Relationships Actually (2025)

18/08/2025

Is it still infidelity if there’s no physical contact? Virtual affairs—through texts, video chats, or online fantasies—can feel emotionally intense and deeply personal. Even without touching, these connections can betray trust and create emotional distance in real-life relationships.

If you’re hiding conversations, seeking emotional validation online, or feeling more connected to someone virtually than your partner, it may be time to reflect on your boundaries. Emotional and virtual intimacy can impact relationships just as much as physical affairs.

Dr. Randi Gunther is a Clinical Psychologist, Marriage & Family Therapist, and compassionate Author who truly understands the complexities of human connection.

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15/08/2025

10 common dysfunctional behaviors in a relationship

1. Assignment of Blame
2. Threats of exile or abandonment
3. Dominance/Submission
4. Grudges
5. Ownership
6. Disloyalty
7. Winner or Loser Arguments
8. Snapshots versus moving pictures
9. Boundary Violations
10. Fear of Loss

How dysfunctional is your intimate relationship?

If you willingly take a look at the ways your relationship is not functioning well, you can change those behaviors in the opposite direction and get back on track.

Dr. Randi Gunther is a Clinical Psychologist, Marriage & Family Therapist, and compassionate Author who truly understands the complexities of human connection.

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11/08/2025

Most New Year’s promises fade fast. But what if change started with small, mindful shifts?

Try pausing for a meaningful breath, smiling more often, or slowing down your meals. These gentle daily rituals can ground you, uplift you, and help you feel more alive.

No pressure. Just presence.

Discover a better way to grow into your best self—one simple act at a time.

Dr. Randi Gunther is a Clinical Psychologist, Marriage & Family Therapist, and compassionate Author who truly understands the complexities of human connection.

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08/08/2025

Did you know that couples who avoid conflict early on may be setting themselves up for failure? Striving for constant harmony can leave you unprepared for the natural challenges that come with love. True connection grows when you're willing to face disagreements together—with grace, curiosity, and commitment.

Healthy relationships need balance: not too much comfort, not too much chaos.

Read more on how to build stronger bonds from the very beginning.

Dr. Randi Gunther is a Clinical Psychologist, Marriage & Family Therapist, and compassionate Author who truly understands the complexities of human connection.

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04/08/2025

The 10 Qualities of a Healthy Family

1. Individuals are respected
2. Everyone contributes as best as they can
3. There is hierarchy, but everyone gets a fair vote
4. There is room for the expression of all emotions and needs, but mutual respect is required
5. They plan and work on mutual goals for each individual and for the team
6. The distribution of resources is open and understood by everyone
7. The focus is on learning rather than punishment or embarrassment
8. Making the team stronger by each member helping the other
9. Affection, caring, support, and encouragement are prevalent
10. They look forward to the future together

Dr. Randi Gunther is a Clinical Psychologist, Marriage & Family Therapist, and compassionate Author who truly understands the complexities of human connection.

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01/08/2025

10 Questions to Fast-Track Emotional Intimacy

1. How have you been able to weather the losses in your life?
2. How do you prefer to be touched by others?
3. How have you handled traumatic experiences in your life?
4. What are some things that have frustrated you, and how have you handled them?
5. What are some things you have wanted the most in your life?
6. Have you ever had to suffer betrayal by someone you trusted?
7. Have you had to face injustices in your life?
8. Have you ever felt that you couldn’t live up to someone else’s expectations?
9. How do you respond when others expect you to take care of them?
10. How have you survived painful breakups in past relationships?
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Dr. Randi Gunther is a Clinical Psychologist, Marriage & Family Therapist, and compassionate Author who truly understands the complexities of human connection.

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28/07/2025

“Why does every little thing turn into an argument?”

It’s a question many couples ask when they feel trapped in a cycle of constant conflict.

You may be arguing about chores, money, or parenting—but underneath, it’s usually about feeling unheard or misunderstood.

