Monique Carmela, Gold Coast (2026)

06/02/2026

So many of us were never taught how to be with our bodies in intimacy.

We were taught to know, to perform, to push through… not to slow down, listen, and feel.

When we release the pressure to get it “right,”

something softens.
Something opens.

And intimacy becomes less about obligation — and more about presence.

This conversation goes deeper into what it actually means to relate to our bodies, our partners, and our desire from devotion rather than performance — especially inside long-term relationships where old patterns are deeply ingrained.

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You don’t have to rush this.
Small steps are still devotion.

04/02/2026

This is a space for the woman who is remembering.

Remembering her body.
Her heart.
Her truth.
Her devotion to herself, to love, to life.

Inside The Devotional Woman Podcast, we explore:
🌿 conscious relationships & communication
🌿 nervous system regulation & emotional safety
🌿 embodiment, pleasure & presence
🌿 healing patterns, wounds & conditioned ways of being
🌿 devotion as a way of living, loving, and leading

These are conversations for women who want to feel more alive.

More rooted in themselves.
More connected in their relationships.
More anchored in their truth.

I’m Monique Carmela, your host — feminine embodiment coach, somatic guide, relationship & nervous system mentor — and this podcast is an extension of the work I live, breathe, and offer in the world.

Here, we soften.
We deepen.
We tell the truth.
We come home.

If you’re ready to live as a devotional woman — this space is for you. 🤍

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03/02/2026

There is something so powerful that happens when awareness finally lands in the body.

Not just knowing something intellectually…
but feeling it in your bones.

These big transitions — the ones that truly change how we move through life — they take time.
They take awareness.
They take practice.

And they take a DECISION.

I’m putting that word in capitals because I’m realising more and more the true power of decision.

Not a half-decision.
Not a “maybe I should.”
Not a decision we keep revisiting, doubting, or checking against the past.

But an embodied decision.

One where you fully step into it and move forward without constantly looking back, wondering if you made the “right” choice.

A decision that says:
This is my path forward.
This is what I’m choosing.
And I honour that.

Yes — we still fumble sometimes.
We wobble.
We pendulate.
We feel the contractions and the expansions.

But the difference is…
we stay devoted to the decision.

We stop buying into the old stories.

We listen to them with compassion and curiosity — but we don’t let them run the show anymore.

Instead, we choose to honour the new story.
Again and again.

And often, it takes a long time for us to finally arrive at this place.

We notice.
We feel.
We experience the pain, the cost, and the exhaustion of doing things the old way.

Until one day something clicks.

This new way doesn’t feel forced.
It feels true.
Aligned.
In service of our highest good.

The decision begins to feel more easeful in the body and nervous system —
and suddenly, the pathway opens.

I’ve come to know this:
It’s all part of the journey.

However long it took you to make the decision —
even if you’ve “known” for years —
it’s exactly perfect.

Exactly how it was always meant to unfold.

Because along the way, you gathered wisdom.
You received medicine.
You built strength.

And now…
you’re resourced enough to step into the next chapter.

Slower.
More nourished.
More devoted to what truly matters.

✨Where in your life are you being asked not just to know — but to decide?

I’d love to hear what this brings up for you 🤍

03/02/2026

Lately, I’ve been thinking about how many women are quietly carrying so much.

Holding it all together.

Being the emotional anchor for everyone else.

Trying to stay patient, present, loving… while feeling tired, overwhelmed, or stretched thin inside.

And so often, we tell ourselves:
“I just need to push through.”
“There’s no time for me right now.”
“I’ll rest once everything else is done.”

But the truth is…

you can’t pour presence, patience, and love from an empty cup.

When your nervous system is living in survival — even love starts to feel hard.

Connection feels effortful.
Little things trigger big reactions.

And the version of you that wants to be calm, open, and deeply present feels just out of reach.

Not because you’re doing something wrong — but because your body hasn’t felt safe enough to soften.

This is why I created Grounded In You.

It’s a self-paced nervous system journey for women who are ready to stop doing more and start coming home to themselves.

Inside this space, you’re gently guided to:
• regulate your nervous system
• soothe emotional overwhelm
• reconnect with your body
• understand your patterns without judgment
• build inner safety and steadiness
• and create the foundation for deeper, more conscious relationships

This work isn’t about fixing yourself.
It’s about learning how to care for yourself — so you can actually show up as the woman, mother, and partner you long to be.

And here’s the part I really want to name…

✨ This doesn’t just benefit you — it benefits your whole family.

As women, we’re often conditioned to feel guilty investing in ourselves.

Guilty for taking time.
Guilty for spending money.
Guilty for choosing rest or support.

But we forget something important.

When your cup is full, that’s when you’re able to give from overflow — not depletion.

When you’re grounded in yourself, you’re more present, more patient, more emotionally available.

You can listen with your whole heart.
You can respond instead of react.
You can love without burning yourself out.

Your regulation ripples outward.
Your children feel it.
Your partner feels it.
Your home feels it.

This is not selfish work — it’s foundational work.

