Candice Baker-The Elemental Life Coach

24/04/2026

A WILD WOMAN RETREAT

“When a Woman Speaks Her Truth

It is that holy poetry and singing we are after. We want powerful words and songs that can be heard underwater and over land. It is the wild singing we are after, our chance to use the wild language we are learning by heart under the sea. When a woman speaks her truth, fires up her intention and feeling, staying tight with the instinctive nature, she is singing, she is living in the wild breath-stream of the soul. To live this way is a cycle in itself, one meant to go on, go on, go on.”

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22/04/2026

There has been a lot of talk about s*xual assault online, exposés, criminal websites.

Here is my 'me too' story.

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22/04/2026

On the CNN "r**e academy" story, the ten thousand year erasure of the Mother, and what we do now.

19/04/2026

TRUST IS A PRECIOUS GIFT And once it’s broken, even if you forgive, it never returns quite the same.

Trust is not just a word—it’s a promise. It’s the invisible thread that holds two people together. It says, “I believe in you,” “I feel safe with you,” and “I can be vulnerable here.” But when that thread is snapped by betrayal, it’s more than just pain—it’s a wound that cuts through the heart, the mind, and the soul.
If your partner uses your vulnerability as a weapon, lies to you or is unfaithful they are destroying the very foundation of your relationship.

We often give second chances—not because we’re weak, but because we hope. Hope that it was a mistake. Hope that love will be enough. Hope that things will go back to the way they were.

But here’s what they don’t always tell you: One betrayal—one lie, one deception—can reveal the character of someone you thought you knew. And sometimes, the truth is more painful than the lie itself.

You’ll question yourself: “Was I not enough?” “What did I do wrong?” But remember this— It wasn’t about your worth. It was about their choices.

You don’t have to carry the weight of someone else's decisions. You don’t have to keep giving chances to someone who keeps giving you pain. You don’t have to let love become a battlefield where your peace is the first casualty.

Protect your peace. Guard your heart. Love yourself enough to walk away when staying means shrinking.

Sometimes the strongest thing you can do is choose silence over begging, distance over confusion, and healing over chaos.

You are not too sensitive. You are not overreacting. You are simply recognizing what your heart tried to ignore— That trust, once broken, may never fit the same again.

And that’s okay. Because healing is not about fixing what broke— It’s about building something stronger… for yourself.

You deserve someone who never puts your trust on the line. Someone who protects your heart like it’s their own. Until then, choose you. Every time.

14/04/2026

Polarity Isn't Progress, it's a reaction to feminism.
That women can (and should) do everything by themselves.

What we need is a return to centre.

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13/04/2026

POLARITY ISN’T PROGRESS

Polarity is a reaction to feminism. A reset for the idea that a woman can (and should) do everything by herself. There is a lot of talk on the Internet about polarity, especially in the Manosphere. This concept of how a woman should think and act does not take into account personal traits and preferences. What she should expect from her life, what her role is in society applies a blanket rule for all.

And how alpha /real men are providers, again ignoring personality types and individual differences. Hell, half the men I’ve seen online are in their princess era! Some are body builders and some wear makeup, and some do both.
When you try to squeeze an entire gender into one small box, it all gets really toxic really fast.

Everybody is different, we are all unique individuals, yes…even the ‘females’, as the Manosphere likes to refer to us as. There is no one-size-fits-all in human relationships or psychology. Not even from an evolutionary or cultural perspective, where some societies are matriarchal and some are patriarchal. Where Amazon’s were warriors and men were subservient while other societies cast women into the submissive role.

So let’s turn gender bias on its ass for a second. Some women like to provide, and some men like to stay at home and take care of the family. Some women are body builders and some men are ultra-fem. And that’s ok!
Women are gender policed because they are too strong, too muscular, too independent. Or too s*xy, too promiscuous, too independant. Men are policed too, because they are too soft, too feminine, too simp, too homo, too alpha.

While men are encouraged to integrate their feminine side in some circles, women who embrace their masculine side are criticised in others. We are called bitch, butch, scary, liberated. They are called conscious, enlightened, or homo. It depends who you ask.

How about we take each person as an individual, in a world where variety is interesting and even entertaining?
Calling a strong woman butch or a soft man a simp is a form of bullying I have encountered a few times in my life, and I found it to be really upsetting.

After some thought and some insightful chats to other strong women, I have come to realize something I already knew on an intellectual level. I just needed to remove the emotional sting. Return the energy to sender. Accept and love the path that I have chosen, or change it for my own reasons.

