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Master all of your relationships. What are natural principles? Natural principles come from nature and have been a part of our makeup from the beginning of time.

No matter what type of relationship you’re in, whether it’s parent/child, romantic, or work-related, your relationship is governed by natural principles because, YOU are governed by natural principles and so is everyone else. Similar to instincts, these principles tend to govern the way human beings behave. They are underlying factors as to why we feel happy, fulfilled, anxious, or lonely. By understanding what is natural for a person, you can work in harmony with them. When we don’t understand what is natural, we are more likely to make mistakes. For almost twenty years, people have been coming to me when they need help. They come when their spouse is leaving them, when their kids won’t listen, or when they are unhappy in their life and need a change. The way I help every person is unique to their situation, but the paradigm I use is always the same. I use Natural Principles. It is my hope that by sharing these principles with you, you will have a road map that can keep your relationships strong as well as guide you in knowing what to adjust when you run into trouble.

11/13/2025

Do you ever wish the other person would just change—so your relationship could finally feel easier?
It’s a tempting thought. But here’s the truth: trying to change someone usually leads to resistance, not growth. The real power lies in shifting the pattern, not the person.
Psychologists call this systemic influence—when you change your part, the whole system changes. For example, if you stop over-explaining and calmly state your boundary once, the loop of endless arguments can fade.
You don’t need to rewire someone’s personality. You only need to interrupt the rhythm that keeps repeating. Sometimes the smallest shift—staying calm instead of snapping back, pausing instead of pursuing—creates ripple effects.
It’s like dancing: if you change your step, the other person can’t keep moving the same way.
The goal isn’t to make somebody be someone they’re not. It’s to create a healthier pattern where both of you can relax and connect.
If you’d like a step-by-step program that shows you exactly how to shift patterns in your relationships—without pushing, fixing, or fighting—you’ll find it at NaturalRelationships.com.

11/12/2025

Some relationships fade slowly. Others fall apart fast. And sometimes, even the ones you poured your whole heart into… don’t last.
That doesn’t mean they were a waste. It doesn’t mean you failed. It means they ran their course but there is always something we can learn from each one.
Even the hardest relationships can teach us something valuable. What you want. What you won’t accept again. Where you’ve grown. Where you're still learning.
The goal isn’t to hold on to everyone forever. The goal is to become more aligned, more self-aware, more honest — through every connection you have.
Have you ever looked back and realized a short or painful relationship taught you something important? Feel free to share. Your reflection might help someone else see their experience in a new light.

11/11/2025

📣 NEW COURSE: Never Fight Again
What if conflict didn’t have to tear you apart — but could actually bring you closer?
Most people were never taught how to resolve disagreements in a healthy way. So we yell. Or shut down. Or give in…
It doesn’t have to be that way.
In my self-study course Never Fight Again, I’ll show you exactly how to:
✅ Stay calm during conflict
✅ Be heard without fighting
✅ Repair trust after an argument
✅ Set boundaries without guilt
✅ And finally feel safe and respected in your relationship
This isn’t talk therapy. It’s a practical, step-by-step process based on what I’ve taught for 25+ years as a licensed marriage and family therapist.
You go at your own pace. And you don’t have to wait for the other person to change.
Real peace starts with new skills. And you can learn them.
14 videos
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11/10/2025

We’ve all been told, “You just need to communicate,” as if more talking could magically fix everything. But the truth is, sometimes people talk too much —or in unhealthy ways, and talk themselves right into a pit.
They communicate about the problem.
They communicate about the past.
They communicate about the same issue from seventeen different angles — and the more they talk, the deeper the hole gets.
It’s not that communication doesn’t matter — it’s that how you communicate matters more than how much. When people don’t know how to communicate well, talking more just multiplies mistakes.
Real communication isn’t endless conversation about what’s wrong. It’s about listening for what needs to change — and then changing it.
So before you launch into another marathon discussion, pause. Ask yourself if you’re solving the problem and finding solutions or just beating a horse that’s already dead.
The truth is, communication alone doesn’t fix everything. But learning to communicate well — clearly, calmly, and with intention — can change everything.
Learn how to communicate in a way that actually works at NaturalRelationships.com.

11/09/2025

It’s no secret that blending two families can be a struggle. Mine was no different—for many years there were arguments, misunderstandings, and hurt feelings.
The truth is, most families struggle. Especially blended ones. It’s common to feel divided, to carry resentment, or to replay old wounds. Even adult children sometimes stay upset with aging parents for mistakes made long ago. But the truth is—there are always mistakes. No one gets through family life without some.
Then I went to a workshop where we were asked to acknowledge someone we’d never properly thanked. I realized I had never told my stepdad thank you—for staying with our family, for working every day, for loving my mother, and for always supporting us in having animals.
When I finally said it, it was sincere. I had spent years focused on the harsh words and tones, but I decided to give credit where it was due. And it was true. He had done all those things.
And just like that, everything changed. It was as if we had both been waiting for a chance, and two simple words—thank you—gave us that chance. From that moment on, our relationship never went backward. It even made things better for my mom, who no longer had to feel caught in the middle.
Here’s what changed: I stopped waiting for our family to be perfect before acknowledging what was real. Gratitude didn’t erase the hard parts—it just stopped letting them be the whole story.
Sometimes the most powerful thing you can say is thank you—not because everything is perfect, or because what wasn’t okay is now okay—but because some things are true and worth naming.
If there’s someone you’ve never properly thanked, I’d encourage you to do it. Gratitude has a way of softening walls built by years of silence and reminding both people that there’s still goodness between them.
If you want to learn how gratitude and acknowledgment can transform your relationships, visit NaturalRelationships.com.

