Brenda D. Minge - Pain Management & Trauma Therapy

03/30/2026

03/30/2026

Recognizing disrespect.

Recognizing disrespect.

03/30/2026

Points to ponder

03/30/2026

Monday morning giggles

03/30/2026

Never allow a toxic relationship or environment to become your comfort zone.

03/29/2026

03/29/2026

Discussing core wounds, emotional abuse, and negative self-talk in children and adults.

Discussing core wounds, emotional abuse, and negative self-talk in children and adults.

03/29/2026

Sunday morning giggles

03/28/2026

Saturday morning giggles

03/28/2026

If you are finding yourself feeling rejected and dejected due to the passing comments, slights and what you interpret as rejection by others, I want you to think about this..
You CHOOSE how to perceive (become aware or conscious) of something based on YOUR LIFE LENS.
If you have experienced a childhood filled with physical abuse, neglect, substance abuse / alcoholism, abandonment, violence then you will see life through the lens reflecting those trauma. You may find your adult relationship frequently have problems with jealousy, abandonment, anger, violence, abuse etc.., because that is all you knew growing up – that is how you learned to view the world around you. Further, it is a modeled, or learned behavior that you may be modeling to your children without ever realizing it. Subconsciously, you have been CHOOSING that lens to view the world since you were a child.
ITS ALL YOU KNEW GROWING UP… THOSE WERE THE COPING TOOLS YOUR PARENTS PASSED ALONG TO YOU AND YOU ARE PASSING ALONG AS WELL
Example: You parents had anger issues and would have violent fights until one of them walked away or was removed from the situation by police… they could be for gone an hour or for weeks. Now as an adult you may find yourself with a short fuse and a bad temper lashing out with outbursts of violence and rage against your spouse, your children, pets or co-workers.
Once this behavior has been recognized, it can be addressed through therapy. This is not about assigning blame on your parents; they no doubt learned it from their parents as well. Now is the time to learn to accept responsibility for you actions, inactions, attitudes, behaviors and the consequences. Be the one to break the cycle and change how you CHOOSE to experience life through your life lens.