05/11/2025
Today, I want to speak about the anatomy of love.
Not love as an emotion or romance —
but love as a physiological state of the nervous system.
Love is not something we feel only in the heart.
Love is a specific biochemical and neurological state that occurs when the nervous system is regulated.
When the nervous system is in safety,
the brain releases oxytocin, endorphins, and serotonin.
Heart rhythm becomes coherent — smooth, stable, harmonious.
Breathing slows.
Muscles relax.
The mind becomes clear.
In this state, we feel warm, open, connected, grounded, and present.
This is what we call love —
but biologically, it is nervous system coherence.
Now, when the nervous system is in survival mode,
the body releases cortisol and adrenaline.
The heart rhythm becomes erratic.
The breath becomes shallow.
The mind moves into defensiveness, fear, hypervigilance, or withdrawal.
In this state, we cannot access love —
not because we don’t want to —
but because the body is protecting itself.
Calm, slow emphasis:
So love is not the absence of pain.
Love is the absence of threat.
When I say “return to love,”
I am speaking about returning the nervous system to safety, regulation, and coherence.
This is why love feels like home.
And why trauma makes love difficult —
because trauma trains the body to live in constant survival, even when life is safe now.
So love is not something we find.
Love is something we remember,
when the nervous system is allowed to soften.
In the next lesson, we will explore the frequency of love —
how the heart generates an electromagnetic field that influences the body, the mind, and even the space around us.
Thank you for being here.
Until next time — breathe gently, and allow your body to feel safe.”
