20/02/2016
My mom and I were talking about toddler emotion and how often it is sometimes difficult to both allow the emotion, but also discipline and teach children some helpful responses. I found this in a parenting article. I absolutely do this with my daughter (although it is sometimes difficult and some bystanders frown upon this technique),I do feel for my daughter's personality type this works well:
Get down to their level - Getting on an equal level eases the big adult small child discomfort and will make both parties feel more equal. It's also harder to be angry and punitive when you're on your knees.
Look them in the eyes - Making eye contact can be a good way to ground yourself and to get rid of your stress. The child can connect with you and know he is loved.
Hug them - For some children, physical contact during emotional outbursts can be hugely comforting. It is also a way to show your concern and presence. (Take note: Some children don't like to be touched, and may get even more upset by this)
Remain present - Just being there without judgement or frantic looking for solutions lets them know that their emotions are valid and gives them the momentum to soothe themselves.
Ask them what they would like - Maybe they are upset because of something and explaining it will help them out of this situation. Knowing they have a listening ear can often be enough.
Sit with them - Just doing nothing might be the best approach, this way you are telling the child that you are there, and that you are not worried, and he gets to take care of his emotions on his own.
Speak calmly - whisper even, if that's what calms you down, it will generally calm the child too.
Hum - singing or humming will ease out the stress in you and might refocus the child's attention.
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