12/10/2024
You might not like this post.
𝗠𝗼𝘀𝘁 𝗼𝗳 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝘁𝗶𝗺𝗲𝘀 𝘄𝗲 𝗳𝗲𝗲𝗹 𝘂𝗻𝗵𝗮𝗽𝗽𝘆 𝗶𝘁 𝗶𝘀 𝗯𝗲𝗰𝗮𝘂𝘀𝗲 𝗼𝗳 𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝘂𝗻𝗺𝗲𝘁 𝗲𝘅𝗽𝗲𝗰𝘁𝗮𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻𝘀.
Take a middle class married woman who often quarrels with her husband and enjoys spending time on social media looking at other women’s lavish lifestyles. Her natural human instinct will likely have her resent her husband for not giving her the same luxurious lifestyle as the women she sees on social media. She blames him for the boring life she has and feels that she just spends her time doing housework or looking after the children.
She feels resentful because she perhaps expected that she would have achieved bigger things (in her opinion) and had more of what is considered desirable in our modern society.
𝗦𝗵𝗲 𝗲𝘅𝘁𝗲𝗿𝗻𝗮𝗹𝗶𝘇𝗲𝘀 𝗵𝗲𝗿 𝗵𝗮𝗽𝗽𝗶𝗻𝗲𝘀𝘀. And when you do that, you forget that the truth is only YOU possess the ability to make yourself happy.
It is no one else’s fault if you are unhappy. Nobody should bear the burden of making you happy, they can contribute to your happiness by showing you love and acts of service but it is fully your own responsibility to make sure you are happy. And the fantastic news about this, in case you were thinking ‘’𝗵𝗼𝘄 𝗱𝗲𝗽𝗿𝗲𝘀𝘀𝗶𝗻𝗴!’’ Is that you have full power and capacity to make yourself happy and it is a decision you take day after day.
Not to blame your spouse, your kids, your parents for your lack of happiness or circumstances and to make yourself happy instead.
To achieve that, you need to do exactly the things that the little voice in your head tells you 𝘁𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝗰𝗮𝗻’𝘁 𝗱𝗼. The things your mind tells you that you’re too this or too that, too old, too weak, uneducated, poor, whatever, to achieve it.
You can get one step closer to any goal or dream you have by simply taking action towards it. Take the tiniest action towards what you want and you will see that the only person stopping you is yourself. You’re the one keeping yourself in chains in a monotonous routine. Not your spouse, not your kids, not the lack of time or resources, it’s your own mind and the petty stories it creates about you and what you’re capable of. Go prove it wrong. I promise you that you have the ability to make yourself proud. And if you’re still alive, there’s absolutely no excuse that can stop you, except the one you allow yourself to believe in.
