What strikes me most especially through my recent connection with the Black Madonna, is how the absence of the Crone has flattened women’s inner lives.
Without that dark, rooted feminine, girls grow into women who know how to please, but not how to belong to themselves.
The Black Madonna is the part of a woman that stands in the dark and feels utterly self-owned. She’s boundaries, dignity, instinct, and compassion that doesn’t need to be liked. I feel when she grounds in a woman, Virgin and Mother stop being roles and become expressions of inner sovereignty.
29/10/2025
Find Your Spark Again ✨
Step 1 — Feel your feelings.
Don’t push anything away. Let it be there — sadness, anger, fear, even boredom.
Sit and breathe with it. Let yourself really feel it.
Step 2 — Listen to your body.
Your body always knows where life still flows. Listen to sensations, invite deeper presence. Move slowly. Notice what wakes up inside you.
Step 3 —Presence.
Do something that makes you feel alive — a song, a story, a walk, sunlight on your skin, your own touch.
Be there fully, even if it’s just a moment.
Your spark isn’t lost. It can only be dormant during the time of deeper integration. Those small moments count. They are like seeds that will not only grow but also help you remember your essence. When you listen to your body, your feelings and your glimmers, you get to know yourself more.
Your spark awaits. Surrender to it. All is well. 🌟
24/10/2025
About Archetypes and Meaning
In my supervision group, we opened a question:
Is it possible to embody certain archetypes — especially the ones that represent transcendence?
The answer was: no, not fully.
That question touched something very personal for me.
For years, I’ve been writing a fantasy novel — a story about a boy, a unicorn, and a quest.
It’s fantasy, but also a psychological journey, something archetypal and universal that came to me more than I consciously created it.
And yet, I’ve never felt it’s time to publish it.
Maybe because I still don’t fully allow myself to embody it.
One of the central archetypes in the story is the unicorn — not the pastel, cartoon version, but the unicorn that was a central figure in medieval mythology, a symbol of Christ, of divine purity and transcendence.
In my own process, I realized that the longing for that purity surpasses the reality of the body — and perhaps it’s not meant to be fulfilled.
The only way I could touch it was through a moment of deep peace.
When the archetype reaches the realm of the flesh, it changes quality — and that, in itself, gives meaning.
And when I asked even deeper — what is the meaning of life? — the answer came so simply: to be alive.
Maybe transcendence isn’t something we’re meant to embody, but something that breathes through us — in our humanity, in our longing, in the very act of being here.
In this moment, in this life, in the messiness of being human and part of this glorious nature that surrounds us.
20/10/2025
Here’s a quick, playful way to get to know the more human side of me. 🌟
I answered around 20 random questions in 2 minutes. Some fun, some surprising, all little pieces of who I am.
Not my usual deep dive, just a peek into the lighter, more random side of me. 💙
Which answer do you relate to most?
16/10/2025
The deeper you go, the more you expand.
I am back home from Core Soma training in Croatia and a supervision intensive, exploring the theme of abandonment.
It was intense, swirling through old patterns, early wounds, and memories that live in the muscles themselves. One might wonder, after years of personal growth and therapy, will this ever be over?
The answer is: no. These parts of us remain. But here’s the magic: we don’t change, we expand.
For example, there are parts of me that still get triggered by loud noises and old fears, yet now there’s also a compassionate, inner, archetypical mother who knows how to hold them. This expansion is what sovereignty feels like: fully inhabiting your domain, fully alive in your body, fully present in your life.
Core Soma is helping me stay grounded. My being tends to live in imagination and ideas, but the deeper I am in the body, the more I witness synchronicities and alignments in real life. My visions begin to manifest in the physical world, not just in my mind.
✨ This work reminds me that embodiment is the path of living your vision and your purpose fully.
If you’ve ever wondered how deep somatic work can amplify both personal and professional life, send me a DM for a session or collaboration.
16/09/2025
You can imagine endlessly, but without your body, it stays a dream.
I’ve always lived in imagination. I could spend hours, even days, exploring worlds inside my mind - creating, dreaming, envisioning. And imagination is real. It’s a living force, a place where insight, curiosity, and possibility arise. But here’s the catch: if you never bring it into the body, it can also trap you. You stay floating in potential, never really arriving in the moment where life happens.
The body is what makes imagination tangible, alive, and integrated. Every movement, every breath, every sensation grounds ideas into reality. When we feel our visions in our bodies, when we allow the heart, the breath, the posture, the senses to participate, imagination lands. It becomes something we can move with, act on, and inhabit fully.
There’s a profound dialogue between body and mind: imagination sparks the journey, embodiment anchors it in life. One without the other is incomplete. Together, they allow us to live our visions, not just think them.
Your imagination is sacred. Your body is its home. Give both space, and you’ll discover a life that is both richly imagined and fully lived.
13/09/2025
The spark in you is symbolically like the unicorn of medieval myth, not the cute, child-friendly cartoonish unicorn version we think of today.
In those old stories, the unicorn symbolized Christ: purity, love, divine, essence, something almost untouchable. Everyone tried to capture it. Everyone longed for it. But it couldn’t be tamed. Its impossibility left people in that strange space between longing and devotion, where you see the divine, but it also reflects your own human incompleteness.
Your spark is the same. It is sacred, untouchable, wild. It retreats when you run, hides when you avoid yourself, and waits in the corners of your being. That place of longing isn’t punishment, it’s a mirror showing you what you’re made of.
But longing can also keep you stuck if you never turn inward. Longing needs to find its way into the body. Into the here and now.
