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20/11/2025

My Morning Reflection 💚
Thank you so much for all the love and excitement about The WAM Club yesterday.
Every “this is so needed” has confirmed what I’ve felt for a long time… this isn’t just an idea, it’s my next calling.
The real reason WAM is launching?
Because I keep meeting the same woman in different bodies.
She used to have spark in her eyes.
She laughed without thinking.
She had opinions, dreams, a voice, her own rhythm.
Then life asked more of her.
She became the safe one.
The organiser.
The carer.
The fixer.
The glue.
And she did it well – almost too well.
Slowly, she set herself aside.
She cancelled the thing she wanted to go to.
Stopped saying how she really felt.
Smiled when she was exhausted.
Felt lonely but hid it well.
From the outside, she looks absolutely fine.
Inside, there’s an ache she doesn’t talk about.
A quiet sense of disappearing.
Until one ordinary day, the thought slips in:
“What about me?”
Not dramatic. Not shouted. Just a truth too heavy to ignore.
That whisper is the reason The WAM Club is coming next year –
not to give women more to do, but to give them a space to start reclaiming themselves.
A warm, grounded, honest room where you can take the mask off and be seen. Really seen.
When was the last time you quietly whispered “What about me?” – and what did you realise in that moment? 💚
Hayley x

19/11/2025

Morning Reflection 💚

I had the best planning day with Nikki yesterday, the kind of day where everything that’s been quietly forming in the background suddenly feels real, aligned, and ready.

For a while now, something’s been nudging at me… this desire to create a proper community, a space where women stop disappearing into their responsibilities and start reclaiming their place in their own lives.

A place where being seen, heard, valued, connected and joyful is the norm, not the rare moment squeezed in between everyone else’s needs.

It’s the heartbeat behind why I run the Business Boost.
It’s why I adore my crafting days.

Holding space, creating connection, giving women room to breathe and speak openly, it’s something I’m bloody good at. And I love it.

But I want bigger.
I want deeper.

I want to support more of the knackered women I talk to every day, who feel invisible in their own lives, the women carrying too much, giving too much, and receiving far too little back.

My mission is simple to create a warm, grounded space for women to put down expectations, speak honestly, laugh, connect with like-minded women, explore real-life topics, grow through therapeutic conversation, and gently rebuild the relationship they have with themselves.

Because women deserve that.

Because you deserve that.

So… The WAM Club is coming.

Early 2026.

More info to follow soon 👌

I can’t wait, who's ready to join the WAM Revolution!

H 💚💚💚

16/11/2025

🔥 £150 Off My Immersive Days — For 5 people Only 🔥

Price: £600 (normally £750)

Imagine taking a whole day to sit with the truest version of you.

The real you, laid bare — messy, honest, and finally getting to the kind of breakthroughs you don’t reach in the rush of everyday life.

That’s what an immersive day is.

It’s not surface-level coaching.
It’s not talking around the edges of your life.
It’s deep work.

It’s that moment where it all suddenly makes sense — the patterns, the protection, the part of you that’s been quietly running the show.

From there, we start rebuilding from truth, not from survival mode.

The outcomes are powerful:

Feeling lighter because the weight you’ve been carrying finally has somewhere to go.

Understanding yourself with a depth you’ve never had before.

Seeing your next chapter clearly, not the one you “should” walk into, but the one that actually belongs to you.

Reconnecting with the part of you that knows what they want… and is finally ready to take up space.

And then 30 days of integration support so the shift actually sticks.

Because change doesn’t just happen in the session.

It happens in the becoming afterwards and we walk that together.

And for 5 people only…

I’m offering £150 off — meaning your immersive day is £600 instead of £750

Not because it’s Black Friday.
Not because I’m discounting the work.
But because I know how transformational these days are…
and I want to support more people walking into 2026 steadier, clearer, and more rooted in themselves.

If your soul has been whispering “it’s time”…
this is your moment.

Book now

https://app.moonclerk.com/pay/57gv4l9qc5b6

13/11/2025

I completely agree with this!!

When your nervous system is unregulated, you need more than talk therapy.

While sharing our stories is an essential part of the healing process, talking alone doesn’t create the deep, lasting shifts we need to stop being influenced by our past.

Unprocessed stress, trauma, and emotional patterns live in the body and subconscious mind, not just in our conscious thoughts.

To truly break free from old stories, we need techniques that regulate the nervous system and reprogram the subconscious.

That’s why, over the last 20 years, I’ve trained in multiple modalities—talk therapy, psychotherapy, and clinical hypnosis—so I can offer a robust, holistic approach to transformation.

By working on both the mind and the body, we can create real, sustainable change that empowers you to live fully in the present, rather than being trapped in the past.

