Awakened Awareness

07/23/2025

Haven’t posted this in a while, and even though it’s been posted so many times before, it’s always worth repeating for those who may be new. Just because you may have left —whether it be weeks, months, or even years prior— does NOT always mean the abuse has ended. is something that we must keep discussing, so that more people understand exactly how insidious it is, and what all it entails. Not only for those experiencing it currently so that we can better support them and their children, but in order for PREVENTION — especially for the younger generation, or those that may be naive to just how malevolent former partners and spouses can be after a separation or divorce. This often can occur up until the youngest child is 18, and sometimes beyond that.

You are not crazy. You are not alone. There IS help and there ARE resources.

No matter where you are in your journey, even if you’ve been fighting (either silently, or through an ongoing custody battle) for years, there is always still hope. Healing is not linear, and trauma doesn’t have a timeframe; not the way visible wounds usually do. And you know what? That’s okay. As long as you keep going and trying, it’s never too late for a change.

Don’t give up before the miracle. Reach out, no matter where you are in your journey…there may just be a whole world of new possibilities not only for you and your kiddo/s out there, but a brand new chapter waiting for just YOU to write 💜

10/28/2024

Just a refresher for those new to the page!!

💜Elizabeth

02/24/2024

A good reminder for today survivors…you’re not alone. And even they do use their parenting time and see their kid/s on schedule? But are still pulling rest of this with you? It’s abuse, plain and simple. And we have no tolerance for abuse in this space.

There are ways to stop the madness. Contact me today for a free consult, no time limit, so I can tell you how I can help YOU personally, and also start saving you money. I’m here for you, your mental health, to strategize, to listen, to take things off your plate, to teach you the playbook, and to help protect you and your kiddos. It doesn’t have to be this way, even though family court ridiculously allows it to continue. Take back your power 💜

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01/04/2024

Week Two - “Fighter” by Christina Aguilera

I’m on a bit of an early 2000s kick haha, as you can probably tell. This one applies a little bit more to those of you whose ex committed infidelity, but there are several lines that apply to all survivors; and it’s a GREAT pump up song! Almost all the lyrics are applicable in this one, but here are my favorites.

“After all of the fights and the lies, guess you're wanting to hold me…but that won't work anymore (no more, it's over).
'Cause if it wasn't for all of your torture I wouldn't know how to be this way now, and never back down; so I wanna say thank you, 'cause it makes me that much stronger, makes me work a little bit harder.
It makes me that much wiser, so thanks for making me a fighter.
Made me learn a little bit faster, made my skin a little bit thicker, makes me that much smarter…
so thanks for making me a fighter.”

“Never saw it coming, all of your backstabbing…just m so you could cash in on a good thing before I realized your game.
I heard you're goin' 'round playing the victim now?
But don't even begin feeling I'm the one to blame, ‘cause you dug your own grave.”

“How could this man I thought I knew turnout to be unjust, so cruel?
Could only see the good in you, pretended not to see the truth.
You tried to hide your lies, disguise yourself through living in denial…but in the end you'll see, you won't stop me!
I am a fighter, and I ain't gon' stop.
There is no turning back — I've had enough.”

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12/11/2023

Week One - “Stronger” by Britney Spears

This whole song is great for survivors and warriors like we are here, but these two parts of the song stand out to me as the epitome of the attitude we should all maintain during our battles…no matter how long, difficult, or devastating. You ARE stronger now!

“Hush, just stop.
There's nothing you can do or say.
I've had enough, I'm not your property as from today.
You might think that I won't make it on my own…but now I’m STRONGER than yesterday.”

“I’m stronger than I ever thought that I could be. I used to go with the flow; didn’t really care ‘bout ME.
You might think that I can’t take it…but you’re WRONG.”

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12/11/2023

I’ve received multiple requests from clients for “pump up” songs before court, an uncomfortable exchange or interaction with their ex, or when they’re just feeling defeated. I have a list I use myself, so I’m going to start sharing a”Song of the Week,” along with what are (in my my opinion) the most poignant lyrics.

