12/31/2025
In 2022, my life burned to the ground.
I lost a career I’d spent 8+ years building.
I found out my newly-married husband was living a double life as a s*x addict.
I lost my driver’s license, my real estate license, my sobriety, my credit, my reputation in a small town, and most of the people I thought were my friends.
My health followed — kidney infections, a collapsed lung, sudden weight gain, severe acne.
And beneath all of that, I lost something even harder to name: my sense of identity.
At the time, I thought everything was going wrong.
What I couldn’t see was that everything I had built my identity on was being stripped away — career, status, relationships, image, control.
It felt like punishment.
It was actually initiation.
I didn’t understand ego death or the dark night of the soul back then. I just knew I was exhausted, ashamed, and trying to survive something that felt endless. It wasn’t until I finally stopped resisting — stopped trying to fix, prove, manage, or hold on — that things began to shift.
Only when I surrendered to losing everything did small pockets of hope begin to appear.
If you’re in it right now…
If it feels like your life is unraveling beyond recognition…
You’re not losing control. You’re being stripped down to truth.
And yes — it passes.
But only after you stop trying to manage it.
