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Certified Intimacy Coach and Mom of three, supporting parents to find passion, play, without the awkward pressure - even in the chaos of kids

Sofia is a certified intimacy coach who has reinvented her intimate life three times after three kids. She specializes in working with parents who are struggling to find the time, energy, and desire for naked fun after kids. She's your totally TMI bedroom bestie here to share the science of s.e.x, a dose of real talk, and cheerleading support to find the pleasure and passion in your relationship again. If you are tired of laying in bed at night afraid to make a move, or wondering how you will creatively say no tonight - I invite you to reach out. Regular, easy, naked fun that feels great for you both - is closer than you think.

19/11/2025

You love each other. You even laugh and have fun together but secs feels off limits.

It’s not because you aren’t attracted to each other anymore.

It’s not cause you don’t love each other.

It’s cause nobody taught you how to keep your libido alive ten years and three kids in.

How do I know that ? Cause I’m a certified secs coach and the piece of paper I earned taught me everything we all should have learned in high school health class.

You don’t have the same computer that you had a decade ago. But somehow you are expecting your body to show up to secs the same way.

Imagine instead.

- Knowing exactly how to initiate even when you aren’t all hot and h***y
- Craving connection time together
- Secs that feels like easy playful naked fun instead of a high pressure performance zone
- Knowing how to turn yourself on
- Asking for what you need without a shade of guilt that you are being too demanding
- Fueling your relationship with regular visits to the bedroom without forcing anyone.
- Modeling to your kids what a healthy living long term relationship can look like.

If you are looking at your partner who’s across the couch on their phone night after night wondering “ is this all there is ?”

If you love your person you just can’t figure out this whole secs things.

Know that you have the power to make it different.

DM me the word SPARK and let’s see if the Naked Fun Comeback is right for you. No pressure. No arm twisting. Just a moment to peer into a future where intimacy is easy fun and playful again.

17/11/2025

You are always ready to go and they are always a no 👇

As a person who craves it all the time it can be difficult to remember that your parnets libido is a not a flip you switch on and off. Thats like asking them to time travel the North Pole to Mexico I an instant.

Ad a certified intimacy coach and a mom of three who has been your lower libido partner - I talk to parents all the time who get stuck here.

If you want to get more s*xy times you can BOTH feel good about you need to master the art of building the bridge from busy parent mode to landed lover mode.

DM me ROMANCE to grab my 14 day challenge with easy to implement tips you can use in under five minutes a day.

Ready to go from “not tonight” to “ leta stay up late” ? DM me ROMANCE.

15/11/2025

You read the book, you learned about « spontaneous vs. responsive desire, » and you felt smarter. But when it came time to apply it in your life, you tried it once, failed, and decided it would never work for you.

I get it. You are exhausted by the effort, and it doesn’t matter what you try - cause nothing works. You read, you try, you fail. What’s the point!   As a certified intimacy coach who has helped dozens of parents bridge the gap from theory to action, here’s what I know to be true.

Have you ever had the experience of going to the gym and thinking you are doing a certain exercise right, and then someone corrects your form with the most subtle change and all of a sudden the move is 10x harder and your muscles are actually working?   Same thing for your secs life babe. Understanding spontaneous and responsive desire is one thing, applying it to your bedroom life is another, and having someone to correct your form is the ultimate in creating change.  Now, I’m not actually in your bedroom correcting form weirdo. But I am there catching your blind spots, seeing what you missed, and correcting your form.

Cause the number of times I’ve talked to a parent who said “ now that you mention it I probably picked the wrong time,” or “ you’re so right, we had so many assumptions going in”.  
So you can keep trying to piece together the system alone, you can keep getting frustrated, you can stay in that hopeless this will never change place.

Or you can give me 30 minutes of your time and we’ll map a clear path back to regular easy naked whether we work together or not.

DM me SPARK and let’s book a time to make your Naked Fun Comeback.

12/11/2025

Want to feel like lovers again? Here is the tiny scheduling hack you can do today.

As a certified intimacy coach I see many couples make this mistake - you’re waiting for the “perfect” block of time (the whole weekend!) to get s*xy, which is why it never happens.  Waiting for perfection will get you in a three month dry spell.   As a mom of three who has rebuilt my intimate life three times here’s what I teach my clients to do instead:   We look for 30 minute windows.   Tonight, sit down with your partner and find 4 30 minute windows this month to pencil in connection time. Not SECS time, connection time. (This is important)

Then DM me the word SPARK so you can get my four part formula for having secs date that doesn’t suck - for free.   Then get naked, connected and have some naked s*xy fun times.   Not sure it will work for you? All you’ve got to lose in a DM and 6 min of your time. #

10/11/2025

Stop waiting for your libido to “come back.” It’s not a lost dog.

You keep hoping the stars (and hormones) will align, the kids will sleep, and your body will magically want s*x again.
But your libido isn’t gone, it’s just not getting the invite.

Desire doesn’t knock when you’re touched-out, stressed-out, and running on crumbs of connection. 
It shows up when you feel safe, seen, and maybe a little mischievous.

As a certified intimacy coach as a mom of three who has rebuilt her intimacy life after each kid, I’ve made a mission out of sharing my secrets.

Cause I want your marriage or relationship to feel as light, solid, and s*xy as mine does. The only thing that makes me different than you, is I’ve got the training and the tools.   
So… what would your libido actually RSVP “yes” to right now pressure-free touch, a slow kiss, or a full-body nap? 
Drop an emoji 👇 for your pick — no shame, all real talk.  And DM me SPARK if you want a shame free judgement free space to vent those secret “I am not a good wife” feels so we can get you back to naked s*xy fun that feels fab!

08/11/2025

I just couldn’t help myself from reposting this for the weekend. It’s good advice. Get it and let me know what happens.

06/11/2025

60 days of silence. 60 days of lying next to each other: you deciding if tonights the right night to make a move, them calculating how to say no. 
That hurt you feel? It’s not just about secs. It’s about feeling wanted. Desired. Attractive. Chosen.
And every “not tonight” chips away at that feeling, leaving you wondering if you’re the problem.  As a certified intimacy coach and a mom who has rebuilt her own intimate life three times after three kids I have helped dozens of higher libido partners just like you. 
The truth is, you’re not broken or “bad” for wanting secs.
And your relationship isn’t doomed to a dead bedroom because of kids.

But you are stuck on the merry go round of avoidance, where the more you reach for secs the more pressure your partner feels, the more they shutdown and shut you out.  
The good news is you can change this. Not by:  ❌ focusing on or fixing your partner… ❌waiting for desire to strike….. ❌ talking about how we need to have secs more often - again.  In fact, I’ll show you how to go from not tonight to lets stay up late in 14 days even if you haven’t been connected in months.  Grab the Roommates to Romance Challenge now for just $1 a day and discover:  ✅ how to initiate with confidence and avoid the “not tonigh”t look
✅ how to handle rejection without creating more pressure for your partner ✅how playful every day acts create a runway to the bedroom 
This protocol is trusted by couples just like:  Laura who initiated for the first time in 12 months
And like Steve who learned how to take the pressure off so his wife could lean into yes

Let’s get you back in the bedroom, one step at a time. Click the link below to grab it now for less than a latte, and upgrade to 1:1 support for 14 days for less than tacos on the town.

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