Caregiver Warrior

31/10/2025

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Discover how acts of compassion can help caregivers uphold dignity in care

31/10/2025

There are days when I feel as though the only thing I can do is show up. Then I feel guilty that I am not doing enough.

I was so wonderfully surprised recently when something I said during a meeting was repeated the next day by someone who said my words had inspired her to take a much needed self care action that was life changing.

I was not only delighted but overwhelmed with emotion. We never know when a action we take or things we say might make a difference in someone’s life.

The irony is that when I spoke those words, I was feeling as though I was “merely” showing up because I was exhausted, overwhelmed and stretched thin.

Thinking I wasn’t “doing enough”.

Yet because I showed up, I was in the room, and unknowingly shared something that really meant something.

We disregard the impact we have. Even when we “just” show up.

Imagine if I haven’t shown up.

So the next time you are thinking you are just showing up and not making a difference, think again.

We don’t get to choose the difference we make.

But we can choose whether we are willing to show up to make it.

Showing up is award winning.

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29/10/2025

I can get so whipped up and run around like a maniac when I feel like I’m losing control.

I completely overcompensate.

When I begin to feel my body go into flight or fight I know I’m in trouble if I don’t bring it all back down.

I’ve learned to try and stop what I’m doing and “take it down a notch” as my Dad would say.

Breathe deep, slow it down, take it easy, first things first, task at hand and the serenity prayer in any particular order I can pull them off.

Chaos creates more chaos.

Calm begets calm.

So breathe. You’ll get there.

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28/10/2025

Endless. Caregiving struggle and challenge can feel as though it’s endless. We must remind ourselves, it’s a season, and seasons change.

Everything is temporary.

The pain, the worry, the joy, the relief. All temporary.

Look up from the fray and look around. It’s will shift, it will all change and now will be the past before we know it.

Don’t lose sight of the fact that what we do right now makes a difference for the future.

Take heart. The light is coming.

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27/10/2025

We map out our days in caregiving with great detail. We rely on plans, schedules and routines.

We rarely get to follow them exactly as we hope to or have them fall into place the way they should.

It’s then that we can stay rigid and break or bend with the wind.

Nature shows us how to work with it.

Birds travel with intention but jump on the wind for help or let it take them on a glide another way or to another place.

If we could just jump on the wind in our caregiving and not fight it.

We would get there eventually, and have experienced a moment or two of gliding and looking around.

Wouldn’t that be so much better than breaking?

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24/10/2025

Where’s the rule book? Oops! There isn’t one. So give up trying to please everybody!

No one has all the answers.

There isn’t a single path.

Every journey is different.

We can request feedback and seek wisdom from those who walked before us, and they can help us shine a light.

But we hold the lantern, and walk our own way.

Trust yourself and your unique set of skills to get the job done and be the perfect caregiver for those you serve.

No one does it like you, and no one will make the same difference you make in the world.

Do you. The universe will thank you.

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20/10/2025

I can get so focused the problems of today, I forget all the times I faced similar challenges in the past.

Although it’s hard at the time, remembering past success can shine a light on the present struggle.

Life on life terms has shown me that I’m equipped and ready to fight the good fight always.

It may not be pretty or turn out the way I hoped or imagined but I can pretty much claim victory for lots of rough days and even rougher times.

Walking through fire has become a talent I now possess and I believe this is true for all of us.

The only prerequisite to claiming this super power is the fact that we are still standing and able to talk about it.

Which is no small accomplishment.

So stare down that rough day. You won’t be blinking anytime soon. You are ready and willing to win the match.

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17/10/2025

Running around like a race horse might feel like it’s an effective way to get things done but the old saying “haste makes waste” has never been truer.

In today’s warp speed world of noise and overwhelm, trying to keep pace and outrun the clock ends with us missing the mark and feeling exhausted.

Things get missed, everyone involved gets rattled and we usually end having to compensate for mistakes or omissions.

Easy does it.

Take the time to slow down, be present, do the task at hand, amd stay focused.

The list will dwindle, the pressure will release, the job will get done, and satisfaction will replace panic.

Slowing down speeds things up. What we do with purpose and concentration always turns out for the best.

Which is all we can hope for.

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14/10/2025

Do not overthink it. We can get stuck going over and over it. Make the decision, then make it right.

14/10/2025

Decisions made in caregiving are never run of the mill. Even the smallest decisions can have a serious impact. That’s why we can ruminate and analyze to a fault.

We end up going over and over the results and consequences and liabilities….

And it can paralyze us.

It can get us stuck, unable to move forward for fear of the whole enchilada blowing up in our faces.

Listen, it might blow up and it might not. Over thinking it is not going to protect us against that. We have take a deep breath and let it fly.

We need to get in, get done, get out.

We need to believe in ourselves and all the good decisions we’ve already made.

We need to take the action, make the decision, then make it right.

And move on. To the next decision.

We will look back and know in our hearts that the hundreds of decisions we made were the best choices at the time.

In the long run, we are human, have good intentions, are showing up for others and that’s more than enough for one lifetime.

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13/10/2025

When I recently shared with a NP that I had brain surgery she told me I didn’t look like it and added “we don’t look like what we’ve been through!”

What a wise take on how we walk through life.

It struck me that this was so absolutely true for caregivers and therein lies one of the biggest challenges we face.

For the most part we look like we have it all together most of the time. Rarely do we exude the depth of the struggle we are in.

We may look tired or stressed but we are always in the midst of crisis management firing on all cylinders looking like we have it all covered.

We never look like what we are going through.

How would anybody ever know?

And how would they ever understand that we might need help. Our scream is silent.

Add on to that our hesitation to speak up and we might never get support unless we give ourselves permission to ask for it.

We must remember that as we drive ourselves so hard to make things work seamlessly; that the outside world only sees how well we pull it all off.

Forget about looking good. Worry about opening up and letting those that love us know that it’s not so easy being a caregiver and we could use a hand.

They can’t often see it and are waiting on us. Don’t keep them waiting.

10/10/2025

I spend way too much time in the past. Even though I’m aware that I do it, I still find myself hanging out there.

I don’t want to discredit the value my past holds. After all, I have learned so much in my big, rich hard lived life but loitering in my memories often distracts me from my present.

I can take the lessons learned and the wisdom I’ve been granted and pull that knowledge into my now.

The present is a much better place for that experience.

It’s more useful here.

I can look back without staring.

This allows me to appreciate where I’ve been but look forward to where I’m going.

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