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Healing Hearts Healing Relationships

Passionate about helping marriages and relationships! My name is Nina Spies. You may not share the same faith, or even have any faith at all, and that is okay.

I am a trained counselor with:

- A Degree in B.Sc (Psychology).
- A Masters Degree in Theology (MTheol).
- I also am a qualified Neuro-Linguistic Practitioner with specific training in mind renewal and deep emotional healing techniques.
- I have vast training in personality types, attachment styles and relationship dynamics – ranging from gender differences in emotional, communication and sexual styles, etc., to the secrets of how to become irresistible to the opposite gender.
- I am trained and have assisted those who had to deal with the effects of “unwanted” pregnancies, especially in teenagers. My Core Values:

Faith: I believe in God, and for me personally, His acceptance of me has been one of the most important factors in healing my heart and my life. I am here to help you, regardless. Openness and honesty: As you have seen by now, I am willing to put the cards of my life on the table. I invite you to do the same. This is when counseling becomes a conversation instead, based on safety and trust, and where healing can take place. Kindness and respect: I know the value of human hearts, and I know how unique and special each one of us is. You will not shock me, or anger me, or upset me when you vent your feelings and share your experiences and I will not treat you with any less kindness or respect if you do. You can count on that. Dedication: I understand that it takes courage and vulnerability to allow me to take this journey with you. I will not abandon you halfway. I will stay by your side until you feel that you have your life back in balance again. However long it takes. Confidentiality: What you share stays between us. That is my pledge to you. Only in cases of criminal injustice will I be lawfully required to speak out.

18/11/2025

Temper Tantrums – Adulting Like a Toddler in a Boardroom

You’re 34, wearing a business suit, and the printer jams. Suddenly you’re yelling, slamming your fist, muttering, and maybe drafting a dramatic resignation note…in crayon. You stomp to the kitchen, knock over the coffee mug, and hear the tiny voice of your 5-year-old self wail, “Why won’t anyone listen to ME?!” That little human inside is very much alive, demanding fairness and attention.

Tool: Pause. Name the trigger — what tiny injustice just happened that feels like a major betrayal?
Take a five-second delay, breathe, and state your feeling: “I feel frustrated and unheard!”
Release the energy safely: walk, stretch, pace, or a shake your body for a few seconds. ✍️ Optional: Journal afterward to track your triggers and patterns. Awareness is the first step.

Some days you may stomp and curse under your breath; some days you might let out a little sigh (or laugh) at your own ridiculousness. Both ways are human — even if the coffee sometimes don't survive. ☕💥

08/11/2025

The Dishwasher Apocalypse & Marital Communication 💥🍽️

I swear, marriage is a test of patience disguised as a dishwasher. My spouse loaded it “wrong,” and somehow the forks were in the wine glass section, the spoons had staged a mutiny, and the plates were teetering like they were auditioning for Cirque du Soleil.

I opened my mouth to say something—and then caught myself mid-sentence. The words were sharp. They were judgmental. They could start a small war over stainless steel. Instead, I paused, laughed (awkwardly), and muttered, “Okay, universe, you win this round.”

We survived the dishwasher apocalypse. But the real lesson? It wasn’t about plates. It was about how I react to small chaos before it becomes big chaos in my heart.

Tool: Pause before responding to conflict. Label your feeling (“I feel frustrated”), take a breath, and respond with curiosity instead of judgment. Try mirroring your partner’s words back to check you understood correctly. Small, intentional communication beats reactive chaos every time.

Soft landing: Sometimes the dishwasher will still be loaded wrong. Sometimes the spouse will still be oblivious. You can only control your reactions, not the forks. And hey, a little humor goes a long way to prevent a small mess from exploding into a full-scale argument. 💛✨

07/11/2025

Shame & Self-Esteem—The Inner Critic That Won’t Shut Up 😖🪞

Mirror, mirror, why do I feel like I don’t measure up? Every mistake, every flaw feels magnified, while your wins are tucked in a dusty corner. You hide parts of yourself, worry about judgment, and sometimes convince yourself no one would love the “real you.” And yet… you binge-watch cheesy movies, make your cat wear silly hats, or secretly sing out loud in the shower.

