Dana Lee Coaching

10/20/2025

Years ago, I encountered a profound conversation with a man whose long journey through alcoholism had left an indelible mark on him.

As we dived into a conversation about his experiences, he offered a reflection that resonated deeply with me: "I was an alcoholic, then I was healing for a very long time, and now I’m finally living a life after healing."

His words lingered, capturing the essence of a struggle that many face but few articulate so clearly.
I found myself nodding, not just in agreement but in recognition of my own aspirations.
I, too, yearn for a life beyond the confines of healing.

In our society, we often wear our “I’m healing” badge with a sense of honor.
Sure, there’s a certain pride in acknowledging our battles, a validation in the pursuit of self-improvement. Yet, I can't help but wonder: at what point does healing become a way of life rather than a phase we transition through?

What I truly desire is a life where I am not constantly immersed in the pages of self-help, psychology, or metaphysical literature.

I seek a reality where I’m not in perpetual sessions with therapists, unearthing trauma and navigating struggles.

There’s a yearning within me to step away from the internal dialogue that incessantly pushes me to "better myself" or "work on myself."

Instead, I crave simplicity.

I long to simply *be*.

Imagine a life unburdened by the weight of healing, where each day is not defined by the battles fought but by the beauty of existence itself.

I want to embrace moments without the shadow of past wounds, to experience joy without the constant reminder of what I have overcome of need to still heal.

For the first time in my life, I feel the transition of change gently guiding me toward this state of being.
This journey so far has been long and full of challenges, but as I really step into this new chapter, I am learning to settle into existence itself—unfettered, unchained, and utterly alive.

In our quest for healing, let us not forget that the ultimate goal is to live fully, to savor the richness of life in all its forms.

Healing is a valuable process, but *living* is the destination.

04/10/2025

😂😆🤷🏼‍♀️ Why not ……

04/05/2025

Untangle the mess

Not by resorting to distractions via other people or technology.

Not by filling the void with superficial pleasures, or seeking temporary bursts of dopamine.

Instead, navigate through the mess with a sense of direction, intention, stillness, clarity, and mindful purpose.

This is crucial for an intentional, aligned life.

Otherwise you’re really just winging it … so dont be surprised if you end up back at square one.

When you face the internal mess head-on with intention, you are more likely to uncover the root causes of your challenges, wants, and direction allowing for real transformation and fulfillment.

By cultivating stillness and clarity, you create space for deeper insights, enabling you to make informed decisions that align with your true values. This mindful navigation empowers you to build a life that reflects your authentic self, rather than one dictated by external dopamine kicks or fleeting impulses.

Ultimately, it leads to lasting fulfillment and a sense of peace as you move forward on your journey.

What are you using as distractions from the real inner work…..

Instead ….

Take a step back
Slow down
Pause
There’s no rush to the finish line
Take a deep breathe
Sit with your deeper thoughts and feelings and listen to them.

This Is growth.

💕

04/03/2025

Shame is not your enemy …
shame is your moral compass. What you do after you feel the shame is what defines you.

04/03/2025

The more you sit with your thoughts… distraction free …. the more aligned and clear your life will get.

I often hear people talk about the discomfort of stillness.

So instead they try and fill ever moment with some type of noise, stimulation or distracting.

Habit? Unhealthy coping mechanisms? All of the above?

Sure our thoughts, feelings and the dis-ease in our body may be hard as hell to feel …

But what’s the contrary? ….. Going through life without real direction? Never fully living in alignment? Continually ending up back at square one?
Feeling overwhelmed so you chase more distractions and it’s an endless cycle?

Our Phones are one of the most bitter sweet things in the world.

We pick up our phones any moment there’s stillness. At red lights, right after conversations with someone, some people even right after s*x. But these are the moments we actually need to pause.

Slow down

Just sit there for a moment.

Gather ourselves.

I found myself in this cycle after my divorce.
Using people and technology as unhealthy distractions.
Maybe to fill the brokenness.
Dopamine kicks.
It was hard to feel those huge, hurtful feelings I was carrying.
I just wanted to keep pushing forward
It was painful beyond belief to be in my body.
It was hard to sit with my thoughts and feelings.
So I used unhealthy distractions.
Guess what?
That’s okay! We have to have grace for ourselves.

But…

Thats only okay to a point.

You can’t live like that.

You can’t keep going through big experiences… family problems, death, break ups, divorce, empty nesting, etc etc etc …. Without taking time with yourself or with a coach or Therpist to stop and pause!

Reflect
Breathe

—-> You have to exhale before you can keep climbing

——-> You have to pause, reflect, process those situations and center yourself before you can HEALTHILY push forward to the next.

