15/10/2025
Lately I’ve been sitting with how often birth workers get ate up… not for causing harm, but for making safety based decisions that still honor autonomy. There’s this strange tension between intuition and expertise… as if we can’t hold both.
As if being trauma informed, evidence based, and compliant with standards somehow cancels out the sacred wisdom that lives in every woman and every body. I see doulas, midwives, and nurses walking tightropes… trying to PROTECT birthing people while still centering their voice, their agency, their story. (Yes! It can be BOTH) And sometimes? That means making calls that outsiders won’t understand.
It’s not betrayal to the birth plan. It’s discernment!
I know that safety and sovereignty aren’t opposites… they’re dance partners.
We don’t need more “experts” talking at families. Or about community birth workers.
We need systems that support intuition and information, not a culture that pits them against each other. Let’s stop mistaking nuance for contradiction. Let’s stop eating our own. Let’s remember that real birthwork is about connection… not control.
Don’t fall for that, it’s misogyny.
