Diamond in the Rough Performance

11/04/2024

You're on your journey.

There are people in this life who live in the big house or have an incredible business. Everything looking in seems incredible. Yet they struggle with personal relationships or being happy.

Then, there are those who seem to physically have nothing yet at the emotional, mental, and relational level they are blessed.

Then there's everyone in between. No two people have experienced the same experiences in life. Your current position in your journey can not be comprehended by another. Whether it's you judging yourself or words that came from another, remember that for you, you're right where you need to be right now!

We focus so much on blocks and limiting beliefs holding us back from what we want. Many times, though, our biggest blocks to live the life we want are merely what we value!

If you want to know what you value, look at where in your life you are successful now.

Thechihila

03/01/2024

My wish is that everyone gets to die living!

"Most people tiptoe their way through life hoping to make it safely to death."
Earl Nightingale

Several days ago I was speaking with a friend of mine and the topic of "what is the meaning of life" came up.

I've spent a lot of waking hours alone, either sitting in the middle of, or working for, a critter. To some, this is one of the most profound places to connect with not only the earth but also whatever is higher than us.

I've chewed on the idea of the meaning of life many many times. My meaning has changed a few times but one of the meanings that I held for quite a long time is that life is about pursuing what makes you happy.

The pursuit of happiness! A movie or an idea? Whatever it is I believe it has inspired hope in many. To me though this is not the meaning of life.

Happiness is a choice, it's not something we get as a reward for toil. To me life is the pursuit of life. Choosing to be and find happiness, and then going after a life in a way that aligns us, with us.

Carl Jung developed the modern idea of our "Shadow." Which are the things we try to hide and disown within ourselves. Shadow work has a lot to do with removing the ego (death of the ego) so that the spirit might integrate, and become the highest version of itself.

What is spirit though? The best way I've heard it described is to imagine all the water in the ocean and then a cup of that water. All of the water is all of everything. The cup itself is our body. The cup and the water together form our soul, our unique character and personality. The water inside the cup is our spirit which even inside of the cup is still one with the ocean.

The Lakota teachings believe that anything with a shadow has a spirit... Now, that comes as an exert from a deeper idea and I'll leave you to decide your own meaning... But all life comes from the light!.. And it comes from the darkness.

Many many people go through life trying to fill their cup with things that are not them. We do jobs that we hate to support our families. We pour energy and intention into things that steal away from our happiness. Doing and owning just enough of ourselves to keep us living just enough to make it to death. Living to die.

When we start filling our cup up with ourselves again, that ocean water. When we start "Becoming" authentic to who we are, we find this alignment with self cleans the water again and we align with everyone. The displacement of what is not us, displaces the ideas that we should not be seen, that we can't all succeed.

This displacement is created by and replaced with... the idea we're all uniquely the same. For any of us to live we all get to (maybe even MUST) live.

I spent years living to die. After my body all but died from the way I wasn't living. I then chose to have the ability to allow who I wasn't to die so that I can now truly live. Only as myself can I truly serve.

Our biggest fear in life should not be the loss of things or even others. Our biggest fear in life should be the loss of ourselves.

If you've made it this far... I trust this has given you at least a little permission to own more of who you truly are and what you want so you may serve others by serving yourself. So that you might die living!

02/06/2024

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10/18/2023

09/26/2023

I have been really internalizing since about June and now feel compelled to share some.

The On Purpose Search of the Journey

Who you become on the way to what you want is by far more important than what you want. This has been reiterated over and over to me as of late from a few sources and in quite different ways. As we consider that, we may also wonder how far one should go.

I've found myself in an interesting position. I had set some goals about 4 years ago that have come to fruition... in different ways than I had intended. So goes the learning of life. The achievement of these goals had put me in some internal conflict for several months.

My family is in a spot where we could live quietly without a great deal of output. As enticing as that seems it falls short of what fuels my fire. That means, I desire a new goal. It's lofty but it's no longer a means to an end. It is more of a means to a purpose... a beginning.

My values have changed, yet my beliefs had not.

I value some of the beliefs that got me to where I am, even though they are in conflict with my new values. Framing has become key to this.

I've built several small businesses doing what I LOVED. Long ago, I realized the old saying, "do what you love, and you'll never work a day," is complete nonsense. What I have learned, is that the journey and the learning is what I love.

Instead of "living" and just "enjoying life," I have chosen to dig deeper and see what else I can find. Because one can dig deep! Depending upon where you are at in your life, you may find, that means you should.

I can now see that enjoyment of life, for me, comes from the on purpose search for my journey. Which is in contrast to the journey or search, for my purpose. One of my top values now has nothing to do with this life, but everything to do with living.

If this sparked thought for you, leave a comment. I would like to hear about it. Because what is taken from this may vary drastically from person to person.

09/14/2023

Are you nourishing your growth or living in comfort?

Choose the tribe that challenges, supports, and accepts you for who you are. Rise with those who push your boundaries while still embracing you.🔥

09/13/2023

🐺💙 They say a lone wolf wanders alone. But in truth, the wild is always trying to be apart of a family and longs for a pack of its own. Like the wolf, we humans are not meant to be solitary creatures. We thrive when we form connections and find a community that understands us..🤝🌍

⛰️✨ Surrounded by those who share our dreams, passions, and values, we find solace and inspiration in resonance. ✨💫 Together, we become a force that can overcome any challenge and achieve extraordinary things. 💪🌟

🌱🌿 Growth is not a solo journey; it flourishes within the nurturing embrace of like-minded individuals. 🌱🤗 As we learn from each other, exchange ideas, and share experiences, we expand our horizons and become the best versions of ourselves. Our community drives our assention.💡🌻

🙌🗣️ I am incredibly grateful to have found my tribe, my soul siblings, with whom I can deeply connect and learn from. 🤗💞 From the shared laughter to the times we lift each other up through adversity, our bond only grows stronger. Together, we are unstoppable! 👫👭👬

💡✨ So let's celebrate the beauty of community and the strength we draw from one another. ✨💪 Tag your kindred spirits below, and share the love of connection with all your amazing friends! 🙌❤️

09/12/2023

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📝 Once trust is broken, can it truly be repaired? Or are we left questioning not just others, but ourselves too? Let's discuss. 🧩

Trust is a delicate bridge we build with others. When it shatters, are we doubting their intentions or our own judgment? 💭 It's not just about fixing a broken relationship, it's also about healing self-doubt and rediscovering our strength. 💎

So here's my question to you: Is broken trust really about the other person, or is it a mirror reflecting our own uncertainties? 🪞 We grow, we learn, we rebuild - not just with others, but within ourselves.💫

Comment your thoughts below! 🗣️

09/12/2023

Reflecting in the silence.

I'm not quiet because I lack words, it's the opposite. I'm busy learning, growing, collecting thoughts to express in ways words cannot do justice to yet.

We have more power in quiet growth than hurried noise. 🌱🤫

09/07/2023

The journey within! 🌟

It's easy to search for happiness around us, in wealth, fame, or other people, but the true spring of joy resides within your own heart. 😇 Let's cherish every moment and remember that our inner wisdom is the source of sustainable happiness. 🌿