✨ Join Grounded In You for only $44.

This program is usually priced much higher, but I want this support to be accessible — because reading about regulation is one thing, and actually practising it in your body is what creates real change.

If something in this is speaking to you…
If your body feels a quiet yes…
If you’re ready to stop doing this alone…

Come join us inside Grounded In You today.

Move at your own pace.
Let your body lead.

And know that you are so deeply worthy of the care you give to everyone else.

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03/02/2026

The doors to the Embodied Woman Experience are closing 🤍

Embodied Woman has been life-changing — for me, and for every woman who has walked through these doors over the past few years.

I remember leading The Becoming masterclass and having this vision of women standing in a circle, holding hands, deeply connected, on the other side of their transformation…

We walked this path together.

I witnessed women rise into their power, their truth, their embodiment.

That vision became real.

This wasn’t about becoming a better version of themselves.

It was about coming home to the woman within — the woman they have always been at their core.

Nothing was rejected or abandoned.
No version of them was “wrong” or “not enough.”

Instead, every part was welcomed, integrated, and honoured — creating wholeness.

Over and over again, I’ve watched this transformation unfold inside Embodied Woman.

And alongside it, I’ve witnessed my own growth and evolution too.

It’s been magical.
Beautiful.
And deeply confronting at times.

We’ve ridden the waves of highs and lows together in sacred sisterhood — holding, supporting, and witnessing one another.

Guiding these women has been one of the greatest honours of my life.
This work is deep, profound, and truly transformational.

So… why close the doors?

Because like everything, this container has its own lifecycle.
Its own rhythm.

And I’ve felt the quiet, steady whisper that it is time.

For the women currently inside Embodied Woman — we will continue walking together for the remainder of this year.

I’m so excited to bring my full presence, energy, and devotion to supporting these women deeply, rather than continually welcoming new people in at different stages.

It feels aligned to close the doors and fully honour the journey we are already on together.

And so, I’m listening — to my body, my heart, and my intuition.

If this work is calling you, there are still beautiful ways for us to walk this path together.

🌿 Grounded In You — a 30-day journey focused on nervous system regulation and creating inner safety, so you can connect with yourself, trust your truth, and lead from a grounded, present place.

🤍 The Sacred Art of Loving Yourself — for women ready to go deeper into inner child healing, radical self-love, devotion to self, and embodying their true essence.

✨ Heart Speaks & Authentic Boundaries — for those desiring support with authentic expression, conscious communication, and honouring personal boundaries with clarity and confidence.

I also offer private coaching for women who desire a deeper, more intimate space to be held on the journey of coming home to themselves and creating the life and relationships their heart truly desires.

A chapter is closing.
A new one is beginning.

And I’m so excited to continue walking this path with you 🤍

Come join us inside my free Facebook community — The Devotional Woman.
Let’s journey and rise together.

I have a feeling this next chapter is going to be big… and deeply magical ✨

02/02/2026

The people who trigger us the most…
are often the ones we love the deepest.

And that can feel confusing.
Overwhelming.
Even painful.

But your reactions aren’t a sign that something is wrong with you or your relationship.

They’re signals.

Signals from your nervous system.
From old emotional wounds.
From parts of you that learned how to protect.

For so long we’ve been taught to “communicate better,”
“be less reactive,”
or “try harder in love.”

But without safety in the body,
without understanding what’s really happening beneath the trigger,
those efforts only take us so far.

Returning to Love is a gentle, grounding guide to help you make sense of emotional triggers, soften nervous system reactivity, and reconnect with yourself and your relationships from a place of awareness and compassion.

This isn’t about fixing yourself.
It’s about understanding yourself — and opening a pathway back to connection, intimacy, and love.

If something in you is longing for:
✨ calmer communication
✨ emotional safety
✨ deeper, more nourishing connection

This guide is for you.

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01/02/2026

You are not the same person you were when you first met your partner — and neither are they.

So many men and women have said to me, “they weren’t like this when we first started dating…”

As if expecting their partner to remain the same after years of life, growth, challenge, and change.

But we are always growing and evolving.

Just as our cells regenerate over time, so do we.
We are always changing.

You’re not the same person you were yesterday…
a month ago…
a year ago…
or ten years ago.

And neither is your partner.

Some of us change slowly.
Some of us change radically — especially when we’re doing the inner work.

And this asks something of us.

We must learn to honour this within ourselves
and within our relationships.

Honour the person you are becoming.
Honour the person they are becoming.

Fall in love again and again and again.
Deepen your love.
Expand your love.

Keep learning about yourself and one another.
Grow together.
Alongside one another.

And yes — sometimes we grow apart.
That deserves honour too.

Sometimes a relationship feels complete and it’s time to part ways.
And sometimes the invitation is to lean in…
to get curious…
to get to know one another again as if you were dating all over.

To discover these new parts of yourself and each other that are emerging —
with curiosity, openness, and an open heart.

There is so much to love
if we are willing to see it.

Relationships don’t just bring us closer to another.
They bring us closer to ourselves.

