Truidi-lee Barkhuizen Registered Counsellor

22/02/2023

The way we speak to each other matters!!! Remember that you have a huge influence on the way your child thinks about him/herself. Chose your words and your tone wisely.

22/02/2023

When I work with families, this is always the first place we start in our therapeutic journey. Having special time with your child (undivided attention) is not only valuable for your relationship, it is also a wonderful tool to help transform behaviour.

Here is one thing you can do each day to improve your connection with your children. Start with ten minutes a day. Connection creates cooperation.

08/02/2023

Important reminder!!

23/12/2022

Just like that 2022 is at the final sprint. What a year it has been. God has shown up in such big ways for me this year, its actually incredible. I had such a special year with my clients. I also settelend into my new job as a high school counsellor and honestly loving every moment. I am so excited to see what is waiting for me in 2023.
As we are all entering the holiday season with our families I want to leave this with you. Your kids/family/friends will remeber how they felt at Christmas, they will remember you playing with them, including them in the cooking and cleaning. 10 years from now they wont remember the gift. So bless your family with your presence this year. Make some memories, laugh out loud, allow the mess. This time of year should be all about connection and love. May you have a lovely festive season and beautiful new year. 🤍🎄

12/12/2022

During this Christmas time and holiday season, remember your kids are human too. Even if they are tiny humans, they still feel pushed aside, shamed, naughty or in the way. Think about the way you speak to your children. This is a time of quality time, fun and love. Don’t jus dismiss them, or force them do to certain things. Its all about LOVE.

06/12/2022

06/12/2022

As parents we sometimes feel like we need to entertain our children 24/7. In my previous post we spoke about boredom and how important it is for kids to still experience real boredom. Here are some advantages of being bored and skills they will learn through being bored. As always, remember that quality time, where you are plugged in as a parent is the most valuable thing you can do. This post is just your reminder that you don’t have to be pluggend in all holiday long. Allow your kids the oppertunity to feel bored and see where their imagination takes them.

22/11/2022

The long school holiday is approaching quickly. I can already see the worried parents asking how they should keep their children busy for such a long time. They should just not be bored…BUT WHAT IF BOREDOM IS ACTUALLY GOOD??
Allow them the space to be inventive, you don’t have to entertain them 24/7 or even play with them all the time. Yes, playing with your children (really playing with them and not just sitting there while they play) is one of the most valuable actions you can do. Just like playing, boredom is such a wonderful opportunity for your child to grow their beautiful imagination.

28/10/2022

One of the things that have a huge impact on children is when they are compared to others, especially their siblings. It is crucial for us as adults to never EVER compare one sibling to the other. Telling them things like “why does your brother understand math”, “why can you never keep your room tidy like your sister”. It is small comments that grow inside a child to a place where they feel they can never measure up to the other. We need to celebrate what makes each one of our children unique and special. Rather comment on the things your child can do, and encourage them to grow in the areas they are not as strong.

10/10/2022

World Mental Health Day

Your mental health affects how you think, feel, and act. It’s important to discuss it openly and encourage others to seek professional help when they need it. Just talking to someone can make a huge difference.

Make Mental Health A Priority!

10/10/2022

In honor of Mental Health Awareness month, I would like to share this interesting article with you in regards to talking about our mental health:

https://www.lifepathgroup.co.za/the-benefits-of-talking-about-your-mental-health/?fbclid=IwAR3HR23pZnNchrTVKw5yu3Gn69TSZDH30CtwIbKlX861oL9qql9adyTJhqo

04/10/2022

Mental Health Awareness Month is here