Marizanne Naested Counselling & TRE

28/09/2025

✨ P***c hair isn’t dirty — it’s natural.

Some people like to trim, shave, or wax. Others prefer to leave things as nature intended. Both are valid choices. 🧡

P***c hair has a purpose: it cushions friction, protects skin, and even signals maturity. Grooming, on the other hand, can feel fresh or aesthetic — but it also comes with risks like irritation, ingrown hairs, and increased exposure to infection.

👉 What matters most isn’t what you do with your hair — it’s that your choice comes from self-care, not pressure.

Whether smooth, trimmed, or natural: your body is normal. Your hair is natural. And you deserve to feel comfortable in your own skin. 🌸

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25/09/2025

So much of sexual self-esteem is about the stories we tell ourselves — and the ones we’ve been told.The good news? Stories can change. 💛Healing begins with noticing, without judgment.Notice what feels good:A breath.A stretch.A touch.These small moments of embodied pleasure help you rewrite your sexual story, step by step.Therapy can guide you in unpacking shame and rebuilding confidence that feels deeply yours.Contact me at info@lovecounsel.co.za if you want to rewrite the story you tell yourself about your sexuality or worth.

24/09/2025

Sexuality is healthy — but when urges take over, persist for 6+ months, and cause harm despite efforts to stop, it may be something more serious. Let’s chat about Compulsive Sexual Behaviour Disorder, recognised in the ICD-11.

Awareness matters. Let’s talk about it without shame, but with great care when we are talking about pathologising someone’s sexuality.

Contact me if you’re concerned or need more information: www.lovecounsel.co.za or search for me on ‘s website

19/09/2025

Today 1pm live on facebook: https://www.facebook.com/share/1C2ZFDduQK/?mibextid=wwXIfr

📢 Don’t forget! Join us today at 1pm for SADAG’s Ask The Expert live session: “Breaking the Silence: Understanding Su***de Risk in LGBTQI+ Communities”.
Tune in on Facebook Live 👉
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17/09/2025

✨ Broadening Horizons ✨

I recently joined a webinar diving into B D S M (Bo***ge, Discipline, Dominance, Submission, Sa**sm, Masochism). While the term might sound complex, it’s simply an umbrella for a range of consensual practices and relationship dynamics.

Why does this matter? Because s€xuality and intimacy are deeply personal, and no one should feel judged for exploring who they are. As a therapist, I believe knowledge is key—so that people feel seen, respected, and supported in creating safe and authentic connections.

💡 Learning never stops, especially when it comes to embracing the diversity of human experience.

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15/09/2025

💬 Feeling heard is critical for couple connection.

When we can listen to our partner’s truth — without judgment, without defensiveness, without making it about us — we create safety.

Safety lets love breathe.
Safety allows vulnerability.
Safety keeps us turning towards each other, not away.

When your partner feels truly heard, they relax. Their body softens. Trust builds. Connection grows.

💡 Practice listening just to understand — not to reply, defend, or fix. It might be the most intimate thing you do together today. ❤️

13/09/2025

When Your Partner Struggles with suspected or confirmed Compulsive Sexual Behaviour

When communication feels shut down in your relationship, when the hurt has driven you to isolation, remember that your healing matters too.

If you’re the partner, here’s what you can do for yourself:

✨ Prioritise Self-Care — Eat, sleep, and move your body regularly. Your nervous system needs safety and rhythm right now.

✨ Find Your Own Therapist — You deserve a space that is just for you, where you can process feelings of betrayal, confusion, anger, and grief without censoring yourself. Trauma-informed care is important.

✨ Learn About Compulsive Behaviours — Understanding what the behaviour is soothing (stress, shame, loneliness) helps you make sense of the pattern without just blaming yourself.

✨ Set Boundaries — Lack of communication can be its own form of pain. Get clear on what you need to feel emotionally safe while your partner works on themselves. See antidotes for stonewalling and the other 3 horsemen.

✨ Reach for Support — Support groups, trusted friends, and communities can remind you that you are not alone.

Healing is a two-way street. Even if your partner is working on their behaviour, you need care, guidance, and support to restore your sense of safety and connection.

💌 Need help navigating this? I offer counselling for partners too.
📩 info@lovecounsel.co.za | 💬 WhatsApp +27 64 534 7046 | 🌐 www.lovecounsel.co.za

22/08/2025

Recovering from prostate cancer surgery is not only about survival — it’s about quality of life. Many men experience erectile dysfunction, changes in or**sm, urinary incontinence, or a loss of sexual confidence after treatment.

💡 This is where psychosexual counselling plays a crucial role. Addressing sexuality is not optional — it’s part of whole-person cancer care. Your sexual wellbeing, your relationship, and your self-esteem deserve attention too.

🌍 The International Society for Sexual Medicine (ISSM) provides leading research, guidelines, and resources for professionals and patients navigating sexual health challenges after cancer.

If you (or your partner) are facing these struggles, please know you’re not alone — and help is available. Psychosexual support can make a real difference.

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17/08/2025

Post-COVID life might seem like business as usual, but for many South Africans, the pressure to keep going has quietly cut into our mental health. Depression doesn’t always mean lying in bed—it often takes shape as constant busyness, irritability, pulling away, or numbness through scrolling, work, or alcohol.

When you’re running on empty, always remember: Self-care isn’t weakness.

Small steps you can take today:
• Honest check-ins with a friend or loved one
• Movement or gentle body-based stress release
• Speaking to a therapist or counsellor
• Daily rituals to ground you

This coming 10 September — World Su***de Prevention Day — let’s shine a light on how dark things can get, but also how real support is just a call away. In South Africa, the 24-hour, toll-free Su***de Crisis Helpline is available any time you feel like things are becoming unbearable. You’re not alone—help is available day or night.

Su***de Crisis Helpline (SADAG): 0800 567 567
(Free, confidential, 24/7)   

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We don’t have to rebuild ourselves into burnout. We can rebuild ourselves into balance. 🌿