Niki Payne

02/06/2026

One of the quietest lessons I keep relearning:

Not every challenge is an invitation.

Some dynamics are built on ego—on control, dominance, or the need to “win.” And the moment you engage, you’ve already agreed to play a game that costs more than it gives.

Discretion isn’t avoidance.
It’s discernment.

I’d rather live with humility than inflate my pride just to prove a point. That doesn’t mean it’s not uncomfortable, but it does mean there is growth to be found on the other side.

Strength isn’t loud and proud.
And power doesn’t need to posture.
Sometimes power lies in restraint.

02/06/2026

Prompt: “Create a caricature of me and my job based on everything you know about me.”

As someone who has always struggled fitting into a box, ChatGPT did it for me 😆

I’m not just a coach, or a hypnotherapist or even a psychotherapist. No matter which lane I’m driving in or what role I’m playing, at the end of the day, I’m still obsessed with relationships and exploring ways to do relationships better.

It’s wild to think how all these years later, I’ve turned that obsession into a career I love and people still enjoy some of my wild theories that certainly have reframed their experiences from pain into humor and self-worth.

02/02/2026

One of the most common relationship traps I see isn’t “choosing the wrong person”—
it’s letting chemistry do all the decision-making. I’ve been there too.

Chemistry tells you what feels good now.
Consistency shows you what you can rely on over time.
Compatibility determines whether the relationship can actually support the life you want.

Feelings matter.
They just aren’t meant to lead alone.

💭 Save this if you’ve ever mistaken intensity for alignment.
💬 Share if this reframes how you think about attraction.

01/23/2026

2016—the year I learned how to alter my default factory settings through subconscious reprogramming.

11/21/2025

Did you know I published a book? I almost forgot about it because of the major vulnerability hangover 🤢 that came along with it, but someone actually bought back in September and I’m just now receiving my $3 royalty for it. Yay! Go me! lol

11/08/2025

Another satisfied hypnosis client! If you recently failed the biggest exam of your life, you have to come see me!

Honestly, I don’t even get how hypnosis works for test anxiety but it does! I help people establish a test taking strategy in conjunction with an anxiety management strategy when it shows up mid exam. And we reinforce it all into the subconscious using hypnosis.

Curious if hypnosis can help you. Visit www.hypnodipity.com to schedule a free consultation.

11/08/2025

Another satisfied hypnosis client! If you recently failed the biggest exam of your life, you have to come see me!

Honestly, I don’t even get how hypnosis works for test anxiety but it does! I help people establish a test taking strategy in conjunction with an anxiety management strategy when it shows up mid exam. And we reinforce it all into the subconscious using hypnosis.

Curious if hypnosis can help you? Visit www.hypnodipity.com to schedule a free consultation.

10/29/2025

It’s World Series season in Los Angeles, and you can feel it in the air.

People are wearing Dodgers hats and T-shirts, and conversations about an 18-inning game have replaced small talk about weekend plans while waiting for your coffee to brew in the break room.

You can feel the collective energy — the pride, the tension, the sense of belonging that comes from rooting for something bigger than yourself.

But beneath all that excitement lies something fascinating about human nature... Read more 👇

Discover what Dodgers fandom reveals about belief, ego, and identity — and learn how to loosen attachments that limit your freedom.

10/28/2025

Let’s be honest — most “communication issues” aren’t about what’s said. They’re about what’s heard through fear & insecurity.

Couples don’t argue because they disagree. They argue because one person’s trying to feel seen while the other’s trying to feel safe.

And when everyone’s busy proving a point, nobody’s actually making one. 😉

Healthy communication isn’t about being the louder voice — it’s about being the safer one.

When you can listen without defending, speak without attacking, and stay curious instead of reactive — connection becomes possible again.

🧠 Truth or Trigger?
Drop a 💣 if this one lovingly called you out.

10/26/2025

Birthday brunch & fun continues

10/25/2025

What if what you’re calling gaslighting
is actually two nervous systems protecting themselves from pain?

Sometimes what feels like dismissal
is really discomfort avoidance.
And sometimes what we call accountability
is just our anxiety demanding control.

Real accountability repairs relationships, not reputations.
It starts when you can stay curious instead of defensive
and practice self-regulation instead of projection.

✨ If this hit home, share it with someone learning to fight for connection, not about it.

10/22/2025

🍆 & 🍑 envy — it’s a thing for people with enough humility to confront it. DM me if you want the link to read it :)

I wrote this one year ago before anyone cared; one year later and it’s the second most seen article on my website in the last 90 days… 🤔

I write stuff that piques my interest. And people find me online. I can’t say I’m surprised that the third most trending article I wrote a year ago is about accountability in relationships… 🤭

It’s nice to be back on the map 🗺️
Now I just gotta make my website look better and optimize it better 😭