11/08/2025

Have you ever felt the energy shift when you walk into a room?
That’s real.

Horses feel it, too.
Research from the HeartMath Institute shows that horses can sense your heartbeat from up to
four feet away — without needing to see or touch you. They pick up on your nervous system
through your breath, your heart rhythm, your presence.

And humans? Did you know we’re wired the same way?

Studies have shown that people unconsciously sync heart rates, breathing patterns, and even
brain waves during emotional connection. One study from UC Davis found that couples’ hearts
actually aligned in rhythm during meaningful conversation. Researchers have observed
physiological entrainment — where posture, tone, and emotion ripple through the room.

So when you hear “energy is contagious,” it’s not just poetic.
It’s science.

If you want to create connection — at home, at work, or with your partner — your energy is one
of the most powerful tools you have.

Before you enter a tense room, ground yourself.
What kind of energy are you bringing into the space today?

If you want a step-by-step program that helps you master your energy and create steady, safe
relationships — the kind that feel calm and connected — you’ll find it at
NaturalRelationships.com.

11/07/2025

It’s one of the most common myths I hear.
And I get it.
We all want to feel seen — without having to spell everything out.
But here’s the truth: no matter how much someone loves you, they’re not a mind reader.
They’ve lived a different life than you. They have different instincts, experiences, and ways of showing love. So when we expect them to “just know,” it often leads to disappointment — and unnecessary distance.
But here’s the part we forget: most people want to make you happy.
They want to get it right.
Not because they owe it to you — but because everyone has a survival instinct and a natural drive to succeed. That includes relationships. I want to succeed, and I’m guessing you do too.
But if you don’t say what you need, they don’t just miss the mark — they miss the chance to show up for you.
Clear communication isn’t a sign that love is missing.
It’s a sign that the relationship matters enough to take care of it.
Start here:
Use “I” statements: “I feel… I want…”
Make direct requests: “Would you please…”
If they say yes, say thank you. If they say no, stay calm — and ask for something else.
It won’t guarantee you get everything you want.
But it gives love a real chance to grow.

11/06/2025

It’s easy to see when someone else is blocking connection. But harder to see when the blocker… is us.
We all do it sometimes. Maybe we get defensive. Maybe we shut down. Maybe we use sarcasm instead of saying how we really feel. These small moves quietly build walls where we wanted bridges.
Research by The Gottman Institute shows that defensiveness is one of the strongest predictors of relationship breakdown. But here’s the empowering part: once you recognize your own blockers, you can change them.
Ask yourself:
Do I listen to understand, or to defend?
Do I withdraw when things feel tense?
Do I criticize instead of making a clear request?
Noticing doesn’t mean blaming yourself. It means getting curious about your part—because that’s where your power is. When you remove your own blocks, you make it easier for others to meet you halfway.
Connection is a two-way street. Sometimes the fastest way to open it is to clear your side of the road.
If you’d like to learn the step-by-step tools that help you stay open, grounded, and connected—even when things get tense—you’ll find them at NaturalRelationships.com.

11/05/2025

Staying quiet can feel like the mature thing to do. You don’t want to make a big deal out of it. You don’t want to stir things up. So you let it slide — again.
But over time, silence sends a message. To the people around you, yes — but more importantly, to yourself. It says: “What I feel isn’t important.” It says: “I don’t want to risk the connection, even if I have to lose a little more of me to keep it.” That’s not harmony. That’s self-abandonment dressed up as peace.
Your voice matters. Speaking up doesn’t mean confrontation. It means being in alignment with yourself and giving others the opportunity to truly know you. You can be honest and kind at the same time. And every time you speak up with clarity and care, you build trust — not just with yourself, but with other people, too.
Have you ever regretted staying silent when something really mattered to you?
You’re not alone — and it’s never too late to start choosing your voice.

11/03/2025

If you’ve ever felt like setting boundaries pushes people away, you’re not alone — but I don’t agree.
Boundaries don’t push people away; they show people where it’s safe to stand. When there’s no clear space between you and someone else — emotionally or physically — it can start to feel unstable. One minute you’re fine, the next you’re upset, and people start to feel like you’re a moving target. That unpredictability makes others anxious, because most people feel safest when they know where they stand with you.
Healthy boundaries create that steadiness. They define the space that keeps everyone calmer and more connected. And the people who are good at holding their own boundaries will recognize and respect yours — because they understand that boundaries are a two-way street.
The truth is, people don’t walk away because you have boundaries. They walk away when there aren’t any — when they keep bumping into your limits, guessing wrong, and finally giving up trying to figure out where it’s safe to stand.
Learn how to set clear, confident boundaries at NaturalRelationships.com.

11/02/2025

One of my earliest memories is holding onto my mother's leg, screaming, as she tried to leave me at Sunday school. I can still remember the panic—that gripping feeling of don't leave me. By the time she came back, I'd had a nice time. But in that moment, when she turned to walk away, I was terrified. All these years later, I still remember it.
That kind of fear doesn't come from logic; it comes from instinct. People are mammals. We're wired for connection. When that bond feels threatened, the body goes into alarm—like a puppy that cries when its owner walks out the door.
Abandonment issues are real, even in adults. That's why, if you step out during an argument, it's so important to say, "I'm coming back." Those three words can change everything. They calm the nervous system. They stop the other person from chasing, clinging, or panicking. Even if someone appears calm on the surface, remember—people need reassurance.
Don't mistake separation anxiety for bad behavior. It's not defiance. It's biology.
If you want to learn how to recognize the signs of separation anxiety and solve conflict without stress, visit NaturalRelationships.com.

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