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02/12/2025

Advocacy is scary..
It’s messy.
It feels unsafe.
It’s hard work.
You cannot brush your hair much..

😂😂😂😂

We haven’t got this..
But we MUST not give up..

We have a right to safe education, safe homes and safe lives.

01/12/2025

01/12/2025

This is for the sake of public interest and to safeguard others. I won’t name officers but believe me, they are named in my legal contact with Devon & Cornwall Police.

Avon and Somerset Police also need to explain why they are asking police to contact me about R**e cases.. maybe they should just crack on with the property fraud case..

In the last 3 days I have been contacted about a crime and told by local officers that they have no record of them…

I confirm here.. I have not recently reported ANY new R**e crimes, but all genuine officers in Devon police will be aware of the reports etc made and transferred this year.

Not ONLY are these police attending to discuss open investigations..

I also have markers on my name so ALL police know they cannot come to my home without calling me and making sure I have an additional adult present… my father.

Yet over the last 3 days SEVEN separate police from Exmouth station all male ‘officers’ have fully ignored safeguarding rules and in fact the legal limits of their positions;

👉First 2 male officers on Saturday attended my home and spoke to my 17yr old son. He did amazing and asked to record. So they are aware of filming. Therefore I’m posting. The officer randomly said they were made aware of crimes by Avon police and wanted to check they were recorded as they have no information regarding them.. like.. what? The card this guy left has a number that doesn’t work and an email that bounces.

👉I then spoke to an officer on 101 on Sunday and confirmed all my crimes were recorded and I was dealing with PSD and legal services. I assumed as the officer said Avon it must be the property fraud in their area, the officer read the notes and confirmed to me it was property fraud.. but was cagey.. and now it appears this was because it is in fact R**e Avon want to know about..

👉Then I had a call from an officer on Sunday night at 8.30;

“Hi there, Jess, my name's ###x . I'm a police officer from Exmouth. I'm just looking to give you a call and hopefully booking an appointment about the incident you've reported to us. Um, uh, regarding um, a r**e. So, obviously you're not available to speak to you at the moment, but I was hoping we could have a quick conversation and book a time for you to pop down to the station and have a chat to either myself or a colleague over the next couple of days. Obviously, you're not available to speech at the moment, but what I will do is look to give you a call in the next hour, um and hopefully you would have read this voicemail and then um and then I'll um I'll look to make contact again. Um in the meantime, if you could just call in on 101 logging um reference number log xx of the 27th um and then um ask to make an appointment about the incident you've reported. Uh and then we can hopefully go from there. Thank you.”

👉Then another officer left a message at 11.30 today;

“Good morning, this is a message for Jessica Kane. My name is PC ###x . I a police officer from Exmouth Police Station. I'm following up on some contact attempt. I think some have tried to contact you by phone and a couple have turned up at your address to try and have a conversation. Um, I understand from that interaction that you stated to those officers that you would um, much rather. normal to have any conversation with officers. If that is the case, please give us a call back on 101 and book an appointment so that we can have a conversation with you. We just need to have a conversation regarding some information that we've received to make sure that we are reporting everything that we need to be from your end as a victim. Thank you. Bye.”

And then.. after sending a number of very direct emails today to the executive, real, trained sexual violence staff who have been dealing with my case, since in fact 2024… asking them WTF is going on..

Tonight, the fun wasn’t over.. because another 2 male officers arrived at my home to ask me to come to the station to discuss my R**e crimes I assume.

They gave me no names, numbers and when I gave them a little low down, they very politely slipped away in their massive police van.. I don’t film, but don’t worry, they will be on a Ring Camera.

😡When asked to attend the station with these men..No is what I told them..

This is not at all suitable or safe..

I also confirmed just incase they got any ideas that they must not attend my home to discuss my social media or for any reason other than to welfare check or arrest me.. 🤣😆

Fu***ng weird…

How strange that these Basic Bobbys don’t even have the ability to check my police files and see I already have 2 sexual liaison officers, have been interviewed by 3 VAWG trained CID and have shared multiple images that evidence the crimes directly with 2 forces.

