27/07/2025
What I wish more parents knew:
When your child is dysregulated — yelling, shutting down, lashing out — it’s not because they’re trying to make life harder for you. Often, they’re doing the best they can with the tools they have.
Your child isn’t giving you a hard time — they’re having a hard time.
Underneath every meltdown, shutdown, or outburst is a message:
🔹 “I don’t feel safe.”
🔹 “I don’t know how to say what I need.”
🔹 “I feel overwhelmed.”
Behaviour is communication, and big feelings in little bodies can come out in messy ways.
This doesn’t mean you have to accept all behaviour — it means we start with understanding. You can set boundaries and be compassionate. You can feel frustrated and stay curious.
You don’t need to have all the answers. You just need a way in. When we shift from reacting to listening, we create space for connection, growth, and healing. 🖤
