sitting with people in the messy, human, beautifully honest parts of their lives. We can process, laugh, and untangle it together — no judgment, no masks, no pretending to be someone you’re not.

If you’ve ever wished for a therapist who can hold the deep and the ridiculous with you… we’ll probably get along just fine.
📅 Book a free intro call through the link in my bio. Let’s get into it.

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10/17/2025

Not everything you struggle with is a personal failing. Sometimes what you’re feeling is a response to very real harm. Therapy shouldn’t gaslight you into individualizing what’s systemic. In my work, we name the impact of oppression, honor your survival strategies, and make space for your truth without shame.
Follow for more liberation-focused, q***r-affirming therapy content.

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So many q***r and gender-expansive people already know who they are. What hurts is navigating a world that makes safety ...
10/15/2025

So many q***r and gender-expansive people already know who they are. What hurts is navigating a world that makes safety feel like it has to be bargained for.

Therapy can be a space to soften around that tension — to practice moving at your own pace, to hold both fear and hope, to explore what feels livable right now.

You deserve care that doesn’t demand proof of your identity, only honors your humanity. 🖤

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10/07/2025

Sometimes you don’t need a breakthrough—you just need a safe place to circle around the truth until you’re ready to meet it. Therapy isn’t about being “fixed” or perfectly self-aware; it’s about noticing your patterns with compassion.

If you’re tired of replaying the same dynamics but not sure where to start, that’s okay. We’ll take it slow—one honest conversation at a time.

🌈 Book a free 15-minute intro call through the link in my bio.
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Ever wondered if your attraction to the opposite s*x is genuine—or if it’s what you were told you should feel? That tug-...
10/01/2025

Ever wondered if your attraction to the opposite s*x is genuine—or if it’s what you were told you should feel? That tug-of-war is called compulsory heteros*xuality (comphet).

Comphet can leave you doubting your own desires, staying in relationships that don’t feel right, or carrying shame for not fitting into the straight script. It’s not that anything is wrong with you—it’s that you’ve been taught to mistrust your own truth.

Therapy offers a space to untangle those “shoulds” from your real desires, grieve what’s been lost to pretending, and begin trusting yourself again. Together, we can build the confidence and freedom to live in alignment with your authentic identity.
If you’re ready to explore this, I’d love to support you.

✨ Book a free 15-minute intro call through the link in my bio.

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05/29/2025

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Santa Barbara, CA
93101–93103, 93105–93111, 93116–93118, 93120–93121, 93130, 93140, 93150,

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