27/01/2026
After 5 years of being single and six weeks of living with my partner, it’s clear my relationship with myself needs a new operating system.
Lately I have been mourning the version of me who had spaciousness.
When I was single, and untethered for over 5 years, my time was wide open like the desert sky. Now life has structure, schedules, responsibilities, alarms, calendars, a six month 8 hour training program, and “Can dinner be ready by 6?”
That doesn’t mean I have abandoned myself.
It means my relationship with myself needs a new operating system.
I used to practice self-love with time.
Now I must practice self-love with intention.
First i had to stop comparing old me vs. now me.
This has been a challenge for me.
Though we are clearly two different people.
That’s like comparing a wide open ocean to a river. Both hold water. One just has banks.
I am not less free, I am just more contained.
And containment isn’t punishment. It’s refinement.
I had to setup non negotiable time for me.
Small blocks of time 10-20-30 mins.
Same time, same rhythm.
While still being honest with myself and choosing myself….
Saying “I’m not available tonight”
Going to bed early
Choosing rest over productivity
Honoring my energy like it’s currency
More micro moments like…
Five minutes of breathing in my car
One or two songs I blast that resets my soul
A walk without my phone
A shower where I don’t rehearse tomorrow and instead feel the water, allow it to wash my energy clean.
Presence restores faster than time.
I don’t need more hours , I need fewer leaks.
Lastly communication….
Healthy partners don’t compete with your self connection.
Example last night i came home from training and told my partner I am going to take a few minutes to myself before i start dinner.
I told him I needed to take care of me, show up for me. He understood and welcomed it.
If you disappear from yourself, the relationship will feel crowded fast. Resentment will build.
These are some things I am doing in a season of rebalancing and reorganization of my energy.
And a reminder that energy management is a full time job….. your full time job. Something i am thankful that I have mastered in many levels.
But you also don’t need to earn rest.
You don’t need to perform worthiness.
You already belong here.❤️
In March i will be reopening private mentorship.
I will be accepting one client to start with.
This won’t be for anyone. If you think you are ready to work with me at this level, reach out sooner than later to discuss and see if we are a good fit together.
This year isn’t about more healing.
It’s about embodiment, boundaries, and ex*****on. It’s the year of the fire horse.
Freedom that moves you like you are on fire.
That requires discipline and devotion.
I am not a general healer.
I am a Trauma to Authority Healer for emotionally intelligent women who are done looping. Who are ready to own their power, their energy.
We turn coal into diamonds are here! 😘