Tool: Name the critical thoughts when they arise. Counter them with evidence: “I did handle that situation well. I did help someone. I am more than my mistakes.” Small self-affirmations, journaling moments of pride, and checking in with trusted people who lift you up help retrain your inner critic.

Soft landing: Shame may whisper, but your truth speaks louder when you pause and notice it. Some days you’ll stumble, some days you’ll shine, but each small act of self-kindness rewires your sense of worth. Smile at the quirks, celebrate the wins, and maybe do a little cat-hat dance—because you’re still lovable exactly as you are. 💛🐾

06/11/2025

Did you know?Today's thoughts influence tomorrow's outcome

28/04/2022

There is a saying; As a person thinks in his heart, so is he. In other words, what you believe about yourself you will create or draw into your life, much like a self-fulfilling prophecy.

However, once your identity (the way you see yourself) starts to change for the better, you will find that the law of attraction begins to effortlessly work in your favour by drawing to you not what you fear, but that which you deeply desire; be it in your love life, your career, your health, your family or your personal life.

You can contact me for an appointment:
E-mail: nina07spies@gmail.com
Cell: 079 535 9880 (Whatsapp available)

27/04/2022

Are you tired of feeling like you give and give in your relationship without much appreciation or love in return? At Healing Hearts Healing Relationships I will show you how to avoid giving too much and chasing your partner, and instead learn what you need to do to keep your man pursuing and desiring you, even if you have been in a relationship or marriage for years.

You can contact me for an appointment:
E-mail: nina07spies@gmail.com
Cell: 079 535 9880 (Whatsapp available)

24/04/2022

In relationships it always takes two. But sometimes, change starts with only one. You were born to shine.

Remember, we are in this together.

You can contact me for an appointment:
E-mail: nina07spies@gmail.com
Cell: 079 535 9880 (Whatsapp available)

Healing Hearts Healing Relationships is here to support you if you feel that your relationship is struggling, stagnant, ...

22/04/2022

21/04/2022

At Healing Hearts Healing Relationships I will show you how to understand the difference between how men and women fall and stay in love and why this is important to know.m

The fact that we don’t understand our partner most of the time doesn’t help. Don't you think it is strange that we study everything, but when it comes to relationships we think we will just somehow figure it out as we go along? Imagine if a heart surgeon had that attitude! Would you allow that surgeon to operate on you? Probably not!

It is the same with relationships. We go into a relationship with little or misguided knowledge and skills, yet we somehow still believe that the relationship is going to work out for the best.

Knowledge is power! Part of my mission is to help you understand what it takes to create and maintain a strong, intimate connection with your partner.

It is the same with relationships. We go into a relationship with little or misguided knowledge and skills, yet we somehow still believe that the relationship is going to work out for the best.

Knowledge is power! Part of my mission is to help you understand what it takes to create and maintain a strong, intimate connection with your partner.

You can contact me for an appointment:
E-mail: nina07spies@gmail.com
Cell: 079 535 9880 (Whatsapp available)

20/04/2022

Every man has a secret biological need (and no, it is not s*x), of which he may not even be consciously aware. If you know how to tap into this need and meet it, he will feel that you are the only woman that has ever truly understood him and he will not want to lose you at any cost! If you do not know how to meet this need in him, he will always feel that there is something missing in your relationship.

You can contact me for an appointment:
E-mail: nina07spies@gmail.com
Cell: 079 535 9880 (Whatsapp available)

17/04/2022

If you want to strengthen the bond between you and your partner, or if you find yourself in a situation where your relationship has become strained and distant, you are welcome to contact me so that we can work together to get you back on track again. It is possible.

You can contact me for an appointment:
E-mail: nina07spies@gmail.com
Cell: 079 535 9880 (Whatsapp available)

15/04/2022

Healing Hearts Healing Relationships is here to support you if you feel that your relationship is struggling, stagnant, or if you just want to deepen the connection that you already have with your partner!

You can contact me for an appointment:
E-mail: nina07spies@gmail.com
Cell: 079 535 9880 (Whatsapp available)

You can also watch the link below to help you get started on this journey:
https://www.ted.com/talks/esther_perel_the_secret_to_desire_in_a_long_term_relationship?language=en

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