Apostolate for Marital Intimacy

11/21/2025

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11/18/2025

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11/12/2025

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11/10/2025

Don’t Just Pray for Vocations! Pray For This Instead.

11/10/2025

This is why we need to learn to communicate with deferential love and interpret others’ intent as being positive or benign. See our previous videos on these topics.

Every person we become close to and depend on will eventually trigger something at some point in us (even if it’s minor and infrequent).

Our triggers (the things that activate us) are meaningful information about ourselves — information that deserves to be explored with compassion.

Our triggers can help us understand what’s important to us.

They can bring to surface feelings and experiences that were not initially given the space to fully integrate.

Getting curious about what a trigger is revealing about us, and sharing that information with safe people can be a really powerful bridge for connection.

How triggers are expressed (and responded to) are essential to developing healthy relating.

Here are some prompts to help you explore further when you become triggered/activated:
💫 Am I sharing my experience without attacking or blaming?
💫 Am I clearly expressing what I need?
💫 Do I take the time to explore what my trigger is connected to before sharing?
💫 Do I apologize/repair if I express myself in harsh/critical ways?
💫 Do I give myself permission to (feel) my feelings and allow myself to be witnessed?

Here are some prompts to help you notice how people respond to you when you share:
✨ Do they respond to me with care and sensitivity when I share my triggers in a non-blaming way?
✨ Do they make effort to understand/be curious about my experience?
✨ Do they share their own pain and triggers with me at times?
✨ Do I feel somewhat calmer/more connected to myself/them after I share the root of my trigger?

These prompts are an initial guide.

There is a deeply important discernment process within this exploration.

If you’re doing your own work and still feel like something is feeling off in your relationship, then other skills sometimes need to be developed (or your red flag alert system may be alerting you).

Your triggers are about you .. AND .. how they are managed/empathized with relationally matters a whole lot too.
// Silvy Khoucasian

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11/06/2025

Your Spouse is Your Brother or Sister in Christ!

11/06/2025

Deferential Love Will Make Your Marriage Happier!

11/04/2025

Please check out this week's newsletter for 2 announcements!

Do you desire a more fulfilling, joyful, and passionate marriage in full harmony with your Catholic faith? Through one-on-one relationship and s*x coaching, I help couples deepen emotional connection, overcome intimacy barriers, and rekindle desire—all while honoring the dignity of marriage and th...

10/31/2025

Interpret Others Charitably - part 2

10/31/2025

Interpret Others Charitably! Especially your spouse!

10/29/2025

Here is an article by Fr. John Harvey on marital s*xual ethics on the website of the USCCB:

Expressing Marital Love during the Fertile Phase by John F. Harvey inInternational Review of Natural Family Planning, Volume V, Number 4, Winter 1981 A...

10/28/2025

Check out our article, “Can Catholic Spouses Ever Have S*x For Pleasure? And Did the Church Change Her Teaching on This? Read it all here: https://www.catholicintimacy.org/blog/can-catholic-spouses-ever-have-s*x-for-pleasure-and-did-the-church-change-her-teaching-on-this