15/09/2025
Often when I'm talking to Wolf (my husband for those new to my page) I often see and feel his inner child, I know that his core wounds, came from his childhood, much like my own. Often when I feel angry or displeased, with his choices I remember that little boy that he speaks of and I can see why he makes the decisions he does or why he reacts to certain people and situations in a way that many would say is dysfunctional or rude or too people pleasey.
Now Wolf and I have travelled a very non traditional path, meeting in our mid thirties and supporting each other to beat addiction to drugs, alcohol, and cigarettes.We've had two beautiful children together and have helped each other raise the six children from our previous relationships too. We were friends first and in order to beat out addictions, we had to deep dive our core wounds.
We know each other in ways many couples can't understand, when I say that I married my best friend, I literally did. We have no secrets or illusions, we communicate openly and we are always honest even when it's bordering on painful. This has allowed us to meet and sit with each other's inner children. We know the way each other react to certain situations and why , but we also know how to nurture and hold each other in ways that create healing for these childhood versions of ourselves.
The majority of us live from the perspective of their inner child. Wether we were nurtured and loved, or neglected and abused. Wether we were loved but unseen, had to be strong when we needed to held or suffered from the loss of a loved one at a young age or raised by another. Those core memories, created our realities and therefore the true version of ourselves. Even if you think you are stronger for how you were raised or you understand that your parents didn't know any better or if you didn't come from any abuse and only love, our childhoods created the adults we now are.
We can't help who we fall in love with, and sometimes a healed person loves a broken person, or two healed people fall in love but don't have the same views on life because of how they were raised. Do you see?
So meeting your partners inner child and sitting with them can teach you why your person is sometimes so hard to understand, especially if they hide that child away or they stop connecting with that child themselves. You may also need to connect with your own inner child for similar reasons. You may also discover why you both love so deeply or why you are so compatible, either way meeting the inner child of your beloved is deeply healing and Soul nourishing.
Much love to you all
Charis Schultz 💜