In total I’ve been interviewed for around 16hrs over 2 days, about the incidents that took place in multiple locations during 2022..

The behaviour of these male officers is truly unacceptable.

And.. what does Avon and Somerset police have to do with these crimes.

None took place in their local area and I do not live there..

If The Met need to contact them they will.. I certainly won’t be.

🕵🏻‍♂️Here’s a little info and police training for these young male patrol officers..

1- You are now named in complaints and lawsuits.

2- How R**e / RASSO Reports are handled in the UK

R**e and serious sexual offences are managed by:

SOIT / SOLO officers (Specially Trained Officers / Sexual Offence Liaison Officers), and
Detectives within specialist RASSO units
These teams receive specific training on evidence handling, trauma-informed practice, and legal procedure.

Information access is controlled- Only personnel who need access for legitimate investigation purposes can see full case details. This normally includes:
• The allocated detective(s)
• Supervisory officers
• Forensics / digital teams (if needed)
• CPS lawyers (later in the process)

Not shared with general officers
R**e reports are not broadcast on general systems for all officers to view. Routine officers do not have open access to:
• Your statement
• Forensic details
• Medical evidence
• Suspect strategy
• Case files
Access is audited, and improper access is a misconduct matter.

Random uniformed or unrelated male officers from Devon or Avon should NOT be contacting me. Only my allocated specialist staff.

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Any officer who is legitimately checking my record should see at minimum:

That a r**e/serious sexual offence report exists
That VRIs have been completed
That a RASSO case is active
Which force is leading

When officers state “We have no record of r**e on your file”, that is a major red flag for one of these three situations:

They are looking at the wrong system (common if they check only PNC/PND, not NICHE or the safeguarding logs).

They do not have access rights, but are asking you questions anyway, which is not legitimate.

They are not involved in your investigation and should not be contacting you at all.

In all genuine cases, there will ALWAYS be:
• A crime reference,
• An incident log,
• A VRI reference,
• A transfer log,
• Safeguarding entries.

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What is NOT legitimate police behaviour

These are all abnormal based on UK policing standards:

Multiple unrelated male officers contacting me..
Not normal. A r**e victim should be contacted by:
• Their SOIT/SOLO
• Their allocated detective
• Occasionally a safeguarding officer

No one else.

Officers saying “there is no r**e record on your file” Not normal. There is always a trace, even on restricted cases.

Officers from Avon & Somerset contacting you
Not normal unless:
• You reported something to them,
• Or you had an agreed safeguarding plan involving that force,
• Or they are handling a suspect address check (and you would normally be told about this in advance).

Police calling you without identifying:
• Their collar number
• Their department
• Their policing purpose
• Who asked them to contact you
• The incident reference they are acting on

Any officer making contact MUST provide all of the above.

Gloves are off mate..
Get ready. I’m done playing games.

01/12/2025

Yep…

These were given to me by a safeguarding professional..

The hammer is my own, but the door wedge, the paint spray and a personal alarm..

These are what I have to defend my family’s life if necessary..

I’ve also this year been refused sleeping meds, incase someone breaks in at night.

is not just about what we faced during attacks.. it’s about the life we are forced to live afterwards.

My bedside table isn’t a one off.

This will be the set up for so many victims of stalking, domestic abuse, post separation abuse etc.

Our lives are in danger and that’s not something we imagine. It’s real.

01/12/2025

01/12/2025

I completely agree. The way maps discuss SEND issues with a clear lack of knowledge, whilst also being key decision makers is a huge concern.

MPs
Police
Judges in civil and criminal court
Medical professionals

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01/12/2025

Today’s a big day.

01/12/2025

Today is the day our petition is debated in Westminster hall at 4:30pm.
Has your MP confirmed they will attend and speak on your behalf.

01/12/2025

On Monday 1 December, MPs will debate a petition relating to the Children's Wellbeing and Schools Bill.