Awaken Coaching and Consulting

04/17/2026

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Are you unknowingly self-abandoning?

This doesn’t always look dramatic.
Most of the time… it’s quiet.

It looks like:
• Saying “it’s fine” when it’s not
• Talking yourself out of what you feel
• Needing reassurance before trusting your own gut
• Staying longer than you should because you understand them
• Keeping the peace while slowly losing yourself

Self-abandonment isn’t always obvious…
Sometimes it’s disguised as being “easygoing,” “understanding,” or “low maintenance.”

But the truth is—
every time you dismiss your own feelings,
you’re teaching yourself that your voice doesn’t matter.

And over time, that creates a deep internal disconnect.

Healing isn’t just about setting boundaries with others…
it’s about learning to stay with yourself.

To listen.
To trust.
To honor what you feel—even when it’s inconvenient.

Because the relationship you have with yourself
sets the standard for everything else.

✨ You don’t need to become someone new.
You just need to stop leaving yourself.

04/14/2026

If you have an anxious attachment style, money might feel like more than just numbers.

It can feel like safety.
Like control.
Like something you can hold onto when everything else feels uncertain.

You might notice yourself:
• Feeling anxious when your account dips, even a little
• Spending to soothe stress, loneliness, or overwhelm
• Over-giving financially because it feels good to be needed
• Worrying about the future, even when things are “okay”

And none of this makes you irresponsible.

It makes you human.

At some point, your system learned:
“If I can just stay secure here… I’ll be okay.”

So of course you try to create that safety however you can.

But real safety isn’t something you have to chase, spend, or prove.

It’s something you can gently begin to build within yourself.

Little by little.

Moment by moment.

As you heal, you may start to notice:
✨ You can pause before reacting
✨ You can spend and save from a place of calm—not fear
✨ You don’t have to earn your sense of security

You’re allowed to feel safe…
even when things aren’t perfect.

And you don’t have to figure it all out at once.

You’re already moving in the right direction 🤍

04/10/2026

Disorganized attachment doesn’t just affect relationships… it often affects money, too. 💰

Many people with disorganized attachment have a deeply conflicted relationship with spending and finances.

They may:

• Impulse spend to regulate anxiety or emotional overwhelm 🛍️
• Avoid checking bank accounts/bills because money feels activating
• Swing between over-spending and extreme restriction
• Hoard money for safety while simultaneously sabotaging finances
• Feel intense shame over even small financial mistakes

Because for the disorganized attachment nervous system…

Money is not just money.
It represents safety.
Control.
Dependence.
Worth.
Survival.

When your earliest experiences taught you that safety was inconsistent, chaotic, or painful—
your relationship with resources often becomes chaotic too.

Financial healing is not just about budgeting.
It’s about healing the nervous system patterns underneath the behavior.

Until then, many people will keep trying to fix emotional wounds with spreadsheets. 💔

Your money habits may be trauma responses—
not character flaws.

04/09/2026

Money doesn’t just reveal financial habits… 💵 it reveals attachment wounds.

Avoidant attachment often shows up around money in ways people don’t even realize.

For many avoidantly attached individuals, money becomes tied to control, independence, and emotional safety.

It can sound like:

• “I don’t want to depend on anyone.”
• “I’ll handle it myself.”
• “What’s mine is mine.”
• “Needing help makes me vulnerable.”

This may show up as:
• Avoiding financial conversations
• Being secretive about spending/savings
• Resisting shared finances in marriage
• Using financial independence as emotional armor
• Withdrawing when money becomes emotionally charged

Because for the avoidant nervous system…

Financial dependence can feel like emotional danger.

Money isn’t just money.
It becomes a symbol of:

Safety. Autonomy. Control. Protection.

So if money is a constant source of conflict in your relationship,
the issue may not be budgeting…

It may be attachment.

Heal the wound, and the money patterns often begin to change too.

04/06/2026

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04/05/2026

This!

04/05/2026

04/02/2026

Healing is a choice, and no one can make it for you.

Time doesn’t heal wounds…
It just teaches you how to live around them.

If you’re done carrying resentment, replaying the past, or feeling stuck in cycles you can’t seem to break—this is your invitation to do something different.

✨ Join an intimate 14-week healing group for women ready to move forward—FOR REAL this time.

Over 14 weeks, we will:
• Break down the lies keeping you stuck
• Replace them with truth, clarity, and emotional tools
• Help you actually process what you’ve been carrying—not just “talk about it”

This is not surface-level work. This is transformation.

💛 Why group coaching?
Because healing in safe connection rewires what isolation never could.

• Small, safe group (max 5 women)
• A space where you can be seen, heard, and understood
• Weekly Zoom sessions
• Ongoing support + accountability via Marco Polo

💔 Whether you’re healing from:
Divorce, breakup, betrayal, childhood wounding or deep emotional wounds…
You don’t have to do this alone anymore.

💰 Investment: $899 (payment plans available)
📅 Starts: Tuesday, 4/28

Hosted by a certified life & relationship coach
Awaken Life and Relationship Coaching

✨ If something in you is saying “I need this”… trust that.

📩 Message me to claim your spot
📱 Text: 615-497-1067

Tag a woman who’s ready to stop surviving and start healing 🫶🏼

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04/02/2026

Or a little boy!

Drop a 💚 if you agree….

I experienced these exact words when I was a very little girl:
✨ “Barb, the reason that boy is being mean to you is because he really likes you.”

✨How ridiculous and “messed up” this comment is to a little girl!!! 😱

✨I endured a lot of emotional abuse in dating men, and in my marriage.
I believed that when a man says something mean, rude, sexual, or otherwise I interpreted as this;
✨”Barb, he must care about you so this is to help you in life.”

Let’s raise boys and girls who:
💕 Are kind and empathetic
💕 Communicate their feelings
💕 Are honest and respectful
💕 Believe all human beings are equal
💕 Feel confident enough to be authentic and true to themselves

Let me know below ⬇️ a lesson you’re teaching your children? 💫
Sending you love and big hugs 🤗

04/01/2026

Being loved is the minimum. People can say they love you, while their actions reflect something different.

Make sure you’re also being prioritized, respected, seen and heard, valued, appreciated, and chosen. ♥️