Monique Carmela, Gold Coast (2026)

23/12/2025

So many of us are trying to communicate better, love deeper, set boundaries, manifest more…

Without first creating safety in our bodies.

But when your nervous system is dysregulated,
everything feels personal.
Everything feels urgent.
Everything feels like a threat.

REGULATION isn’t about fixing yourself.
It’s about creating enough internal safety to be with life.

To feel without drowning.
To speak without attacking or collapsing.
To love without abandoning yourself.

This is the foundation of conscious relationships.
Not more doing.
Not more analysing.

But learning how to come home to your body — again and again.

If this resonates, REGULATE is a gentle entry point into nervous-system safety and self-connection — and Grounded In You supports you to embody this work over time.

Comment REGULATE and I’ll send you a free copy of my ebook so you can get started today ❤️

23/12/2025

Can you imagine if, when someone was acting out, triggered, or showing up in hurtful ways…
we could see that they’re not being malicious — they’re acting from their wounds?

What if we remembered that it’s not always as personal as it feels?

So often, what we take as an attack is actually self-protection.
Fear trying to stay safe.
Pain trying not to be felt.
A nervous system doing the only thing it knows how to do in that moment.

What if, instead of taking it personally, we paused?

What if our instinct wasn’t defensiveness…
but curiosity?
Compassion?
An open heart?

What kind of world would we live in then?

What would our relationships look and feel like?
How much safer would it be to be human?
How much more supported, softer, and open would we feel?
How much less fear and shame would we carry around being judged, rejected, or misunderstood?

Because where there is curiosity, judgment cannot exist.

And how we show up in life and relationships is always mirrored back to us.

My mother used to say,
“Treat others how you wish to be treated.”

What if we truly walked that talk?
What if we led from our hearts instead of our wounds?
From presence instead of protection?
From love instead of fear?

This is the work.
This is the remembering.

And this is what we gently, deeply explore inside Heart Speaks —
learning how to stay open,
how to meet ourselves and others with compassion,
and how to communicate from the heart rather than the hurt.

Because the world doesn’t need harder hearts.
It needs braver ones.

15/12/2025

So much of the pain, drama, and disconnection we experience in our relationships doesn’t come from what actually happened…

It comes from the stories we tell ourselves about what it meant.

And the hardest part?
Those stories can feel so real.
So convincing.
So justified.

But the truth is — we can never fully know what another person is navigating, feeling, carrying, or surviving beneath the surface of their life.

Our feelings are valid.
Our triggers are real.
Our emotions deserve to be felt and honoured.

But it’s not okay to project our stories onto another and act as if we know what it’s like to walk in their shoes.

When we do this, we don’t create truth.
We create separation.

We turn people into villains.
We turn ourselves into victims.
And we let the mind run the show while the heart slowly closes.

We always have a choice.

We can feed the story — replay it, embellish it, gather evidence, make someone wrong.
Or we can choose our peace.
Our sovereignty.
Our integrity.
Our capacity to stay open.

Imagine if more humans were willing to pause…
To get curious instead of defensive.
To ask instead of assume.
To open their mind and heart instead of hardening them.

How many relationships would be saved?
How much love would remain intact?
How much unnecessary suffering would dissolve?

It’s deeply sad how often we let stories, assumptions, and unspoken fears get in the way of love, connection, unity, and friendship.

Instead of having the conversation,
we cling to the illusion.

This is an invitation —
to soften the grip on your story.
to remember that your perspective is one perspective.
to choose compassion over righteousness.
and love over being right.

Because peace isn’t found in proving a point.
It’s found in choosing connection where the ego wants separation.

15/12/2025

A new era begins… 🌹

For years this space was The Good Girl Unleashed — a chapter of breaking free from people-pleasing, perfection, shrinking, and self-abandonment.

But I have evolved.
And the woman I’m here to serve has evolved too.

So today, I’m officially welcoming you into the next chapter:

✨ THE DEVOTIONAL WOMAN Podcast ✨
A podcast for the woman returning to herself.

This is for the woman who is done abandoning her truth, her needs, her softness, and her power — and is ready to live from self-devotion, embodied truth, and heart-led intimacy.