*At the end of the day, we should all be striving to integrate elements of our opposite gender to be better balanced humans.
*People who shame others are doing it out of their own insecurities.
*Body shaming is just a form of gender stereotyping and bullying, don’t ever feel the need to fit into anybody’s mould.
*Rise above comments that do not deserve a response.
*People who are trying to pull you down are already below you.

Let’s pack away these ridiculous boxes and try to not be kak humans, ok?

I am a holistic life coach & wellness coach, registered traditional doctor with a special interest in relationships and woman empowerment.
T/DR Candice Baker
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“Your most aligned life is crafted—element by element.”

13/04/2026

“When a Woman Speaks Her Truth It is that holy poetry and singing we are after. We want powerful words and songs that can be heard underwater and over land. It is the wild singing we are afte…

11/04/2026

Woman’s Re-Wilding Retreats – Candice Baker Life Coach

“When a Woman Speaks Her Truth It is that holy poetry and singing we are after. We want powerful words and songs that can be heard underwater and over land. It is the wild singing we are afte…

11/04/2026

The goddess was never pure.
Somewhere along the line the worth of women became entangled with purity.

A patriarchal construct to control the freedom of women.

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28/03/2026

Goddess Rising

Image by Ken Lovell, Model Mermaid Storm GODDESS RISING The Goddess Was Never Pure.Somewhere along the way, a woman’s worth became entangled with the idea of purity.Untouched. Unclaimed. Unmarked.B…

25/03/2026

Goddess Reclaimed

The Goddess Was Never Pure.
Somewhere along the way, a woman’s worth became entangled with the idea of purity.
Untouched. Unclaimed. Unmarked.
But if we look back—before modern shame, before rigid moral codes, before the policing of women’s bodies—we find something radically different.
We find goddesses, and they were never pure.
They were sensual, desiring, expressive, embodied. They loved deeply, often, and freely. Their s*xuality was not a stain on their divinity—it was an extension of it. It was creative force. It was life itself.
The ancient feminine was not revered for restraint. She was revered for power.
She was the lover and the creator. The seductress and the destroyer. The one who felt everything and withheld nothing.
She was whole.

The Invention of “Purity”
Purity, as we understand it today, is not an ancient truth. It is a social construct—one that emerged as systems of control over women’s bodies became more rigid.
A woman’s s*xuality became something to regulate.
To contain.
To measure.
Her value became tied to what she had not done, rather than who she was.
Virginity became currency. Modesty became morality. Desire became danger.
And slowly, the narrative shifted:
From “She is divine because she embodies life”
To “She is worthy only if she remains untouched.”

The Modern Contradiction.
Today, women live inside a paradox.
Their bodies are everywhere—advertised, stylized, filtered, sold. Sexuality is used to market everything from perfume to protein shakes. Entire industries are built on the consumption of the female form.
And yet-
The same woman who is desired can be diminished.
The woman who expresses her s*xuality openly can be judged.
The woman who profits from her body can be dehumanized.
She is told:
Be desirable, but not experienced.
Be s*xy, but not s*xual.
Be wanted, but not wanting.
And if she crosses that invisible line—if she owns her desire instead of performing it—her worth is questioned.

The Goddess in the “Impure”
What if we rejected this entirely?
What if we remembered that a woman does not lose her divinity through experience?
That her body is not something that can be “used up”?
That desire does not diminish her—it animates her?
A woman who has loved many times is not less sacred.
A woman who has explored her s*xuality is not less worthy.
A woman working within the s*x trade is not less human, less deserving of dignity, less divine.
She is still a body that feels.
A heart that knows.
A soul that exists beyond the projections placed upon her.

Reclaiming the Sacred Body
To see yourself as a goddess is not about perfection, it's about modern feminism.
It is not about purity.
It is about sovereignty.
It is about returning to the truth that your body is yours—not a moral scoreboard, not a commodity for judgment, not a thing to be ranked or reduced.
Your body is an instrument of experience.
A vessel of sensation.
A living expression of life force.
And life force does not ask for permission to be worthy.

Before shame was taught, pleasure was natural.
Before bodies were controlled, they were celebrated.
Before purity was demanded, women were simply… powerful.
This is not about rejecting s*xuality.
It is about reclaiming it from systems that distort it.
It is about seeing yourself—not through the lens of judgment—but through the ancient remembering:
That the goddess was never untouched.
She was alive.
And that aliveness is your birthright.

I am a life coach, relationship coach and registered traditional doctor.
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