09/02/2026
January is a proud month in the life of a young man in Mbekweni, Paarl.
The “boy” just a month ago, has now graduated from a traditional Xhosa initiation school (Ulwaluko), to become a young man, an ikrwala.
But sadly around 1 000 initiates nationally have died from complications resulting from Ulwalako the past 30 years, with an estimated 2 000 pe**le amputations.
In an attempt to avert this tragedy, while simultaneously acknowledging the traditional importance of this rites of passage in our participant community, Be Part partnered with members of the community, to establish the “Gentle Man Project”.
We are very proud of this extremely successful Community-Private Partnership (CPP).
The Gentle Man Project is a 12-week initiation preparation program, led by Rev Gumenge and Thabiso Ralehoko.
Thabiso, a senior Research Assistant at Be Part, lost his younger brother in 2022 after an initiation ceremony.
As a result, Thabiso is the one man who passionately wants to prevent a similar tragedy caused by a tradition that is aimed at affirming manhood, not ending it.
Rev Gumenge’s team led 68 young men in 2025 through this Gentle Man Project, which integrates physical, mental and emotional resilience coaching, together with a comprehensive medical consultation at Be Part.
The good news?
All 68 enrolled initiates returned home safely!
This result is a clear reflection of the positive impact of this CPP.
This valuable partnership has not only saved lives, but has strengthened appreciation, trust, preparedness, and collective responsibility within the Mbekweni community.
This heartfelt appreciation from the community was recently articulated in a personal letter from the Mbekweni Xhosa Traditional Male Initiation Forum, in acknowledgment of Be Part’s invaluable role in this project.
Be Part Yoluntu Centre has been privileged to partner with the community of Mbekweni the past 19 years, and looks forward to continuing collaborating on the Gentle Man Project.
A project where boys are nurtured on a journey of manhood, to become “gentle men”. Men who can confidently and decisively take care for their families and their communities. But who can be gentle in their dealings with women, children and the vulnerable.
Gentle Men.
Learn more about our other empowerment initiatives that transform lives in the Mbekweni community, at www.bepart.co.za.