The way to embody it is to enter the cave: the silence, the stillness, the dark places inside yourself. Sit with the parts you hide, the parts that protect your spark. Because that’s what they do. Face what you’ve avoided. This is where your spark waits to be recognised, and lived through you.
Your spark is never lost. It’s sacred, wild and untamed. And it is essentially you.
19/08/2025
When did you start believing you had to earn your right to rest?
Maybe it was at 7 years old, when someone told you to try harder.
Maybe you were praised for being strong while hurting.
Maybe somewhere along the way, you decided love had to be earned.
You’ve been carrying that weight ever since.
Everything we don’t like about ourselves often gets pushed into the shadow. But the part that holds that shadow, the part that has been silently carrying your pain, is also the part that loves you deeply.
There is nothing inherently wrong with you. No matter what you’ve done, you always have the right to start over, to receive love, and to belong to yourself. You truly deserve that.
You are allowed to stop trying to be perfect now. You are allowed to be yourself. There is already a part of you that loves and cares for you unconditionally. It might feel dormant, but it is always available. It’s time to awaken to that love.
This is what we explore in Mastering the Art of Self-Compassion: a space to reconnect with yourself, embody self-care, and bring compassion into your everyday life. It’s not just about wordsy. We work with the energy of compassion itself, through practices that help you feel it, embody it, and bring it fully into your life.
Inside every defense there’s a younger part of you that survived.
It shows up as a critic, overachiever, the one who avoids or shuts down.
None of these started as flaws.They started as protection.
In therapy I see this again and again:
our bodies and our psyches don’t forget.
They hide what they can’t bear, and they wait, sometimes for decades, for enough love and safety to help carry it.
If this resonates, here are a few ways you can start meeting those parts differently:
➡️Pause before judging yourself. Instead of “what’s wrong with me?”, ask “what is this part trying to protect?”
➡️Bring it to the body. Notice where that tension, avoidance or harshness lives in you. A breath or gentle touch on that part tells the nervous system it’s safe to soften.
➡️Share it with someone safe. Defenses relax when we don’t have to hold them alone.
In therapy, we don’t tear down our defenses.
We focus on building a relationship with them so they no longer have to work so hard.
What’s one small way you can meet yourself with tenderness today?
08/07/2025
🍀Countertransference: When Presence Becomes the Practice
There’s a moment in every therapist’s journey where you realise you can’t rely on the methods anymore.
In the beginning, it’s all theory. You want to get it right. You study, you read, you learn the “how.” You practice the interventions, the right questions, the timing.
But eventually, you’re in the room, sitting across from a real human being and something happens in you.
Something contracts in your body, you have an inner reaction. Perhaps something opens, or you feel discomfort.
That’s countertransference.
And no matter how much we talk about it in training, nothing prepares you for the depth of it until you’re in it.
Donald Kalsched talks about how trauma creates a kind of inner ecosystem, a symbolic, protective, often sacred field that we unconsciously step into as therapists.
We enter the system. And the system enters us.
Our own inner protectors show up. Parts of us get activated, sometimes subtly, sometimes not.
And the beauty and difficulty of this work is:
we can’t always separate what’s “ours” and what’s “theirs” in the moment.
Because it’s happening through resonance.
Through our nervous systems. Through what’s unspoken but felt.
Peter Levine’s work reminds us how essential regulation is, not just for the client, but for us.
But “regulation” doesn’t mean staying calm or composed or getting it right.
It means staying in contact. With our own bodies, breath, and impulses.
Supervision should be a space to digest. To feel. To make sense. To be human and therapist at the same time.
I remember when my teacher said to me: “We’re not here to rescue anyone.
There’s no one technique that will ever be “the answer.”
What matters is your presence.”
It’s presence not just with our clients, but with ourselves. With everything that’s moving inside. With what we don’t understand yet.
Because all of that is what our client’s nervous system is already sensing. Not consciously.
And when we are willing to be with ourselves, something shifts in the field. Something organizes.
That’s where healing happens.
Not because we “do” it. But because our presence awakes theirs.
And that is what heals/brings back into wholeness.
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Body-oriented psychotherapy is an integrative approach to human consciousness. In body-oriented psychotherapy, we use the body as a map of the psyche. Every form of trauma, hurt, neglect, and discomfort is stored somewhere in the body and is preventing us from experiencing our true potential and inner truth. Once freed from protection patterns, our bodies become an incredible treasury of pleasure, aliveness, and inner wisdom.
In body-oriented therapy, apart from talk, the body is used as a tool for expressing emotions, most often suppressed emotions such as sadness, anger, or fear. We do this by tracking the impulse in the body and discovering the story behind the impulse. For example, when I feel pain in my heart what is that related to? Where do I feel fear in my body and what are the circumstances that cause it?
We use breath and movement as a tool for releasing and allowing emotions. When we allow ourselves to feel one emotion, we open ourselves up to different kinds of emotions. Without this, we are stuck in the single emotion we are trying to suppress. We do this because we are afraid the pain is all there is and therefore we choose what is safe, otherwise known as the comfort zone. Often, we are more afraid of the positive and unexplored rather than the negative and familiar experiences. For that reason, we get stuck in a vicious circle.
Through this therapeutic process we learn how to respond to our own needs, set boundaries, sort important from unimportant. We learn how to self regulate emotionally and heal. From there we can experience and allow what has always been there: our natural state of being, such as pleasure, trust, joy, and expansion. We come to realize that all of our experiences, both pleasant and unpleasant, have brought us something beyond measurement: the wisdom.
Wisdom helps us to accept our human self and opens us up to a fulfillment of one's own potential of an embodied mastery. Life is happening in our body in the now moment and the only wisdom you'll ever need is already within, you just have to learn how to reach it.
