LAVU DOKTA

05/11/2025

Heal First, and love later.

05/11/2025

Read it on Facebook

for you!

The new generation:

At 14, she is a teenager, nice and sweet.

At 16 she wants to hang out with the elders.

At 18, she probably already had her first "sexual report", she clings to the guy and talks about how she will never leave him 😊

20 years old, maybe already in College. She meets new guys and slowly loses interest in the old guy.

At 22, she makes new friends who wear expensive clothes, go to fancy places and date wearers. These girls are using the latest generation phones. She is intimidated by it all, hence the need to join them.

At 24, she's high, high-tech phone, goes to fancy places, she's now dating guys who have means, who give money for nothing just to sleep with her. At this point, if a guy flirting, she snobs, if he asks for her number, she looks at him like a worthless. She prefers guys who actually want to spend a fortune on her. That's what it's all about her. 😯

At 26, the trend continues... Party, big phone, good life, money is still the key words because she changed her mindset and raised the standard she wants in a man, money. 🙄

Between 26 and 27, she is a maid of honor at her friends' wedding. If she was lucky enough to be in a relationship she almost leaves She then sees herself as every man's dream, so she believes that she will always be chased after like civil service competitions.

At 28, all these guys telling her how beautiful she is, how they love her, even if she was in a relationship. She decided to give two of them a chance. They came, explored and after two weeks stopped answering her calls. She decided to give several a chance, but the same thing happened. She got back to her ex who was bothering her while she was with the good old guy, but the same thing happened.

So she decided to have adventures with anyone that comes in her way.

At 29, none of these guys have proposed...

At 30, night vigil, place of worship, 5 nights of glory, miracle crusade..

At 32, the same girl that refused to give her phone number and all the sites and groups that ooh" Hi am Stephanie, am 32 looking for a serious relationship. Call me 6810XX00X "

At 35, she starts running to churches begging pastor to pray for her, he will fast, pray and speak in tongues, roll on the ground, visit mountains for special prayer sessions but no way.

At 40, she starts seeing her family members as witches and wizards.

At 45-50 years old, she became a mentor at conferences on motivation for young girls. This is how she will tell you that she has decided to abstain from men so that she can worship Jesus Christ in spirit and truth. She will tell us that marriage is not end of itself patati patata.

Make the right life choice when there's still time. Having fun is nice but it's a problem when our life is all about entertainment.

04/11/2025

Get yourself a lady who supports your hustle and settle... 👊👊

04/11/2025

50/50 is for roommates not for a man who says he loves you.

04/11/2025

Pray for your marriage daily. Not because it’s broken, but because it’s sacred. Ask God for grace, patience, and wisdom. Couples who pray together don’t just survive - they grow stronger through every storm.

04/11/2025

03/11/2025

https://zambianmusicblog.co/bob-muli-something-special-album/?fbclid=IwVERDUAN2E_RleHRuA2FlbQIxMQABHl8XWyvLu_g-9qPOQLps11nLsk0hMY7ge5LVwA1HUAloxEQYrBr25TgTyGOh_aem_jIwKK1B7mRaYHeFr34vl0w

Multi talented and seasonal music star, Bob Muli is ready for the new year as he drops the long awaited studio album entitled “Something Special“. The new album consists of 19 complete tracks which come with different varieties of sound and melody, among the tracks are his previously released so...

03/11/2025

Better Days Are Coming.. Don't Give Up.

03/11/2025

What are you doing RIGHT NOW?

03/11/2025

Toxic people keep switching partners just to avoid fixing themselves.

03/11/2025

HOW TO BUILD YOUR COMEBACK AFTER A BREAKUP

Getting over her isn’t the goal — rebuilding yourself into a stronger man is. Every heartbreak is a wake-up call, not a death sentence. You can cry for a moment, but after that, it’s time to rise and rebuild.