Sometimes music captures what our own words can’t. I often send my clients YouTube links to songs that embody how I’m picking up how they’re feeling in that moment, or a song to get them psyched up and feel powerful. This is actually a type of therapy used in clinical settings when you strong feelings or emotions about something, but somehow can’t find the words to articulate them. If you’re already a client of mine, always feel free to send me a YouTube link to a song that describes how you’re feeling…or WANT to feel!

Let me know if this helps you and some of your favorites. And the songs will be across all genres and tempos; one week may be a Disney song, the next a rap song, and the next a pop ballad. It’s about the lyrics, message, and emotion; not the literal music.

💜Elizabeth

11/11/2023

💙 The State of Michigan along with multiple other states has officially proclaimed November 2023 as Family Court Awareness Month!💙 Progress is being made, slowly but surely. This is not a partisan issue, so it doesn’t matter what Governor signed it…Republican Governors are on board across the country too. This epidemic of a broken system affects more families than you could even begin to imagine; it’s way past time for reform. Next step — Kayden’s Law (or a differently named equivalent) for Michigan! 💜

09/19/2023

Any of this sound familiar? Welcome to the cycle of Post Separation Abuse. I know it feels completely hopeless, but with a good team in place, it’s NOT. If any of this resonates with you at all, get in touch with me today for a free consult and we can talk about how I can help you. You and your sweet babies do NOT need to live this way.

06/22/2023

Everyone is at a different phase in their journey. Maybe you’re still together and just feel something isn’t right. Maybe you’ve just left. Maybe you’ve been separated and starting divorce or custody proceedings. Maybe you’re dealing with Post Separation Abuse. Or maybe it’s been years that you’ve been on this emotional rollercoaster. No matter what stage you’re in, it’s completely normal to have thoughts like ”what on earth was I thinking?” or “how did I agree to compromise on so many of my core values?” or “how did I not SEE it?” Be kind to yourself. Relationships are intense, and we often excuse or compromise things that are extremely important to us to try to make them work. You’re willing to compromise your faith, or you’re willing to change your mind about having more kids or not. In the beginning, it feels worth it; everything seems magical, we’re head over heels, and we’re willing to overlook some of the red flags or our gut instincts. And often, people are hiding who they really are and put their best foot forward until they feel that you’re in it for the long haul and won’t leave. And the problems start as minor ones, trickling into the relationship so slowly that you don’t even notice. Oftentimes we don’t even realize there’s abuse occurring; hindsight is always 20/20. Instead of dwelling on the past, look at it as a lesson…something you now recognize, and will never allow to happen again. If you’re struggling to move on due to the or , reach out to me. I can help coach you through the process of breaking that hold they seem to have on you, especially if you can’t go no contact because you have kids together. You don’t need to feel this way or do it alone. Reach out today to become YOU again, and move forward towards the life you DESERVE.

06/22/2023

Adding on to the earlier post about the differences between PTSD vs C-PTSD 💜

06/21/2023

Let’s talk about C-PTSD. A singular traumatic act results in standard Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (a car accident, a buglary, an event in war). These are singularly events, which makes it easier to treat. But with C-PTSD, COMPLEX Post Traumatic Stress Disorder, the event isn’t a one time occur since. The trauma keeps repeating, and just when you think you’re leaning tools to cope, another trauma takes place. It’s extremely hard to treat or get past a traumatic event when the event keeps happening. This bear analogy is a great one, because essentially, your nervous system doesn’t differentiate from trauma. And with narcissistic abuse, on going high conflict custody battles, substance use issues, that bear keeps escaping its cage, and the cycle starts all over again.

The good news, is there are tools to handle C-PTSD. There are things you can do by regulating your nervous system, ways that you can intereact with your abuser, and tools you can use to put the bear back in its cage. If this sounds like something with which you’re struggling, send me a message. We can tackle this together and get your life back 💜