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Master all of your relationships. What are natural principles? Natural principles come from nature and have been a part of our makeup from the beginning of time.

No matter what type of relationship you’re in, whether it’s parent/child, romantic, or work-related, your relationship is governed by natural principles because, YOU are governed by natural principles and so is everyone else. Similar to instincts, these principles tend to govern the way human beings behave. They are underlying factors as to why we feel happy, fulfilled, anxious, or lonely. By understanding what is natural for a person, you can work in harmony with them. When we don’t understand what is natural, we are more likely to make mistakes. For almost twenty years, people have been coming to me when they need help. They come when their spouse is leaving them, when their kids won’t listen, or when they are unhappy in their life and need a change. The way I help every person is unique to their situation, but the paradigm I use is always the same. I use Natural Principles. It is my hope that by sharing these principles with you, you will have a road map that can keep your relationships strong as well as guide you in knowing what to adjust when you run into trouble.

01/07/2026

True connection doesn't come from keeping things perfectly smooth on the surface. It comes from honesty. Harmony can feel peaceful in the short term, but when it's built on avoiding difficult conversations or sugar-coating reality, it slowly erodes trust. You might keep the peace, but you lose something deeper — the sense that you're truly being seen.
Here's what many people miss: honesty and harmony aren't opposites. In fact, real harmony grows stronger when it's built on truth. You can speak clearly without being cruel. You can say what's true without judgment, blame, or drama. Being honest doesn't mean being harsh — the key is how you deliver the truth. Honesty, spoken with neutrality and respect, builds trust rather than tearing it down.
Sometimes we avoid telling the truth because we're afraid of how someone will react. But when we do that, are we really protecting them? Or are we trying to control their response? That's not protection — it's control. Instead, stick to the facts. Be direct. Trust the relationship enough to tell the truth, and trust the other person enough to let them have whatever response they do. Give them the dignity of their own reaction.
The beautiful paradox is that these moments of vulnerable honesty often create the very connection we were afraid we'd lose by speaking up.
Have you ever said something that felt risky to say, only to find it actually brought you closer?

01/06/2026

📣 NEW COURSE: Never Fight Again
What if conflict didn’t have to tear you apart — but could actually bring you closer?
Most people were never taught how to resolve disagreements in a healthy way. So we yell. Or shut down. Or give in…
It doesn’t have to be that way.
In my self-study course Never Fight Again, I’ll show you exactly how to:
✅ Stay calm during conflict
✅ Be heard without fighting
✅ Repair trust after an argument
✅ Set boundaries without guilt
✅ And finally feel safe and respected in your relationship
This isn’t talk therapy. It’s a practical, step-by-step process based on what I’ve taught for 25+ years as a licensed marriage and family therapist.
You go at your own pace. And you don’t have to wait for the other person to change.
Real peace starts with new skills. And you can learn them.
14 videos
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01/05/2026

If you’ve ever thought love should feel the same forever, you’re not alone — but that’s not how life or love work.
My husband and I met when I was seventeen. He went to the Gulf War; I was diagnosed with Hodgkin’s lymphoma cancer. We’ve had incredible years — trips to Hawaii, scuba diving, climbing Half Dome, visiting friends. And we’ve had hard ones — my heart valve failed, he had a stroke, (we’re both ok for the moment) we’ve lost two of his parents, and now I’m learning the joys of menopause.
Life is a roller coaster. And love, like nature, has seasons. The intoxicating chemistry that once felt electric often softens into something deeper — steadier, quieter, but no less real. In my experience, love that lasts doesn’t stay the same on the surface; but it deepens through life’s changes.
I like to say love is like a w**d. When it’s rooted deep, it can survive almost anything. Some seasons, it’s lush and full of color. Other times, it looks dry, tired, maybe even half dead. But that doesn’t mean it’s gone. Roots are strong, still alive, and ready to grow again when the season changes next.
The truth is, love doesn’t often feel the same forever. It grows.
Learn how to keep your connection alive through every season at NaturalRelationships.com.

01/03/2026

In horse training, there’s something called the emergency dismount. If things get too wild in the
saddle, the safest move isn’t to hold on tighter—it’s to get off.

The same principle applies to relationships. Sometimes conversations get so heated, nothing
good will come from staying in the moment. Voices rise, defenses flare, emotions run too hot. If
you keep pushing forward, someone is likely to get hurt.

That’s when it’s wise to “dismount.” Step away. Take a breath. Call a timeout. Not as a way of
avoiding the issue, but as a way of protecting the relationship so you can return when both of
you are calmer.

Think about it: have you ever said something in the heat of the moment that you later regretted?
Most of us have. Pressing pause could have saved both the words and the wound.

A true sign of strength isn’t staying in the storm at all costs—it’s knowing when to step back so
connection can be restored later.

If you want a step-by-step program that teaches you how to handle tough moments like
these—moving piece by piece from conflict to clarity—you’ll find it at NaturalRelationships.com.

