The Women's Hair Loss Project

29/10/2025

Loving myself means doing the things necessary to not lose years of my life to hair loss. For me, that includes wearing wigs and shaving my head.

Some people like to tell women to just “love themselves as they are,” meaning go out with your thinning, balding head and be content with that. That’s not loving myself.

Loving myself means doing what feels true and authentic, what helps me feel most like me.

We can love ourselves, wear wigs, and still hate the things we need to do for our hair loss, all at the same time. It’s about adapting and finding a way to make this work in your life. And the only one who needs to get it… is you.

Losing our hair is traumatic. There are profound implications that come with it, and for me, that included the feeling of losing myself completely.

Please know: your feelings and grief are valid. The loss is real.

We get to decide how to make this work in our lives, even if we don’t love the things we need to do.
Even though I don’t love what I have to do, those things have helped me reclaim my life and move forward. 💕

XOXO ~ Y

Loving myself means doing the things necessary to not lose years of my life to hair loss. For me, that includes wearing wigs and shaving my head.Some people ...

17/10/2025

This is my annual dermatologist visit update. I discuss why I wouldn’t attempt to grow my hair back out regardless of what her findings were going to be. Hair loss is layered and complex. I’ve lived with female pattern baldness for 26 years and got a new type, an autoimmune hair loss in 2022. That is what this appt is related to.

Autoimmune hair loss, unlike female pattern baldness is actually a type of hair loss that can spontaneously reverse, so while my doctor's findings wouldn’t change what I plan on continuing to do for my sanity in living with hair loss at this point in my life - shaving my head, wearing wigs etc., I was curious if things were better.

This video is less about treatments and more about the reality of my situation, acceptance, my thought process (in processing all of it) and how I approach it, the reasons for why I do what I do, and the freedom that comes with it for me. XOXO ~Y

This is my annual dermatologist visit update. I discuss why I wouldn’t attempt to grow my hair back out regardless of what her findings were going to be. Hai...

08/10/2025

There’s a lot to learn when buying a wig, but one thing that often gets missed is how easily you can spend thousands… and end up with something you can’t even wear.

Understanding the fine print of a return policy is critical. Add ons like lace cutting, color, face framing layers may seem helpful, but they often void your return, before you’ve even tried the wig on.

Every lace front fits differently, even from the same brand. You can’t assume anything will fit until you check it... properly and thoroughly.

A glueless lace front wig should be exactly that: glueless. But many women end up needing glue or tape because they weren’t shown how to check lace fit in advance.

Wigs can be empowering, or defeating. Protect your peace (and your wallet) by getting informed before you cut, part, or customize anything.

Much love
XOXO ~Y ❤️

There’s a lot to learn when buying a wig, but one thing that often gets missed is how easily you can spend thousands… and end up with something you can’t eve...

04/10/2025

I’m shaving my head live due to hair loss, and decided to turn on the camera while I do, no editing, no production. Just raw and real in real time.

Even though my hair is short, when it starts to grow back in, the thinning areas become more visible (even if not seen to viewers on camera), they are real, visible and start to not make me feel so great and I prefer to stay ahead of that. Full Live Video: https://www.youtube.com/live/K0BhZx9k5_Q?si=TLg0X4kpJsgjFp_5

02/10/2025

Dealing with hair loss can be overwhelming, confusing and scary, but the ability to heal within this is real, it exists. It is easy for hair loss to overtake our lives if we don't make proactive steps towards reclaiming our power within this.

This episodes shares what that process has looked like for me, even present day. I lived at the mercy of hair loss for years... wanting to hide, unable to feel free in any way. That began to change when my perspective on this shifted, when I started making the small but necessary choices to slowly take back control from the very thing that had crippled me for so long.

Whether you're just beginning or years in, you are not alone. Healing doesn't mean pretending it's easy, but it does sometimes mean making the hard choices for ourselves.

It means pushing against our own comfort zones so that the grip hair loss has had on us can begin to loosen, and in that loosening we start to find our way to live with this, to smile, to laugh. To feel more free to no longer be held captive by hair loss.

Episode available on YouTube: https://youtu.be/nkV0U-7Xvt4?si=S1TBUzWsY9PdJpPd

And Podcast available on Apple & Spotify.

27/09/2025

A WIG UP WITH ME, filmed this morning... I had to get my wig on anyways, so thought I'd bring you guys along ! Much love to all. xoxo ~ Y

Just something I filmed this morning, and decided to do a quickie Wig Get Ready With Me to discuss some wig basics and also the hairline customization on thi...

25/09/2025

I’ve been living with hair loss for over 26 years. I’ve tried nearly everything, from medication to supplements to procedures. This video isn’t medical advice. It’s my lived experience. My own, and that which has been shared with me by countless women over the past 18 years of connecting online with others dealing with this same issue.

There are things I wish I knew and understood when I first started losing my hair, things that I don’t think are often talked about online or off, not even in medical offices.

This is our hair and our life. And in order to make the best choices for ourselves, we need to have all the facts so we can feel good about the choices we do or do not make.

In this video, I cover:

• Why a treatment for hair loss is often a treatment for life
• How legitimate hair loss treatments can sometimes make hair loss worse
• The most commonly prescribed treatments for women
• Why starting treatment too early might lead to long term regret
• The risk of getting stuck on medications, whether or not they work
• The one question I wish I asked myself: Can I live with this decision 10 years from now?

These are the things I wish someone had told me.

I’ve been living with hair loss for over 26 years. I’ve tried nearly everything, from medication to supplements to procedures. This video isn’t medical advic...

19/09/2025

Wigs are not for everyone, but for many women who are that dealing with hair loss they have the potential to be life changing - it was for me. In this episode (link below) I discuss some of the mental barriers women are confronted with when considering wigs, and what holds them back.