Book a call to discuss working together

https://calendly.com/adifferentpath101/new-meeting

🙌🙌🙌

29/10/2025

I talk a lot about the inner child…

But let’s not forget her slightly moodier sibling — the outer teen 😏

You know the one.

The part of you who rolls her eyes when someone tells you what to do.

Who says, “I’m fine,” when she’s definitely not.

Who craves independence but secretly just wants someone to notice she’s struggling.

Who wants to be seen, heard, and validated, but on her terms, thank you very much.

The outer teen is that in-between part of us, not quite the innocent child, not quite the fully-formed adult.

She’s figuring herself out, rebelling a little, trying to find where she fits in the world.

And she still shows up in our adult lives more than we realise.

She’s the voice that says:

“I don’t need help.”
“I’ll do it my way.”
Or, “Don’t tell me what to do!” (while secretly wanting someone to guide us).

When your outer teen runs the show, you might:

Resist authority or feedback.
Sabotage things that are too good.
Avoid responsibility but get annoyed when no one steps up.
Pretend you don’t care… when actually you care a lot.

But here’s the thing — your inner teen isn’t bad.
She’s just misunderstood.
She’s trying to protect you, to find your voice, to be seen as capable and worthy.

So maybe it’s time to check in with her.

Ask her what she needs.

Let her roll her eyes, listen to some moody music, or scribble her feelings in a notebook.

She’s got wisdom too, if you let her speak.
Because healing isn’t just about nurturing your inner child.

It’s about meeting your inner teen, the rebel, the dreamer, the part of you who’s always wanted to belong and break free.

So tell me…

What would your inner teen say if you actually let her speak today?

24/10/2025

I became a therapist because I wanted to help people.

At least, that’s what I told myself.

But if I’m honest and I think we all need more honesty in this space, what I didn’t realise at the time was that “helping” was feeding a part of me that needed to feel useful.

Worthy.
Important.

Helping became the mask my ego wore so beautifully.

The rescuer role.
The fixer.
The one who could make things better.

It looked noble on the outside and in many ways it was, but underneath, it was also about soothing me.

The part of me that found safety in being needed.

The part that measured value by how much I gave.

And when I look around the therapeutic and coaching space now, I see it everywhere.

Healers burning out.
Coaches over-delivering.
Therapists carrying the emotional weight of their clients like it’s their own.

All falling on the sword of “helping.”

But here’s what changed everything for me:

I’m not here to help you.
I’m here to support you in helping yourself.

That difference changes everything.

Because when I help, I position myself above you, as if I know more, as if I can save you.

But when I support, I stand beside you.

I trust your capacity.

I hold space for your unfolding rather than trying to direct it.

H 🙏🏻🙏🏻

20/10/2025

I was energetically scattered — are you?

I used to think I was tired because of everything I had to do. The workload. The clients. The house stuff. The endless list that never seemed to end.

Something I realised, it wasn’t the work that drained me, it was the parallel process running alongside it.

The overthinking.
The self-judgement.
The constant replaying of conversations in my head.
The worry about what people might think.
The guilt for not doing enough.

That’s what really burns us out, not the thing itself, but everything that happens around it.

It’s not the meeting that exhausts you, it’s the anxiety before and the over-analysis after.

It’s not the boundary you set, it’s the guilt that follows.

It’s not even the work you do, it’s the pressure you pile on yourself while doing it.

Those are the invisible energy leaks, the open loops that keep your system running on high alert.

When you start noticing the parallel process, you start to see where the real fatigue lives.

It’s not in your schedule, it’s in your head, your heart, your nervous system.

And when you bring awareness there, something beautiful happens.

You stop fighting yourself.
You start conserving energy.
And little by little, you come back to calm.

H 💛

Call to action:

Today, choose one loop to close or one parallel process to pause. Tell me in the comments what you’re choosing or DM me if you want support creating calmer rhythms.

15/10/2025

My morning reflection 💚

I had an emotionally wobbly day yesterday, anxious, feeling untethered, like a boat without a rudder.

But I reached out.

A 90-minute call with Lisa Monger was an absolute tonic—deep, real, soul-steadying.

Back-and-forth messages with Nicola Noel always lift my spirits.

And then Julie McLean surprised me with a freshly baked sourdough loaf. Her kindness (and bread-making magic) warmed me right through.

Then as I was doing my pre bedtime scroll I saw this - “I hope that when people show you they love and care for you, your heart is soft and trusting enough to believe them.”

I'm getting a lot better at believing.

It’s funny, isn’t it—how the right people, in the right moment, can become anchors when you’re drifting?