What to expect inside this podcast:
🌹 self-devotion + radical self-love
🌹 nervous system wisdom + embodiment
🌹 healing self-abandonment + inner child patterns
🌹 emotional intimacy + relationships
🌹 motherhood + the real journey of becoming
🌹 honest conversations, deep teachings, and truth-led activation

If you loved Good Girl Unleashed, you’ll feel the same heart here…
just deeper, softer, more embodied — more me.

And if you want a place to connect and discuss episodes (and receive exclusive insights + teachings), come join my free Facebook group:

🌹 The Devotional Woman Facebook Group
This is where we’ll connect, share, and deepen the conversations from the podcast together.

I’m so grateful you’re here for this new chapter.
Welcome home, beautiful woman. 🤍

11/12/2025

In this nourishing conversation, I’m joined again by sacred sxxuality mentor Jannine MacKinnon to explore what it really looks like to live a sensual, embodied life as a real woman in a very full season — business, kids, partnerships, responsibilities and all.

We unravel the pressure we put on ourselves to “do embodiment right” — the 3-hour practices, the perfect morning routine, the ideal conditions — and instead anchor into the truth that our power lives in the micro moments: being present with your morning coffee, watching your children play, driving under a rainbow, feeling the sun on your skin.

Together we speak to:

✨ Why pressure kills pleasure — in sxx, business, motherhood and life

✨ How to start (or restart) sacred sxxuality and embodiment practices when you feel tired, busy, or resistant

✨ The power of 2–5 minute “micro practices” and how they actually rewire your system over time

✨ Moving from destination obsession (org*sms, goals, milestones) into savouring the journey

✨ Remembering that you are cyclical — and why your practices should change with your seasons and your bleed

✨ Using your inner signals (yes/no, expansion/contraction) as your compass rather than external “shoulds”

✨ How reclaiming your sensuality and presence impacts your children, your relationships and the next generation

This episode is an invitation to stop trying to “keep up”, to let go of perfection, and to remember that your inner power has always been within you. It all starts with one tiny, loving micro practice.

Listen in if you’re ready to feel more alive in your everyday life, reconnect to your body and pleasure, and create a new normal where you are no longer on the back burner — you are at the centre of your own sacred, sensual life.

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✨✨✨ NEW PODCAST NAME 😍
Welcome to the next chapter of embodied love… The Devotional Woman

10/12/2025

When it feels like you’re doing the inner work and they’re not…

When we say — or even quietly think — that we’ve done more work than someone else, what we’re really communicating is:

“I’m better than you.
I’m more evolved.
I’m more spiritual.
I’m further ahead.”

And baked into that belief is the message that they aren’t “good enough” unless they’re doing the kind of spiritual work we deem valuable… and doing it at the level we deem “enough” to meet us where we want to be met.

That is entitlement.
And it is drenched in spiritual ego.

We are all spirit in human form.
Everything we do — every choice, every challenge, every breath — can be considered spiritual.

We each have our own unique path to walk, our own timing, our own lessons, our own alchemy.
No one is behind.
No one is ahead.

Just because I do breathwork or inner child work or mantras or meditation…
does not make me more spiritual, more evolved, or better than anyone else.

I found what resonates for me.
Others will find what resonates for them.

It doesn’t need a fancy spiritual label to be spiritual.
Being here, walking through life in human form, is spiritual enough — if that’s what feels right for you.

And if it doesn’t feel like enough for you?
Perhaps you’re being called into something else. Follow your calling.

But know this:
Your calling is not the only calling.
It’s not meant for everyone.
It’s meant for you.

I’m not better than you because I do embodiment work.
I simply found something that changed my life for the better, and now I share it with those who feel the same pull.

It doesn’t make me more advanced than you.
Or my partner.
Or anyone.

Did I once get caught in the comparison trap?
F**k yeah, I did.
And it doesn’t serve anyone.

Any time we believe we’re “ahead” of someone else (or they’re ahead of us), it’s the ego speaking.

How could I possibly know who is ahead?
I don’t know what you’ve walked through.
I don’t know the weight you’ve carried.
I don’t know what it took for you to stand where you stand today.

It may look like someone is further ahead… or like you are.
But it’s simply different paths, different tools, different timing.

You have just as much to share as the next person.
Neither voice is more worthy than the other.

Honour your path.
Honour theirs too.

