Marizanne Naested Counselling & TRE

31/12/2025

My Top 5 Lessons from 2025 🤍

2025 was a year of abundance unlike anything I’ve known before — not because it was easy, but because it was rich in growth, truth, learning and loving.

I left a long-term, highly stressful corporate job — but only after returning from maternity leave when my baby, born prematurely, was still very small. I wasn’t ready. My nervous system and my heart wasn’t ready.

At the same time, I worked relentlessly to complete my Baccalaureus Sexologiae in record time, start my Masters, and began building the sexology leg of my practice from the ground up, while my trauma-focused work was already in progress.
It was a year of holding many truths at once. Tiny humans were gained and giants were lost too.

Here’s what it taught me:

1. Belief is not fluff — it’s fuel.
Positive affirmation and deep belief in purpose and calling were fundamental. Your thoughts create your reality — so use them wisely.

2. Rest is not optional — even when the pressure is relentless.
When life demands optimal performance in multiple roles at once, rest is not indulgent — it is essential. And the rest that sustains must be health-centred and nervous-system aware.

3. A village is crucial when you are holding many dreams at once.
Motherhood, study, career change, purpose — none of these are meant to be carried alone. Support is the infrastructure that makes growth possible.

4. Keep learning and stay agile.
Growth is rarely graceful while it’s happening. The more I learn, the more I realise how much I still need to learn. No rain, no flowers.

5. Take the photo.
Losing my gran to dementia — a woman who loved photographs — reminded me of their importance. What we capture with intention becomes our legacy when all else fades. Take the photo — especially of the ordinary.

May 2026 be filled with embodiment.
With being grounded. With conscious presence. With treating yourself kindly. With allowing two things to be true at once — and being able to name them honestly.

May it be filled with great memories, big laughs, and true prosperity.

Thank you for your support in 2025. 🤍
#2025

09/12/2025

Marizanne Naested Counselling & TRE

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𝐒𝐭𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐚 𝐜𝐡𝐚𝐧𝐜𝐞 𝐭𝐨 𝐰𝐢𝐧 𝐚 𝐅𝐑𝐄𝐄 𝐫𝐞𝐥𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧𝐬𝐡𝐢𝐩 𝐜𝐨𝐮𝐧𝐬𝐞𝐥𝐥𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐬𝐞𝐬𝐬𝐢𝐨𝐧— perfect for couples preparing for marriage or anyone wanting to strengthen their connection before Valentine’s Day.
(This session may be used 𝐢𝐧𝐝𝐢𝐯𝐢𝐝𝐮𝐚𝐥𝐥𝐲 or as a 𝐜𝐨𝐮𝐩𝐥𝐞.)

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📅 𝐂𝐨𝐦𝐩𝐞𝐭𝐢𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧 𝐃𝐚𝐭𝐞𝐬:
Open: 1 𝐃𝐞𝐜 2025
Closes: 15 𝐉𝐚𝐧 2026
Winner announced: 𝐄𝐧𝐝 𝐨𝐟 𝐉𝐚𝐧𝐮𝐚𝐫𝐲 2026 — just in time for a couple ready to take their 𝐕𝐚𝐥𝐞𝐧𝐭𝐢𝐧𝐞’𝐬 𝐜𝐨𝐧𝐧𝐞𝐜𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧 to a deeper, more intentional level.

🌟 Winner will be selected via certified random-choice software.

Good luck, beautiful brides, couples or individuals!
May 2026 be the year your love grows even stronger.

10/10/2025

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28/09/2025

✨ P***c hair isn’t dirty — it’s natural.

Some people like to trim, shave, or wax. Others prefer to leave things as nature intended. Both are valid choices. 🧡

P***c hair has a purpose: it cushions friction, protects skin, and even signals maturity. Grooming, on the other hand, can feel fresh or aesthetic — but it also comes with risks like irritation, ingrown hairs, and increased exposure to infection.

👉 What matters most isn’t what you do with your hair — it’s that your choice comes from self-care, not pressure.

Whether smooth, trimmed, or natural: your body is normal. Your hair is natural. And you deserve to feel comfortable in your own skin. 🌸

***cHairIsNormal ***cHair

25/09/2025

So much of sexual self-esteem is about the stories we tell ourselves — and the ones we’ve been told.The good news? Stories can change. 💛Healing begins with noticing, without judgment.Notice what feels good:A breath.A stretch.A touch.These small moments of embodied pleasure help you rewrite your sexual story, step by step.Therapy can guide you in unpacking shame and rebuilding confidence that feels deeply yours.Contact me at info@lovecounsel.co.za if you want to rewrite the story you tell yourself about your sexuality or worth.

