01/12/2026
A lot of people don’t know this, but I graduated with a degree in Law Enforcement & Human Services.
I applied to 27 police departments. Interviewed with 13.
And eventually made my decision to work with Mille Lacs County Jail a small town with big problems, but also a powerful sense of community and a deep hunger for change.
As a Black woman working in a small-town jail, I’ve seen the full spectrum of fear, misunderstanding, burnout, Mental Health issues and broken systems on both sides of the bars.
And I’ve learned something powerful:
💥 Your VOICE — Your WORDS — are the most POWERFUL TOOL you’ll ever have.
I know what it’s like to grow up afraid of police.
To see loved ones arrested. To visit jails.
To live in the fear and silence that trauma creates.
But now I’ve also wear the uniform.
I’ve seen the system from the inside.
I’ve heard the cries, the stories, the pain.
And I’ve seen how quickly things escalate often out of fear, frustration, or simply not knowing what to do.
So I want to share this, from a place of lived experience:
When dealing with law enforcement especially in high-stress or emotional situations education can save lives.
⚠️ Tips for Staying Safe in High-Tension Situations with Law Enforcement:
•Stay Calm & Communicate Clearly.
Your attitude and tone matter. Take a breath before you speak.
•Keep Your Hands Visible.
Roll windows down. Place your hands on the wheel. Avoid sudden movements.
•Record If Needed — But Say So.
“Officer, I’m recording for both of our safety.” This sets a tone of protection, not confrontation.
•Have ID, Insurance & Registration Ready.
Move slowly and tell the officer what you’re doing as you reach.
•Don’t Drive Away. Don’t Resist. Don’t Fight.
Even if you believe you’re in the right de-escalation is the priority.
• Be HONEST
Officer I am scared right now and nervous
(I bet he or she is also…they are human too)
You can challenge actions after, with safety and support behind you.
Control What You Can: Your Thoughts, Emotions, & Output.
You can’t control every situation but you can control your attitude, effort, your energy, and your response.
Your Life > Proving a Point.
Don’t let one heated moment turn into a lifelong tragedy. There are ways to fight injustices safely and strategically.
And let’s be real: a lot of officers are overworked, underpaid, and living in burnout, anxiety, depression, ptsd, and fear. That doesn’t excuse misconduct but it helps us understand the urgency of trauma-informed change on both sides.
This is why education matters.
This is why conversations matter.
And this is why you matter.
Let's raise awareness, not tension.
Let's be smart, not scared.
Let’s come together and create a future where respect, education, and community lead the way not fear.
Be Safe and Educate! Share.Share..Share…Thank YOU