Our partner often mirrors parts of us we are yet to see.

So open your eyes
and take a gentle, honest look at what is being revealed to you
through the eyes of another —
through the mirror that is your relationship
and the experiences you share.

Not with judgement.
Not with a sharp, analytical eye.

But with compassion.
Curiosity.
And an open, loving heart.

Simply be willing to notice.

It changes everything. ❤️

The point of relationships was never to stay the same
or to remain in the honeymoon phase forever.

It was always about the journey of your becoming.

I am so deeply grateful to have been guided into the arms of my partner almost seven years ago —
to witness the woman I have become
and the man he has become
as we’ve ridden the rocky waves
and revelled in the highest of highs.

What an adventure.

31/01/2026

Intimacy disappeared when I became pregnant with my first.

My body was changing and, honestly, I felt fat, unattractive, and undesirable.
The stories I told myself were strong — and they created a reality where I truly believed Liam didn’t see me as desirable anymore… that he didn’t want me.

Add in the physical discomfort of pregnancy, followed by becoming a mother — and all the stories that came with that.

I’m a mother now.
I can’t be sexual, sexy, sensual, intimate.
It felt inappropriate.
It felt wrong.

I felt different.
I didn’t feel like myself anymore.

They don’t tell you that becoming a mother completely changes your identity.
That there is a real grieving of the maiden era — the version of you that you are no longer.

You’re not just birthing your baby.
You’re birthing a whole new you.

And most of us don’t even realise that’s what’s happening.

We feel all the emotions under the sun and none of it seems to make sense.
We’re told it’s “just hormones”…
but I know now it’s so much more than that.

It’s shedding.
It’s grieving.
It’s sacred rage.
It’s your fullness, your aliveness, your expression coming online.

It’s you transforming into a whole new version of yourself —
and it’s fu***ng magical.

But it’s also confronting.
Painful.
Confusing.

And the first time around, I had no idea what was happening.
How could I?

Most of the information we’re given is about the baby.
The physical growth of the baby.
Everything that could go wrong.

We’re told we should be back to “normal” six weeks postpartum —
when in reality it can take years to settle into any sense of normalcy.

And even then… it’s never the way it used to be.

How could it be?
You’ve just gone through a life-altering transformation.

There is grieving.
And there is also so much beauty, joy, and pleasure available.

But what’s rarely spoken about is the impact this transformation has on our relationships.

We’re moving through something enormous — often without language, guidance, or support.
And our partners will never fully understand it… because it isn’t their experience.

Your experience is completely unique to you.

It can be big.
And intimacy can become very distant.

It did for me.

I carried so many stories around pregnancy, motherhood, and what was now okay or acceptable for me.

Add in birth trauma.
Add in navigating life and relationship as new parents.

It brought up so much for us — and for a time, it kept pushing us further and further apart.

But in hindsight… it was the greatest gift.

Everything that came up was an invitation.
An opportunity to see what I had been carrying.
What was ready to heal.
To release.
To alchemise.

And now…

I’m experiencing a depth of intimacy, joy, and pleasure — in my body and in my relationship — that I had never been able to access before.

Because I was willing to look at the hard stuff.
I was willing to do the work.
And it all paid off.

I am more connected to my body.
To pleasure.
To aliveness.
To me — than ever before.

And from that place, my relationship gets to thrive.

Deeper love.
Deeper connection.
Deeper intimacy.

What a gift.

It didn’t feel like a gift in the moment — when everything was coming up and hitting the fan.
But f**k… in hindsight, you realise it was all happening for you.

So wherever you’re at in your life right now —
whatever challenges you may be facing —

What if it’s all happening for you?

You might not be able to see it yet.
You might not feel it yet.

But what if… 🤍

📸 Photo: 2020, me pregnant with my first ☺️

30/01/2026

The body remembers — Thats why we get triggered — we must feel to heal so we can move forward and truly LIVE 🤍

30/01/2026

For so many women and vulva-havers, we’ve been socialised to prioritise other people’s pleasure over our own — to perform, please, override, and disconnect.

Fantasy can be a powerful doorway.
A place where there’s no obligation.

No performance.
No one else to manage.

For many of us, it’s how we first learned to feel again.

And… there can come a moment where fantasy becomes a replacement rather than an access point.

Where we leave the body instead of arriving in it.

Where presence with ourselves or our partner feels harder to stay with.

This isn’t something to judge or fix.
It’s an invitation to deepen safety.

To gently explore:
✨ Am I using fantasy to open… or to bypass?
✨ What does my body need to feel safe here?
✨ How can I pendulate between imagination and sensation — without abandoning myself?

There is no “right” way.
Only what brings you home.

🎧 This conversation unfolds more deeply in the latest episode of The Devotional Woman Podcast

Absolutely loved this conversation with Kiki Maree, founder of Yonilicious Academy and I’m so excited for you to tune in.. let me know how you go!

Comment DEVOTION and I’ll send you the episode PLUS a powerful practice to support you in creating safety and deepening your connection to your body and sensuality ❤️

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