Darius Bwalya Chama Serenje - Mental Health Expert

03/12/2025

01/12/2025

No one's told you they're living with HIV? That's not a badge of honor. It's a sign you need to be a safer person.

If there's no one in your life living openly with HIV, you're not in a "clean" circle. You're in a silent one.

The absence of disclosure in your life is a measure of stigma, not a measure of health.

01/12/2025

If none of your friends, colleagues, mates, or relatives has ever personally opened up to you about their HIV status or reached out to you for support... it's likely not because HIV isn't in your community. It's far more likely because you haven't yet built the kind of trust that makes sharing such a deeply personal truth feel safe.

17/11/2025

12/11/2025

Pain can shape you, but it should never define how you treat others. When you choose compassion instead of cruelty, you protect your heart from becoming what hurt you. Life rewards those who hold onto goodness, even when tested. The greatest victory is remaining gentle in a world that tried to make you hard.

12/11/2025

Your upbringing shapes your perspective, but it doesn’t define others. Judging someone because they act differently shows a lack of empathy. Take time to listen, observe, and understand. When you meet people where they are, you create respect and harmony instead of conflict. Understanding starts with remembering that everyone has a unique story.

12/11/2025

THE ZAMBIA DAILY MAIL NEWSPAPER MONDAY EDITION

True discipline is found in small, consistent daily choices, not grand gestures. It is the essential tool for turning the life you imagine ("one day") into the life you live ("today").

We mistakenly wait to feel motivated before acting. But action must come first; motivation and mastery follow consistent practice.

12/11/2025

True success isn’t about competition, it’s about potential.
Measure yourself by your own growth, not someone else’s goals. 🙏

07/11/2025

Love language. 💚

07/11/2025

The Unwanted Inheritance

I’ve been thinking about the identities we inherit, the ones handed to us like a family inheritance we never asked for. The "black sheep," the "people-pleaser," the "difficult one," the "eternal optimist."

For so long, I treated these labels as truth. I built my life inside the walls of these definitions, arranging my furniture to fit the rooms they gave me. I thought my job was to just live more comfortably within the confinement.

But a shift is happening. I'm realizing that an inheritance, even an unwanted one, doesn't have to be kept. It can be acknowledged, examined for what it is, and then gently, firmly, let go of. It wasn't my truth; it was a story I was told, a role I was cast in before I could even read the script.

My work now is the slow, deliberate, and powerful work of an archaeologist, digging down beneath the layers of other people's projections to find the artifacts of my true self. What do I value? What brings me joy? What is my voice, when it's not echoing someone else's expectation?

This isn't about rebellion. It's about repatriation. It's about bringing the territory of my own identity back under my own sovereignty.

07/11/2025

Your identity is not a life sentence. It's a story. And you hold the pen.

07/11/2025

Re-authoring my story, one gentle truth at a time.
It turns out the most powerful words aren't the ones that were spoken about me, but the ones I'm learning to whisper, and then shout, to myself.