01/02/2026

Blame can feel satisfying in the short term. It can give us a reason, a target, a place to put our pain.
“They did this.”
“It’s their fault.”
And sometimes, it’s even true.
But staying in blame keeps you stuck.
Blame focuses on the past — what someone else did — instead of what you can do now. And that’s where your power is: in your next step.
Responsibility is different. It’s not about guilt — it’s about agency. It’s the ability to respond. To choose what you’ll allow, how you’ll show up, and what you’ll change.
In nature, trees don’t blame the wind. They don’t waste energy wishing for better weather. They adapt. They grow deeper roots. They bend. And they survive.
That’s responsibility. Not because the wind is “right” — but because survival depends on response.
The same is true in relationships.
You can’t always control what happens to you — but you can decide what to do next.
Will you speak up?
Set a boundary?
Change a pattern?
Take a step toward healing?
Blame might feel like protection. But it keeps the story going.
Responsibility is what sets you free.
Where in your life could choosing responsibility help you feel more grounded — and less stuck?

01/01/2026

Most people want to inspire change in others but stumble because they use criticism as the tool. The problem is, criticism doesn’t create lasting change—it creates defensiveness. Think about it: when someone points out what you’re doing wrong, do you feel motivated or do you feel small? Most of us shut down.
Change happens best when people feel safe enough to grow. That means shifting from tearing down to building up. Instead of saying, “You never listen,” try, “It would mean a lot to me if you could hear me out before responding.” Notice the difference? One points a finger, the other extends an invitation.
In relationships—whether with partners, kids, coworkers, or even horses—growth comes from clarity, not criticism. Horses don’t learn when they’re attacked; they learn when cues are given with fairness and praised with timing. People are similar. People thrive when guidance is clear, respectful, and delivered with calm confidence.
If you’re ready to learn how to guide growth without criticism—and create relationships that bring out the best in everyone—visit NaturalRelationships.com.

12/31/2025

Tension in a relationship can feel like a red flag. But what if it’s actually a sign of growth? Maybe nothing’s broken. Maybe something’s stretching.
Growth often brings friction. That uncomfortable feeling might be the beginning of change — not the end of the connection. Most people back away when things feel tight or awkward. But those are often the moments where something new is forming: a deeper understanding, a better boundary, a more honest way of showing up. If you avoid tension, you might avoid transformation too.
Have you ever noticed that what felt like a breakdown at first… turned out to be a breakthrough? What do you think?

12/29/2025

If you’ve ever thought avoiding conflict keeps the peace, you’re not alone — but that’s not peace; that’s avoidance.
Conflict isn’t the problem. It’s a signal — a sign that something needs to change. When we don’t know how to navigate it, we tend to avoid it, hoping it will fade on its own. Sometimes it does fade, but often it doesn’t. Avoiding conflict is like sweeping dust under a rug — it looks clean until someone takes a step.
The good news is that conflict simply means that something needs to change and navigating change successfully can be learned. When you know how to communicate clearly and calmly, looking for solutions for the present or the future, conflict becomes an opportunity for repair, not destruction. And it’s usually much simpler than people think — once you learn the steps.
The truth is, avoiding conflict doesn’t protect peace — it prevents it.
Learn how to handle conflict simply and calmly at NaturalRelationships.com.

12/27/2025

In relationships, we often think we have to say more or do more to make things better. But
sometimes the most powerful thing you can offer is your calm presence. No fixing. No lecturing.
Just being there.

Here’s why it works: our bodies are wired to look for signs of safety. When someone feels your
steady presence, their nervous system often begins to settle. This is called co-regulation—it’s
what happens when one person’s calm helps another person calm down, too. You’ve probably
felt it before: just being near someone steady made you feel lighter.

The same is true in reverse. When you show up tense or critical, the other person’s defenses go
up. But when you show up steady, patient, and non-judging, it creates the space for connection
and repair.

Never underestimate the value of stillness. Sometimes your silence speaks louder than the best
speech. Sometimes your steady presence opens the door that words could never unlock.

If you’d like a step-by-step program that helps you build stronger, safer, healthier
relationships—piece by piece—you’ll find it at NaturalRelationships.com.

12/26/2025

Avoiding the truth doesn’t protect you from it.
Whether it’s a pattern in your partner, a behavior in yourself, or a problem you’ve been minimizing — change can’t start until you face it. And yet, facing it can feel threatening. It might mean admitting something isn’t working. That you need to shift. That someone else might never change.
Acknowledgment isn’t blame. It’s clarity.
It’s saying, “This is here.” Not because you like it — but because pretending it’s not there keeps you stuck.
In nature, when an animal is injured, they don’t keep moving like nothing happened. Instead, they slow down. They rest. They deal with the truth of their condition. That pause allows healing to begin.
Humans are no different. When we ignore what hurts — in ourselves or in our relationships — we delay the growth that’s trying to happen. Pain gets louder. Patterns repeat. And we stay in a loop we don’t even like.
You can’t change what you won’t acknowledge.
And the longer you avoid it, the more it costs you.
But when you tell the truth — especially to yourself — you take back your power.
What’s something you’ve been avoiding that might need your full attention?

12/25/2025

It’s natural to want to help the people you care about. But sometimes what feels like helping actually keeps them stuck. That’s called enabling.
Enabling happens when you protect someone from the natural consequences of their actions or do for them what they need to learn to do themselves. It often comes from love, but it ends in disempowering someone.
You might be enabling if you:
Fix, cover, or explain away someone’s repeated behavior.
Say yes when you really mean no.
Feel resentful, drained, or responsible for their happiness.
Real compassion doesn’t mean rescuing—it means respecting someone’s ability to grow. You can support without saving. You can care deeply and still say no.
When you stop enabling, you don’t abandon someone—you empower them. You give them the dignity of learning through their own experience.
If you’re ready to shift from rescuing to truly helping—with strength, kindness, and clarity—visit NaturalRelationships.com.

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