Here’s how:

Rule #1: Grieve, Then Get to Work.
Yes, it’s normal to experience loss.
Allow yourself 72 hours to feel sorry for yourself. Process it all.
But on day 4, the pity party is over.
You get up, and you get to work. Your feelings don’t care about you; your actions do.

Rule #2: End Every Trace from the Past.
“No Contact” isn’t a suggestion; it’s a command.
Delete her number.
Unfollow & mute her everywhere.
Archive all photos.
Get rid of her stuff.
Anything that reminds you of her is a wound you’re choosing to keep open. Close it.

Rule #3: Physical Work Is Your Ally.
You can think your way into depression, but you can’t think your way out of it.
You have to act.
The fastest way to change your mind is to change your body.
Lift heavy. Run hard. Eat clean.
Your physical state dictates your mental state.

Rule #4: Accept That She Is Not “The One.”
“The One” would not have left.
“The One” would not have disrespected you.
Once she walked away, she disqualified herself. Stop idolizing a memory.

Rule #5: Stop Asking “Why?”
You’ll never get a satisfying answer.
The only question that matters is: “What now?”
Focus on what you can control — the past isn’t on that list.

Rule #6: Build a New Mission.
Don’t revolve your life around the void she left.
Fill it with purpose — start a business, train harder, learn something new.
A man with a mission doesn’t have time to be heartbroken.

Rule #7: Forge Non-Negotiable Standards.
This breakup happened because a standard was broken — by you or by her.
Now, create new ones. Write down what you will and won’t tolerate again.

Rule #8: Your Ex Is Not Your Friend.
Stop orbiting her life. You’re not being a friend — you’re being a backup plan.
Respect yourself enough to walk away.

Rule #9: It Was Your Fault.
Even if she was 99% wrong, take 100% responsibility for choosing and tolerating her.
Radical accountability gives you back your power.

Rule #10: Don’t Talk Badly About Her.
A man of value doesn’t vent; he levels up.
Your silence and success are louder than gossip.

Rule #11: Stop “Working on the Relationship.”
Work on yourself.
Great relationships are byproducts of great individuals.
Be a man so fulfilled that a relationship is a bonus — not a necessity.

Rule #12: Don’t Rebound. Learn.
Every failed date is data.
Have fun, learn yourself, and refine your standards.

Rule #13: Silence Your Inner Critic.
That voice telling you “you’re not good enough” is a liar.
Starve it. Feed the voice that tells you to rise, train, and grind.

Heartbreak doesn’t end you — it forges you.
Get back up, rebuild, and rise harder than before!

03/11/2025

YOU WERE WITH YOUR MOTHER IN YOUR GRANDMOTHER'S WOMB.

The egg that became you is older than you are, and that’s not just science. Long before you were born, before your mother even finished her Grade Seven exams or learned how to cook nshima properly, the egg that would one day become you was already waiting inside her. Women are born with all the eggs they will ever have, millions of them tucked away like bags of maize in a granary, waiting for the right season. By the time your mother was a teenager, that number had dropped, but your egg was still there, patient, like a farmer waiting for the rains.

Now, your father’s contribution to the story was a very different affair. S***m is made fresh, like fritters sizzling in hot oil at the market, quick to appear, quick to vanish. It doesn’t wait around for years; it’s produced in weeks, maybe a couple of months at most. So when the great meeting finally happened, your mother’s egg was a seasoned veteran, aged like a calabash of mabisi left to ferment just right, while your father’s s***m was more like a bottle of Fanta, bubbly, energetic, and gone in a flash.

This means that when you think about your beginnings, you’re not just the product of one moment. You’re the result of decades of waiting on one side and a sprint on the other. Your egg was already present when your mother was playing waida or skipping rope with her friends, when she was fetching water, when she was dreaming about her future. And then, one day, it was chosen, released, and met its match.

So yes, the egg that formed you is older than you, and in a way, older than your father’s entire contribution. It’s a reminder that life is both patient and impulsive, ancient and immediate. The egg waited for decades, the s***m rushed in, and together they pulled off the greatest collaboration of all time: you.

You have heard.