Michael Pezzullo, LMFT

Michael Pezzullo, LMFT Psychotherapist in West Hollywood. Online throughout CA & FL. Coaching for Gay Men worldwide.

12/07/2025

A Gay Therapist Reacts to a “Conversion” Therapist 🤦🏻‍♂️

Conversion therapists still exist… so I decided to hear this one out. I watched the entire interview on the — and honestly? It’s a joke.

His big claim: gay men are “hesitant” because they’re gay… and if we weren’t gay, we’d magically be more assertive. All based on a tiny anecdote.

He keeps referencing an “entire body of literature”… but never says where it is (because it doesn’t exist).

Then he drops the classic: “Gay men didn’t have good relationships with their fathers.” That’s the whole theory. Meanwhile, plenty of straight guys had zero relationship with their dads.

Imagine paying an “expert” for that.

Curious what you guys think :)

12/06/2025

Gay Is Not a Trauma Response.

There are so many theories about how people “become gay”—and a lot of them get weaponized by homophobic voices like Tucker Carlson.

As a gay men’s therapist, here’s the truth:
🏳️‍🌈 Being gay is not a trauma response.

There’s zero evidence that childhood trauma makes someone gay.

And the whole “trauma response” framework doesn’t even fit the narrative people are pushing.

Let’s stop pathologizing gay people and start talking about what’s actually true.

12/05/2025

Gay Therapist Responds to Tucker Carlson:

brought on Milo yiannopoulos to “investigate” homos*xuality… and it might be the wildest excuse for journalism I’ve seen.

He pretends he’s confused about what “gay” even means. You know what it is — even if you don’t like it.

Then he goes into a long-debunked trauma narrative that traumatized kids are more likely to grow up gay. (They’re not).

It’s not an investigation. It’s just coded disapproval dressed up as curiosity.

And the irony? The whole performance is… let’s just say… not exactly the picture of traditional masculinity 😂😂

12/04/2025

2 Reasons Gay Men Are Emotionally Unavailable

It’s not that we don’t want connection — it’s that many of us were taught connection is dangerous.

Emotional unavailability usually means you’re guarded:
you don’t let people in, you keep things surface-level, and you run from vulnerability.

Why so closed off?
Most gay men grew up hiding parts of themselves — desires, crushes, identity, fears. When you spend years performing or masking, emotional expression doesn’t come naturally later.
You learn to hide, not to be seen.

And app culture reinforces it. You can curate a persona, avoid depth, and stay invisible. For many of us, being “seen” once meant danger — so distance feels safer.

👇 What do you guys think? Drop your thoughts in the comments :)

12/03/2025

G**s: is victimhood keeping you stuck?

I’m Michael — a gay therapist in West Hollywood.

A lot of us went through real trauma. But sometimes “victim” shifts from something that happened to us… to an identity we cling to.
That’s where we get stuck.

Most people won’t see your pain — they’ll treat you like a capable adult.
If you’re waiting for others to validate your wounds, you’ll stay frustrated.

Healing starts with you, not with being seen.

👇 Curious what you think.

5 Green Flags Every Gay Man Should Look For 🌈Your partner or boyfriend doesn’t need to have all of these traits, but if ...
12/02/2025

5 Green Flags Every Gay Man Should Look For 🌈

Your partner or boyfriend doesn’t need to have all of these traits, but if he does…he might just be a keeper.

Here are 5 more green flags for gay men:
1. He’s doesn’t brag about s*x.
2. He isn’t threatened by your growth.
3. He doesn’t view compromise as a negative.
4. He’s willing to let things go.
5. He doesn’t publicly criticize you.

What do you think? What green flags make your relationships healthier? Drop your thoughts in the comments :)

12/02/2025

Gay Men: He Can’t “Fix” You. Here’s why:

Hey, I’m Michael — a gay therapist in West Hollywood.

Too many gay men fall into the same trap: hoping a boyfriend or hookup will resolve their lifelong insecurities.

But it doesn’t work.

No partner can heal your childhood wounds.

You can. Take responsibility for your wellbeing, your confidence, and your growth.

That’s where real change starts.

👇 What’s your experience with this? Let me know, in the comments :)

12/02/2025

2 Tops Don’t Make A Bottom (Gay Therapist POV) 🔝

Hey, I’m Michael—a gay therapist in West Hollywood.

Gay men shouldn’t be reduced to a position.

But compatibility matters — a lot.

So let’s not pretend that it doesn’t. My take: set yourself up for fulfillment and satisfaction, rather than frustration and deprivation.

That’s my take.
Let me know your thoughts 👇

11/30/2025

Hey, I’m Michael—a gay therapist in West Hollywood.

There’s so much talk about how “gay men objectify each other too much.”

Honestly? I think that’s BS.

Objectification literally means valuing someone only for their physical attractiveness. And guess what?
You’re allowed to do that.

If you’re at a bar looking for a hookup, of course you’re checking out bodies. You’re not asking about their 401k or political beliefs. You’re looking at his .

If you want a long-term relationship, sure—other factors matter. But for hookups? Gay men can objectify each other just like straight men objectify women. It’s part of the context.

That’s my take.
Let me know your thoughts 👇

11/29/2025

For many gay men, family conflict runs deep. And sometimes the relationship gets so toxic that you consider the hardest boundary of all: no contact.

As a gay men’s therapist, here’s what I want you to know:

• It’s not always about s*xuality. Gay men cut off parents for all kinds of reasons—not just because they’re gay.
• It’s a last resort. Once you start an estrangement, you can’t fully undo it.
• Personality issues matter. When a parent is impossible to reason with, there’s often deeper psychological patterns at play.
• Ask yourself this: How do I feel after talking to them? If it feels like swallowing glass, that matters.
• There’s no “winning.” Going no contact doesn’t feel liberating at first—it often brings guilt, grief, and confusion.

If you’re navigating this… you’re not alone.

Follow for more gay men’s mental health support. 🌈

11/27/2025

Want to make a killer first impression? Too many gay men undersell themselves on first dates. Here are 3 quick tips to make sure you show up with clarity, confidence, and authenticity:

1. Stop being vague. Have a clear point of view. Ambiguity creates doubt—give him a real sense of you.
2. Show self-worth. When you value yourself, he will too. Confidence is contagious.
3. Be authentic. Nothing is more attractive than someone who’s grounded and sincere.

What do you guys think? Let me know, in the comments :)

11/25/2025

Gay Men & Holiday Loneliness 🏳️‍🌈

The holidays hit gay men differently.
Some of us are distant from family… others don’t have a strong chosen family yet… and the season can feel way more isolating than it looks on social media.

As a gay men’s therapist, here are 4 quick tips to cope with holiday loneliness:

✨ Stay off social media (comparison spirals are REAL)
✨ Create structure—don’t wait to “feel better”
✨ Reach out, even with a simple “Happy Holidays” text
✨ Use the quiet time to reflect on where you invest your energy

You’re not the only gay man feeling this way — you’re just not seeing it online. Tell me your experience in the comments :)

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