24/09/2025

Sexuality is healthy — but when urges take over, persist for 6+ months, and cause harm despite efforts to stop, it may be something more serious. Let’s chat about Compulsive Sexual Behaviour Disorder, recognised in the ICD-11.

Awareness matters. Let’s talk about it without shame, but with great care when we are talking about pathologising someone’s sexuality.

Contact me if you’re concerned or need more information: www.lovecounsel.co.za or search for me on ‘s website

23/09/2025

Follow me on Instagram… some things do not want to share and I just do not know why. But have yourself a great Bisexuality day today, Heritage day tomorrow and Contraceptive Day on Friday…

19/09/2025

Today 1pm live on facebook: https://www.facebook.com/share/1C2ZFDduQK/?mibextid=wwXIfr

📢 Don’t forget! Join us today at 1pm for SADAG’s Ask The Expert live session: “Breaking the Silence: Understanding Su***de Risk in LGBTQI+ Communities”.
Tune in on Facebook Live 👉
Let’s learn, share, and support together. ***dePrevention

17/09/2025

✨ Broadening Horizons ✨

I recently joined a webinar diving into B D S M (Bo***ge, Discipline, Dominance, Submission, Sa**sm, Masochism). While the term might sound complex, it’s simply an umbrella for a range of consensual practices and relationship dynamics.

Why does this matter? Because s€xuality and intimacy are deeply personal, and no one should feel judged for exploring who they are. As a therapist, I believe knowledge is key—so that people feel seen, respected, and supported in creating safe and authentic connections.

💡 Learning never stops, especially when it comes to embracing the diversity of human experience.

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15/09/2025

💬 Feeling heard is critical for couple connection.

When we can listen to our partner’s truth — without judgment, without defensiveness, without making it about us — we create safety.

Safety lets love breathe.
Safety allows vulnerability.
Safety keeps us turning towards each other, not away.

When your partner feels truly heard, they relax. Their body softens. Trust builds. Connection grows.

💡 Practice listening just to understand — not to reply, defend, or fix. It might be the most intimate thing you do together today. ❤️

13/09/2025

When Your Partner Struggles with suspected or confirmed Compulsive Sexual Behaviour

When communication feels shut down in your relationship, when the hurt has driven you to isolation, remember that your healing matters too.

If you’re the partner, here’s what you can do for yourself:

✨ Prioritise Self-Care — Eat, sleep, and move your body regularly. Your nervous system needs safety and rhythm right now.

✨ Find Your Own Therapist — You deserve a space that is just for you, where you can process feelings of betrayal, confusion, anger, and grief without censoring yourself. Trauma-informed care is important.

✨ Learn About Compulsive Behaviours — Understanding what the behaviour is soothing (stress, shame, loneliness) helps you make sense of the pattern without just blaming yourself.

✨ Set Boundaries — Lack of communication can be its own form of pain. Get clear on what you need to feel emotionally safe while your partner works on themselves. See antidotes for stonewalling and the other 3 horsemen.

✨ Reach for Support — Support groups, trusted friends, and communities can remind you that you are not alone.

Healing is a two-way street. Even if your partner is working on their behaviour, you need care, guidance, and support to restore your sense of safety and connection.

💌 Need help navigating this? I offer counselling for partners too.
📩 info@lovecounsel.co.za | 💬 WhatsApp +27 64 534 7046 | 🌐 www.lovecounsel.co.za

22/08/2025

Recovering from prostate cancer surgery is not only about survival — it’s about quality of life. Many men experience erectile dysfunction, changes in or**sm, urinary incontinence, or a loss of sexual confidence after treatment.

💡 This is where psychosexual counselling plays a crucial role. Addressing sexuality is not optional — it’s part of whole-person cancer care. Your sexual wellbeing, your relationship, and your self-esteem deserve attention too.

🌍 The International Society for Sexual Medicine (ISSM) provides leading research, guidelines, and resources for professionals and patients navigating sexual health challenges after cancer.

If you (or your partner) are facing these struggles, please know you’re not alone — and help is available. Psychosexual support can make a real difference.

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