05/11/2025
is a time when men are told to talk about their problems… it’s an easy mantra to live by… “Just talk about it”
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But the difficulty is very few men want to admit we don’t have the coping mechanisms or we’re not mentally strong enough to push through.
We also don’t want to be a burden on other people because we are supposed to actually volunteer to shoulder the heavy loads of the world.
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And despite what people say, strength is derived from suffering as long as that suffering leads to adapting and overcoming…
The difficulty is understanding where is the line of too much?
When is the load too heavy and past the point of diminishing returns that actually makes overcoming impossible…
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And then… Does talking about stress even help? Or might something else help so we don’t have to be a burden?
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As a men we have to find our own path and decide for ourselves what helps; find a purpose, practice gratitude for what’s good in life, answer a calling, start learning some new epic sh*t… (get a dog🐕)
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But there is only one way to know if talking to somebody does actually help, and that is to speak about whats on your mind to somebody who will ACTUALLY listen and ask the good questions (not somebody who is waiting to tell us another story about themselves…)
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I believe as men we know the answers ourselves, and if ONLY we were better thinkers, we’d be able to think our way out of everything… but we’re not
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Sometimes we do need help and speaking can help…
It organises thoughts in a coherent manner, which ultimately calms the neurons that are bouncing wildly around inside our brains.
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If we can find the right person who can let us steer our own race car of our mind and keep it on the track as we think & speak, more often we can come up with the solution we’re looking for ourselves…
& then we can build our own plan to make us feel better about the load we’re carrying that will ultimately lead to you overcoming it.
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Speak to your mates, if they’re useless, go speak to a professional help, and if they’re useless, just try a different professional!
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