If you’re not willing to slow down, pause and create intentional time to reflect …. Then more than likely you’re using distractions as unhealthy coping mechanisms.

Pause

Before you keep repeating old patterns and wind up back at square one.

I may be bias but that’s why I truly swear by life coaching. I see first hand how truly impactful it is for people to stay aligned which leads to a more fulfilled life with inner peace, regulation and greater happiness.
In sessions we reflect together. Find direction. Gain clarity. Process big and small things. Set them up for success. Every week it’s consistent work and it works.

Anyway, however you do it. However works for you….

Pause
Reflect
Get clear
Center yourself

Then push forward as your healthiest self.

💕

04/02/2025

Knowledge is not power ….

Knowledge APPLIED is where the power is

03/30/2025

✨ If you don’t know your worth
If you lead with an insecure attachment
you’re probably going to settle….

😬 For breadcrumbs
😣 For inconsistency
😔 For emotionally immature partners
😩 For love that doesnt feel good
😖 For liers, manipulators, cheaters and those who have already betrayed you yet you stay.
😓 For physical intimacy you didn’t actually want
🫠 For partners that are anxious or avoidant
😮‍💨 For relationships you know are wrong but you are more scared to leave
🫣For people you walk on eggshells with, partners you dont feel emotionally safe with, partners who dismiss your feelings
😵‍💫For partners who are cahotic, emotionally immature or constantly bring endless baggage to your table
🥴 For people who talk poorly to you or about you
😰 For love that isn’t genuine
🫨 For highs and lows, big up’s and downs, break up’s and back together.
😩 For people who don’t truly have your best interest at heart
😝 For people who hang up on you, scream at you or completely avoid your feelings, adults who can’t have civil adult conversations
😓 For “love” that stands on a foundation of “something is better than nothing”
😤 For partners who entertainin others, cross lines and are inappropriate while in a relationship
🫤 For transactional relationships
😧 For takers, never enoughers and those with wounds and voids they’re using you to fill for them.
😥For emotionally unavailable or immature partners who live in victim mentality
😣 For partners who don’t see your worth
😵‍💫 For partners you constantly have to “save”, fix or mother.

——> You wouldn’t settle for any of this is you knew your worth.

——> You wouldn’t settle for any of this is you were securely attached.

💕

03/30/2025

When you come to understand your true worth, everything around you begins to change.

Your boundaries become clearer, you will probably become very intentional with your time and heart.
You will naturally shift who has access to you.
You start to trust in the universe's plan, giving more if not all control over to God.

Recognizing that you are deserving of the life, love and desires you want.

This perspective and deep self knowing allows you to make choices that align with your values, resulting in a life that is truly aligned for your greater good. With that naturally comes security, peace, safety and secure attachment to others.

Knowing your worth is not just an emotional realization…it's a logical foundation for creating and aligning with the life you aspire to live and the life that is simultaneously laid out for you.

💕

03/30/2025

✨ Align your actions with your values

03/28/2025

Damn this hit me because this is some deep work I’ve had to do over the years. “Addicted to the relief”
A lot of inner work led me to understand this.
I lived this for a long time in my marriage. I indeed was addicted to the relief. Then I stumbled upon a healthy relationship and learned the massive difference. In a healthy relationship there’s consistency, stability, and mutual respect. We’re all learning, I hope this is food for thought for you 💕

If you've ever felt stuck in a relationship with someone who pulls away, disappears emotionally, or gives love inconsistently—but you can't seem to let them go—this might explain why.

For people with anxious attachment patterns, the pain of disconnection isn't just emotional, it's physiological. When a partner pulls away or goes quiet, your nervous system perceives it as a threat to your safety and connection. This triggers the sympathetic nervous system (your fight-or-flight response), leading to anxiety, overthinking, and fear of abandonment.

And then... they come back.
They respond. They text. They reconnect.
And in that moment, you don't just feel relief—you feel regulated.

This reconnection brings a surge of dopamine and oxytocin—the very chemicals your brain was desperately craving in the absence of connection. That emotional "high" is what your system starts to anticipate, even if the relationship itself is inconsistent or painful.

This is why it's so hard to walk away.
You're not addicted to the person—you're addicted to the regulation your nervous system feels when the thread of disconnection ends.

But the truth is, you deserve stead connection, not anxious relief. You deserve a nervous system that doesn't have to live in survival mode. You deserve love that doesn't leave you needing to recover every time it returns.

You're not weak. Your body is doing exactly what it learned to do to survive. And now it can learn something new.