My TMS Journey - your stress illness survival guide

05/01/2026

Podcast Episode · Feel Better, Live More with Dr Rangan Chatterjee · 02/02/2025 · 2h 2m

05/01/2026

Sometimes the greatest threat to the nervous system isn’t what happened in the past, it’s the force we bring into the present.

The urgency. The pressure to heal faster. The inner voice that says, “Why isn’t this working yet?” The constant scanning for whether symptoms are better or worse.

Even when it’s well-intentioned, that energy still reads as danger to a protective system.

Your body doesn’t know the difference between “I need to fix this” and “I’m not safe like this”. Both feel like a threat.

This is why healing so often stalls when it becomes about pressure and control, both dynamics that are likely very well practised! And why symptom management can quietly keep the nervous system on high alert, and seemingly doing all the right things can still feel like a dead end.

Safety isn’t built through discipline, it’s built through devotion. A relationship where the body no longer feels hunted by the healing process and it finally has the space to soften. That's when change becomes possible.

If this resonated, let me know, and maybe share it with someone who’s been trying really hard to get better.

With love and admiration always.

Dani ❤️🙏
mytmsjourney.com

23/12/2025

Maybe you’ve been in survival mode for so long it just feels normal, I know I did.

Maybe the symptoms keep flaring no matter how hard you try to regulate (same here).

Maybe you’ve done all the “right” things, the journaling, the meditating, the mindset work, the allowing, the exposure, and still find yourself spiralling, shutting down, or bracing for the next wave to hit.

It doesn’t mean you’re broken. It could just mean your system’s been carrying too much, for too long.
And what it needs now is not another plan or needs to perfect.

If you're anything like me what you need is permission to feel. To soften. To be met right where you're at.

That’s exactly why I created my two courses currently both half price.

🌀 Foundations — for understanding your symptoms and healing the fear at the root.

💭 Embodiment — for safely feeling + expressing your emotions without overwhelm.

If 2026 is the year you stop overriding yourself
and start healing in a way that actually feels good in your body…

Comment "masterclass" and I’ll send you the details to help you choose the best place to begin.

No pressure. No performance. Just the kind of support that speaks human, not hustle!!

Let's really look after ourselves shall we? 😍🙏.

Dani 🌹🌹
mytmsjourney.com

23/12/2025

Let’s do a quick experiment 🔥

Take a sec and say out loud:

“I’m allowed to do what’s best for me, even if it upsets
others.”

How did that feel? Do you believe it? Do you live it?

For those of us struggling with High-Functioning Codependency (HFC), this might feel impossible. 😰

You’ve likely spent years over-giving, over-doing, and prioritizing everyone else’s needs to keep the peace.

Here’s the truth:
-You are NOT responsible for other people’s feelings.
-Saying yes to yourself doesn’t make you selfish.
-You can show love and still honor your own boundaries.

HFC often leads us to believe that our worth is tied to being everything to everyone—prioritizing others’ needs over our own.

But the truth is, your worth isn’t conditional on what you do for others. you are worthy just as you are. 💛

P.S. If this hits home, my book Too Much: A Guide to Breaking the Cycle of High-Functioning Codependency is your next step toward reclaiming your time, energy, and peace. Because loving others starts with loving yourself. 💛

22/12/2025

It's no coincidence if your symptoms are flaring right now.

It's not failure that's your body trying to survive a season that demands more than it gives.

You’re not lazy.

You’re not too much.

You’re not broken because you need rest, softness, space.

You’re allowed to not feel festive or want to feel festive but don't.

You’re allowed to want different things.

You’re allowed to cope however you need to, without shame.

Tis the season to meet ourselves gently.

To stop fighting the symptoms and understanding their message.

To start listening to them.

You don’t need to force regulation this season, you just need one safe place to land.

This can be it, this moment, this realisation that what's happening in your body and mind tracks, it's working biologically 'perfectly' given the circumstances.

Breathe easy friend, my DMs are always open. I've had so many messages asking for help recently, maybe we should do a free community zoom call to soften the edges together this week, what do you think? Open to ideas.

With love and admiration always.

Dani ❤️👏
mytmsjourney.com

19/12/2025

Self-respect grows in the quiet moments when you choose not to abandon yourself just to keep the peace. Each time you honor your truth instead of shrinking it, you build a relationship with yourself that feels steady, grounded, and real. That is where confidence deepens, not in approval, but in self-trust.

Peace will never come from bending yourself into something more comfortable for people who are committed to misunderstanding you. It comes from knowing you showed up honestly, even if it cost you access, validation, or familiarity. Choosing yourself is not selfish. It is the foundation of a life that actually feels like your own.

19/12/2025

You figure it out every single time. Keep going.

19/12/2025

17/12/2025

Good morning everyone. Keep going.

16/12/2025

If “just let it go” has ever made you want to punch someone and made you feel like a failure - this is for you 😊.

There’s a whole catalogue of wellness advice online that sounds empowering on the surface - but feels like pressure when you’re carrying trauma.

For folks that have never had any of these things modelled to them or are so completely disconnected from themselves these ideas can feel like a gun to the head.

Maybe you’ve felt stumped at or triggered by statements like:

“Release what no longer serves you.”
“Show up no matter what.”
“Stop fearing your symptoms.”
“Gratitude heals everything.”
“54321 - do the thing.”
“You need more discipline.”
“Cold showers and breathwork every day.”
“Happiness is a choice.”
“Everything is mindset.”
“God only gives you what you can handle.”
“You just need to forgive.”
“Get out of your comfort zone.”
“Everything happens for a reason.”
“Let them.”

If those things fill you with dread or make you feel like a failure, it’s not because you’re broken. It’s because they may not be considering the nuance of the audience they're trying to help. Or how someone with trauma may receive them.

They don’t take into account what happens when your nervous system has learned that feelings = danger. Or that slowing down = collapse.
Or that feeling too much = rejection. Or doing too much = burnout.

They weren’t built for those of us that have spent their whole lives dissociating in freeze. Or who wake up already braced unable to move. Who knows every theory - but still flinches when their body tries to speak.

On this side of the internet, we don’t fix and regulate on demand, we rebuild trust.
We start where the wounds broke you open.
Where the world told you to numb.
We slow down before we go deep.
We honour the part of you that’s still protecting what hurt too much to hold.

And from there, we begin.

Please don't let social media influencers convince you that you're not healing unless XYZ. Your journey is unique, and so are the strategies that will help you the most.

If this resonates I'm sure you have others that make you roll your eyes. What have I missed?

Always with love.

Dani ❤️👇
mytmsjourney.com

12/12/2025

I repost this every once on a while, because it's 100000000% truth. The book is coming ❤️❤️