Comparison will never serve the highest good of anyone. ✨

10/12/2025

The way I like to look at deservingness and worthiness is this…

Could you ever look at a baby and think they’re not worthy?
Not deserving of love, safety, support, happiness?

Of course not.

When we see a baby, we know they deserve a good life.
To be held. To be cared for. To be loved. To be supported.

And we were all babies once.
We are still someone’s child.
And we are always a child of God / Spirit.

So what makes you any different?

Of course you are worthy of a good life.
Of course you deserve to be supported, happy, taken care of.
Of course you deserve to live the life your heart desires.

Your soul has never questioned your worth.
Your soul knows it is innate.

It’s the human mind that learned:
good / bad
right / wrong
reward / punishment

“If I’ve been bad, I don’t deserve good.”

But that’s a construct.
An illusion.
Something we were taught.

None of us are perfect.
We all make mistakes.
We are always learning and growing.

That doesn’t make us bad or wrong…
It makes us human ❤️

09/12/2025

We become so fixated on the how…
How do I get this, make this happen, manifest this, feel more of this and less of that, jump into my desired reality…

What’s the equation, the 3-step system, the fastest way to change my current situation or experience?

And in that fixation…
We completely miss what’s actually going on — and what the real key to it all is.

It’s like when you’re looking for the sauce in the fridge and you can’t see it anywhere…
And then you realise it was right in front of you all along.

I discovered the key to shifting it all…
It’s acceptance.

Acceptance of the current reality.
Of this present moment.

It seems simple.
It is.
But it’s not always easy.

The most common thing people share with me is that they fear if they accept or embrace the situation / experience / emotion… then it will stay. Forever.

But it’s simply not true.

It’s what you resist that continues to persist — looping on repeat like a broken record.

What you allow, accept and embrace…
Moves at a radical, exponential rate that will blow your frickin’ mind.

And I know this because I have experienced it thousands of times.
And I have witnessed it thousands of times in the workshops, programs, and coaching sessions I guide.

And it’s still so incredibly wild to witness and experience…
It blows my mind every time.

Recently, I witnessed my client meet her feeling of fear.
And as I guided her in welcoming the fear, meeting it, feeling it, allowing it…

Within a few moments… it completely dissipated.
She couldn’t find the fear in her body at all.

We were both wildly mind-blown.

Even though it was no surprise to me — because this is what I’ve witnessed time and time again —
It’s still so incredible and such an honour to be part of.

The thing is… if we’re trying to radically shift our life, relationships, experience, emotions…

Without acceptance…
We’re simply resisting and trying to escape the present.

We’re trying to run away.

And when we’re in that pattern of the flight response,
The very thing we’re running from only follows us.

Until we’re willing to stop running…
And face our fears.

It can feel scary — I totally get it.
I’ve been here many, many times.

And this is why we don’t do it alone.

Mentorship.
Community.
Sisterhood.

It’s essential on the path of healing, awakening, and coming home to your full and true self.

That’s why I do what I do.
We were never meant to walk this path alone ❤️✨

28/11/2025

In this episode of The Good Girl Unleashed Podcast, I am joined by somatic sxxologist, therapeutic yoni massage practitioner, and aura photographer Sarah Silverstein for a deeply real and liberating conversation about coming home to your body.

Together, we unpack how a busy, overthinking mind is often a clever protection mechanism that keeps us from feeling what’s really living in our bodies — our emotions, our pain, our truth… and our pleasure.

We explore:

🌹 Why dropping into the body can feel terrifying when you’ve lived in your head for years

🌹 How somatic work, breathwork, and therapeutic yoni massage can gently reopen sensation and safety

🌹 The shame and taboo surrounding vulvas, pleasure, and sexuality — and how reclaiming these parts of us changes everything

🌹 The witch wound, sisterhood wound, and the grief of living without true village and elders

🌹 How listening to your body’s “yes” and “no” shifts your relationships, work, and self-worth

🌹 Simple ways to bring more everyday pleasure into your life (that have nothing to do with the bedroom)

This is a conversation for the woman who feels “too in her head,” numb, shut down, or “broken” around intimacy — and is ready to remember that there is nothing wrong with her, and that deeper love, connection, and pleasure are absolutely available.

Listen now on The Good Girl Unleashed Podcast on Spotify

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