Part of that is also the understanding that there really is no perfect wig, at least not to me - a wig is a wig is a wig - so by definition to me, it actually could never be perfect on that basis alone. That doesn't mean there aren't great wigs, and that you can't find your version of "the one" ... the one that makes you feel most like yourself again, but having perspective and realistic expectations (ahead of time) of what it is and isn't, can help us appreciate it more and potentially avoid the crashing disappointment of the fact our wig, is still in fact a wig and not a true and perfect replacement to our bio hair (it's not growing out of our head) - but just the same, it was life changing for me.

🎧Episode of The Women's Hair Loss Project Podcast:
Hair Loss and Wigs: What’s Holding You Back https://youtu.be/qHbOMb49g_8?si=AVmljNep8kklguCi also on Apple Podcasts and Spotify.

19/09/2025

If you’ve struggled with hair loss, but still haven’t taken the leap into wigs, and want to, let’s talk about what’s possibly holding you back.

In this video, I talk candidly about the common mental barriers that often stop people from moving forward, before they even try. This isn’t about which wig to buy or the perfect brand. This is about the emotional roadblocks, the fear of what others might think.

I’ve lived with hair loss for 26 years. I’ve worn wigs since 2012. And I shaved my head in 2023. I know what it’s like to lose yourself in the mirror, and what it’s like to finally see yourself again.

Whether you’re just starting to explore wigs, feeling unsure about telling people, or wondering how to live in this life between bio hair and wigs, this video is for you.

In this video, I cover:

• The fear of what other people will think
• The moment I “saw myself” again in the mirror after 13 years
• Why it’s okay that wigs aren’t perfect (and never will be)
• How to ease in, set realistic expectations, and get used to the feel
• The “dual hair life” - with and without a wig
• Why you don’t have to let 5% of your life (like the beach or gym) block 95% of your freedom
• Why I ripped my wig off in public (more than once)
• What not to wait for: the world’s validation

Wearing wigs might not be for everyone. But if it’s something you want to try, it can be freeing, empowering, and deeply healing. Just don’t let the opinions of others hold you hostage.

If you’ve struggled with hair loss, but still haven’t taken the leap into wigs, and want to, let’s talk about what’s possibly holding you back.In this video...

17/09/2025

There are some many stages, dynamics and aspects to hair loss and this journey. I don't think I probably ever really thought I'd have (HAVE - CAPS NEEDED) to shave my head or get to that point, but there came a time that did in fact become the ONLY option - in order to stay ahead of hair loss holding me back (as I had strived to do for over the decade since finding acceptance within this). There are no regrets, but that also doesn't mean I love it. Both things can be true. ❤️

🎙️ Episode of The Women's Hair Loss Project Podcast:
2 Years Later: Why I Shaved My Head for Hair Loss — Was It Worth It? https://youtu.be/LDlip2wwo9o?si=ZSfiLsyyHAIGNzp3 also on Apple Podcasts and Spotify.

16/09/2025

You know that Titanic gif, the one with the old woman saying, “It’s been 84 years”? Yeah… that’s how it feels waiting for someone to finally get it. To see YOU. To understand what you’re carrying.

The waiting for others to understand, holds us back. It's great if you have some that do, or even one, but it's not uncommon to find yourself constantly invalidated and dismissed in what you are feeling.

We cannot wait for others to get it, to learn to find ways to heal our heart, and soul.... to move forward. To validate ourselves within this process.

So here’s a reminder:

Your healing isn’t dependent on someone else’s understanding.
You don’t need their permission to name your pain, or your suffering. I use the word suffering, some women in hair loss land don't like the word suffering. I use it because I feel it is what accurately described what I went through and what I know to be true for many women dealing with this.

Healing comes from within us, and not waiting on someone else to validate our pain, no one needs to see it, the way you see it, live it and feel it. Your pain is real, valid, and sacred - now.

It's also a place we don't have to live in forever, though I know it often feels that way.

Sending you much love. xoxo

“You don't need someone to tell you your pain is real. You know it's real."
🖤 From Episode: “I Lost My Hair, I Lost Myself, and I Had To Heal Alone” -Women’s Hair Loss Project Podcast

14/09/2025

“Nobody has ever been shamed into healing.”
🖤 From Episode: “I Lost My Hair, I Lost Myself, and I Had To Heal Alone” -Women’s Hair Loss Project Podcast

If you’ve ever been told you were vain for grieving your hair loss...If you’ve ever been told to “just be grateful” while you felt like you were watching yourself disappear in the mirror...If you’ve ever shamed yourself because society taught you to doubt your worth and feelings...

I want you to know
You’re not broken.
You’re processing.
You’re surviving.

And in this, even when it doesn’t feel like you are, you are healing.

Even when it feels like you aren’t.

Every tear, every Google search, every video watched, every word read...is movement toward healing.
And healing is not a linear process.
It has ups, downs, backtracks, and restarts.

You can think you’ve got it “handled” with your method of making it work, and still find yourself dropped to your knees on a random Tuesday.

It happens. Hair loss is hard.

No awards will be handed out for denying your pain the best. To me, that’s not healing. Healing begins when we allow ourselves the right to feel what we feel. That’s part of the process.
I have a cartoon scroll of grief that’s unraveled across the 26 years of my hair loss life.

It’s a part of me. It doesn’t consume me - now, but it could, and it would even today, if I didn’t let myself move through each new wave.

New triggers.
New realities.
New grief.
New adaptations.

That includes processing a second hair loss.That includes living with a shaved head.And yes, the word is have to.
It is a choice, and it also isn’t
It’s survival.

There is no version of shame that leads to wholeness.You cannot shame or dismiss someone into self love, especially not over something like hair loss,where the grief is often invisible and relentless.

I see you. ❤️
Love to all, xoxo~Y