01/02/2023
Happy new year! What are your goals for 2023? One study found that approx 80% of people's New Years' resolutions failed by February. Not very good!
When we search for success in life, it is important to set sound goals. How do we do that? One method is using the SMART method. Goals need to be specific to you, you need to be able to measure them, be attainable and achievable, realistic and timely. Even if it is a short-term goal like adding $500 to your emergency savings, using this method can often be effective.
Also, the concept of approach vs avoidance goals can be very effective. Approach goals are ones in which the stated objective is to move towards a desired outcome, for example “I will increase my maximum bench press weight to 280 pounds”, “I will be more talkative in social situations”, or “I will graduate from college with an A average”. Avoidance goals, in contrast, are ones in which the stated objective is to move away from an undesired state. For example, “I will not eat snacks before going to bed”; “I want to stop being so shy at parties”; “I will stop procrastinating on my thesis writing”. Some examples below:
1. Avoidance goal: “I want to stop being late for work”. Possible approach phrasing: “I will be on time for work every day”.
2. Avoidance goal: “I want to stop watching so much TV”. Possible approach phrasing: “I will read for an hour each day”.
Give these a try and let me know what you think!