Yesterday reminded me that even when the waves feel big, I’ve got so many amazing people on my side… and I’m learning to be on my own side too. 🙏🏻

Today I’m anchoring back into self-kindness, connection and trust.

H 💚

14/10/2025

Just because…

Just because someone says they’re kind doesn’t mean they are.

Just because someone claims integrity is their highest value doesn’t make it true.

Just because someone says a thing… doesn’t make it so.

Here’s something that woke me up a few years ago and changed everything:

How can I say kindness matters if I won’t offer it to myself?

How am I “in integrity” if I abandon myself daily?

How do my values count if they only apply to other people?

Words are easy.

Congruence is the work.

If you value kindness—it has to start with you.

If you value integrity—stop leaving yourself behind.

If you value honesty—tell yourself the truth, even when it’s uncomfortable.

Powerful question for today:

Where am I preaching a value I’m not yet practising with myself—and what’s one small act I can take today to close that gap?

You're welcome!

H x

13/10/2025

What’s Lurking in Your Shadows!! 🖤🖤

If you’re trying your hardest but still not moving forward, you can be certain there’s a shadow at play.

The shadow is that invisible force that stands in front of your spirit, blocking the light and the life you’re trying to step into.

It’s the subconscious voice that whispers —
“you can’t,”
“you won’t,”
“you’re not good enough.”

It fuels self-doubt, fear, overthinking, procrastination, and perfectionism.

It keeps you almost there… but not quite.

Maybe you’ve noticed it when you shrink your truth in a conversation.
Or when you say yes when everything inside you screams no.
Or when you sabotage the very thing you’ve been asking for — because deep down, part of you doesn’t believe you deserve it.

That’s your shadow.

It’s not trying to ruin your life, it’s trying to protect you from pain you once felt. But protection becomes prison when it stops you from growing.

When you learn to bring your shadow into the light, to meet it, understand it, and integrate it, that’s when everything starts to shift.

You stop fighting yourself.
You stop chasing alignment and start embodying it.
You align your energy with transformation.
You finally start living the life your soul has been asking for.

So… what’s lurking in your shadows?

What’s the part of you that’s quietly calling the shots behind the scenes?

Because when you meet her with love instead of fear,that’s where your freedom begins.

Ready for that call?

https://calendly.com/adifferentpath101/new-meeting

13/10/2025

The first no is not rebellion. It is self trust waking up.

You spend a lifetime saying yes.
Keeping the peace.
Making it easier for everyone else.

Then one day you hear a tiny no rise in your chest.

It feels wrong.
Like you are breaking a rule everyone agreed to but never spoke about.

Guilt burns in your stomach like a small fire that will not go out.

Please remember....

The first no is not defiance.
It is self trust waking up.

There are parts of you that know it is safe to choose you.

There are parts that are wired to keep you exactly where you have always been.

Both are trying to protect you.

Only one will let you grow. 🙏🏻

So try this today.

Before you answer, breathe.

Ask: is this a real yes or a peace-keeping yes.
If it is a peace-keeping yes, try a gentle no and notice what rises.

Tremble if you need to.
You are allowed to tremble and still choose you.

Small boundaries build strong roots.
Strong roots hold bigger changes.

Where is your next tiny no waiting to be spoken?

Tell me and I will cheer you on. 🙌🙌

11/10/2025

My morning reflection 💛💛

Designing a life you actually want starts with taking things away.

Before you add the shiny new habits and goals, clear out what leaks your energy, the shoulds, the over-giving, the noise, the people/places that leave you flat.

Then, with that space and a calmer nervous system, add back what genuinely lights you up.

Most of us skip the clearing and just keep adding… and wonder why nothing changes.

Subtract first.
Add second.

Space is where we create the new.

H 🙏🏻

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Hello, I am Hayley Perkins, Counsellor, Inner Child Mentor and founder of The Alternative Diet. Besides being an avid lover of good coffee and a hefty slice of lemon drizzle cake, I love nothing better than helping people who feel stuck in their lives.

I have been on this crazy ‘Life’ journey myself, the ups and the downs, and along the way I have learned a thing or two about what is really going on behind the scenes, and also realised that the key to true success is not going to be found by being slimmer, being richer, being more successful (even if we think it is) - it’s embracing who we are, changing those stories, beliefs and inner demons which hold us back, that really has the biggest impact.

I’m not here to fix you but I am here to help you overcome, work though and heal whatever is holding you back and stopping your from living your life to the fullest.

I empower men and women, like yourself, to explore and understand what is keeping them stuck, and support them in removing the blocks, changing the beliefs, re-writing the stories and healing the hurts which are holding them back so self doubt, resistance, self sabotage, procrastination, limiting beliefs, inner critic, feeling overwhelmed and inadequate become a thing of the past…..

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