12/01/2026
Aan alle MATRIKULANTE, wat met groot verwagting op julle uitslae wag, luister asseblief na my.
Ek skryf dit aan jou, as 'n pa en 'n Pastoor. Ek is nie 'n sielkundige of 'n psigiater nie, maar 'n man wat deur God geroep is om ander te dien.
Die resultate van jou eksamens kan jou maak of breek. Laat my toe om jou te help om die reus te trotseer.
1. Konfronteer die skuldvrae soos:
* "Wat as ek misluk?"
* Hoe sal my ouers voel!
* Wat van die koste van die matriekafskeid?
* Hoe sal ek my ouers, familie en klasmaats in die oë kyk?
Met hierdie onbeantwoorde vrae mag jy d**k daar is maklike uitweë, waarvan ek twee sal uitlig: Laat ek opgee, moenie probeer herskryf nie, want ek is 'n mislukking.
NEE! Luister na my: jy is NIE 'n mislukking nie.
JY sal uit die donker, hopelose put opstaan en, deur Sy genade, sê: Ek weier om op te gee, maar ek glo ook in 'n tweede kans.
Onthou: JY KAN!
2) Ek kan nie hierdie reus van mislukking in die gesig staar nie. Omdat ek dit nie kan hanteer nie, d**k ek dit is die beste om my lewe te beëindig.
Deur die jare heen is soveel ouers, klasmaats en families verwoes en gebroke, wanneer seuns en dogters dit aan hulle gedoen het. Ek smeek jou, praat met iemand as jy nie die negatiewe uitkoms kan hanteer nie.
Onthou, jy sal weg wees, maar jou ouers en familie sal sukkel met onbeantwoorde vrae. Sommige ouers kan ook met 'n gebroke hart sterf.
Onthou, jy is kosbaar en jy is bestem vir 'n doel in die lewe. Ek het baie keer misluk en deur baie pynlike dinge gesukkel, MAAR vandag kan ek 'n instrument in God se hand wees om ander te help.
Baie geluk aan al die studente wat geslaag het, gaan asseblief en maak 'n sukses van julle toekoms. Deur dit te doen, vat die hand van diegene wat ontmoedig voel en herinner hulle: HULLE / JY KAN.
Ouers, as jou kind onsuksesvol was, vat hulle asseblief aan die hand en lei hulle. Soek asseblief hulp vir hulle. Ek bid God se beskerming en leiding oor jou.
Julle is die leiers waarop ons gewag het.
Graham Taff van die
Graham Taff Gemeenskapsberadingskliniek.
NB: Jy kan my 'n boodskap stuur as jy net 'n oor nodig het om te luister en 'n hart om te verstaan.
To all MATRICULANTS, awaiting your results with great expectation, please listen to me.
I'm writing this to you, as a father and a Pastor. I'm not a psychologist or a psychiatrist, but a man called by God to serve others.
The results of your exams can break or make you. Allow me to help you to face the giant.
1.Face the guilt questions such as: "What if I failed?"
"How will my parents feel!"
"What about the cost of the matricball?"
"How will I face my parents, family and classmates?"
With these unanswered questions, you may think there are easy ways out, two of which I will highlight: Let me give up, don't try to re-write because I'm a failure.
NO! Listen to me, you are NOT a failure.
YOU will rise from the dark, hopeless pit, and say, by His grace, I refuse to give up, but I also believe in a second chance.
Remember: YOU CAN!
2) I can't face this giant of being a failure. Because I can't handle it, I think it is best to end my life.
Through the years, so many parents, classmates, families were devastated and heartbroken, when sons and daughters did this to them. I plea with you, talk to someone if you can't handle the negative outcome.
Remember, you will be gone, but your Parents and family will struggle with unanswered questions. Some parents may also die with a broken heart.
Remember, you are precious and you are earmarked for a purpose in life. I failed many times and struggled through a lot of painful things, BUT today, I can be an instrument in the hand of God to help others.
Congratulations to all students who passed, please go and make a success of your future. In doing that, take the hand of those who feel discouraged and remind them: THEY / YOU CAN.
Parents, if your child was unsuccessful, please take them by the hand and guide them. Please seek help for them. I pray God's protection and guidance over you.
YOUR ARE THE LEADERS WE WERE WAITING FOR.
Graham Taff from Graham Taff Community Counceling Clinic.
PS: You may inbox me if you just need an ear to listen and a heart to understand.