I heart ME

18/09/2025

3 common fears mothers face and the truth about what fear is?

08/09/2025

06/09/2025

Some things never change, but she’s changed my life!
I’m having the best “mom of a teenager” experience and here’s why -

I’M NOT RAISING A CHILD, I’M HELPING AND ADULT DEVELOP (18 yrs a child, 80years an adult)

1. We connect by spending time together
2. Her stuff is just as big or small as mine is to me
3. I have emotions the same as she does and funny how she sometimes help me to understand mine too
4. We agreed that although I’m the queen, we still will have estrogen dominancy battles and it’s ok. She’s better at martial arts
5. I say I’m sorry if I’m wrong, because it’s not “because I’m the mom” that I get to be right. We are both humans and perfectly imperfect.
6. We agree to disagree at times
7. I give her space to be upset and then invite her to mine to talk it out
8. She knows she is always welcome to speak up, she anyways do it bravely and from love
9. I accepted the assignment to support her emotions in these years and as hard as it is sometimes (because my heart hurts when her does), I’m always and forever there when she needs me to remove the splinter or help carry the boulder
10. It is hard for us both, me as mom, her as teen. My favor is I get to be mom forever and she grows out of teen, yet will remain my babygirl

This is not because I’m doing it for a week, it is because we are building on something - it is called mutual unconditional love and deeply authentic respect (not the fear kind)

PS: this is true for my son too

05/09/2025

When is the last time you loved on yourself, the 3 reasons why it is important and 2 easy ways you can do it!!!

04/09/2025

Life is like building a puzzle.. here’s why?

05/08/2025

Getting your teen to spend time with you is NOT EASY!
They live in a very different world than us (parents)
As a teen mentor and coach many have sat in my chair and here is the golden nugget I simply have to share -

When you spend time with them, make it about THEM!
Let them make choices (even if it is silly, they are practicing)
Let them feel welcome, not judged, not criticised or embarrassed
Let them take the lead, talk about what they find interesting, as long as they feel to do so
Don’t demand, suggest, if they resist, let it go.
Let them feel important

Today my teen to cut her hair the way she wanted….
Would I have chosen it different for her if I was given the choice…? yes - BUT, I kept quiet because her joy is mine. She is happy the way Desire (from ) cut her hair (she is SUPER TALENTED at hair by the way!!!). I did not interfere. I did not tell her what I “thought” will be better, because my best is not her best.

Do I think she looks pretty amazing… beautiful… YES, yes and YES!!!
So there is nothing more to be said other than I love her hair!

28/07/2025

I accepted the role of mom
All I had to do is see it differently - they didn’t choose to be here - I chose them

I was given the 2 best gifts of my life and here I am today wishing days were longer, that I had more time with them

Is every day a breeze? No, but it is filled to the brim with love, compassion, joy, respect and space. Not something they give to me or I have to give to them - there is balance. It’s shared

Being a mom starts with ME - so much of who they are and becoming is on me. Once I realised that, everything changed!

26/07/2025

In a world full of filters, expectations, and pressure to fit in - choosing to be YOU is a non-negotiable!

It takes courage to live in alignment with your values, your soul self, your truth.

♥️ It makes SENSE to protect your peace.
♥️ It is SENSIBLE to honour who Divine Design.

1. give yourself permission to be authentic, unapologetic you - stop performing and be OK to be youself

You don’t need to be more like them.
You need to be more like you.

24/07/2025

Combat sabotage by understanding these 5 truths of how the mind works

1) your mind lies to you - it only know what it knows and uses it for you or alot of times against you
2) What you avoid controls you - fear of failure the worst, it stagnates us and prevent moving forward. It’s not failure if you see it as learning and progress
3) You can create your own identity - you get to tell yourself who you want to be for the day
4) You have the power to regulate your emotions - if they control you, they negatively control two-thirds of your life
5) life is hard - do it anyway by implimenting the first 4 rules

♥️YOU ARE THE MASTER OF YOUR MIND

23/07/2025

How is it possible to stay in love with your partner?

I’ll go first - 👇🏻you can let me know in the comments what’s your secret👇🏻

LOVE NEVER FAILS!
It’s no secret
We both play by these simple no-no rules:

1. We are not envious of each other
2. We don’t make our achievements bigger than the others
3. We don’t belittle one another, esp in public
4. We don’t keep records of each other’s wrongs
5. We don’t prioritize our own interests and desires above the needs and well-being of the other
♥️
(1 Cor 13:8)