Marriage counseling helps couples to:
🔹 Recognize unhelpful patterns
🔹 De-escalate tension before it becomes a blow-up
🔹 Rebuild trust and emotional safety

The goal isn’t to stop fighting entirely—it’s to learn how to fight fair, listen deeply, and grow stronger together.

Conflict can be the doorway to deeper connection—when guided with compassion and skill. Therapy can help you get there.

Dr. Randi Gunther is a Clinical Psychologist, Marriage & Family Therapist, and compassionate Author who truly understands the complexities of human connection.

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25/07/2025

You love each other, but something feels... off.

The conversations have become shorter. The silences longer. You're not fighting—but you're not really connecting either.

This emotional distance can silently grow over time, often caused by stress, unspoken resentment, or unmet needs.

Couples therapy offers a safe space to:
✔ Rebuild emotional intimacy
✔ Learn how to communicate openly (without blame or shutting down)
✔ Understand your partner’s emotional triggers—and your own

You don’t have to stay stuck in silence. Reconnection is possible.

Many couples wait until things feel “unfixable”—but early support leads to lasting change.

Take the first step today...

Dr. Randi Gunther is a Clinical Psychologist, Marriage & Family Therapist, and compassionate Author who truly understands the complexities of human connection.

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21/07/2025

Sometimes, a single moment—like a class reunion—can reopen a door we thought was closed forever. I’ve seen it happen: couples reuniting after decades apart, discovering that the love they shared in their youth still lives within them.

These connections aren’t impulsive or shallow. They’re rooted in deep, unfinished bonds that never truly faded. Reigniting that love often brings joy—but also sorrow for the lives and relationships they must leave behind.

Love from the past can surprise us with its power. When it reappears, the choices are never simple. But for many, they are profoundly real.

If you’re facing the complexity of love lost and found, I can help you navigate it with clarity and compassion.

Dr. Randi Gunther is a Clinical Psychologist, Marriage & Family Therapist, and compassionate Author who truly understands the complexities of human connection.

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18/07/2025

Keys to a Thriving Committed Relationship:

*Maintain open, honest conversations—especially about intimacy and expectations.
*Make room for your partner’s priorities without losing your own.
*Create a shared emotional home—where both dreams matter.
*Practice daily appreciation and support.
*Keep regenerating love through shared experiences and trust.

Whether you’re newly in love or navigating long-term partnership, knowing the journey from independence to interdependence is essential.

Dr. Randi Gunther is a Clinical Psychologist, Marriage & Family Therapist, and compassionate Author who truly understands the complexities of human connection.

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14/07/2025

10 Commitment Factors That Keep Intimate Partners "All In"

You can determine if you are likely to have that option by exploring the following questions:

1. Age
2. Social Support
3. Personality
4. History
5. Childhood Modeling
6. Ethics
7. Luck
8. Options
9. Resilience Under Stress
10. Commonality of Background

The couples who know that fact encourage each other to keep growing and changing while maintaining their commitment to the relationship. They do not fear shaking things up to make sure that their relationship stays authentic.

Dr. Randi Gunther is a Clinical Psychologist, Marriage & Family Therapist, and compassionate Author who truly understands the complexities of human connection.

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11/07/2025

It’s a powerful question—
“If we weren’t already married, would you choose me again?”

Every long-term relationship goes through seasons. Some are filled with connection and laughter. Others bring distance, tension, or silence. But asking the right questions—together—can open doors to healing, growth, and renewed love.

If you’ve been wondering how to get back to the "us" you once were…
❤️ There is help.
❤️ There is hope.
❤️ There is a way to love again—with more depth, clarity, and compassion.

Therapy isn’t about blame—it’s about understanding your patterns, healing emotional wounds, and choosing each other again, this time with deeper awareness.

Dr. Randi Gunther is a Clinical Psychologist, Marriage & Family Therapist, and compassionate Author who truly understands the complexities of human connection.

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