30/11/2025
Grief isn’t just sadness. It’s the long, difficult work of sorting through everything love leaves behind.
It drags guilt to the surface.
It forces us to look at the moments we wish we’d shown up differently.
It exposes the sharp edges of regret, the unspoken words, the unfinished tenderness.
It brings us face-to-face with the versions of ourselves we were.
And that’s why grief hurts so much—
because it’s not only the loss of someone we loved,
it’s the confrontation with the parts of ourselves we’re afraid to meet.
But here’s the truth:
grief is a purification.
It burns through the illusions.
It strips away the stories we told ourselves.
It shakes loose the shame we cling to as if punishing ourselves could rewrite the past.
It shows us that remorse is just love wearing a mask of self-judgment.
And if we stay with it—if we stop running, numbing, or apologising for our humanity—
grief will eventually peel back the final layer:
the layer where love is no longer tangled up with fear.
Where love becomes clean.
Quiet.
Enduring.
Untethered from guilt or perfectionism.
Untouched by who we “should have been.”
This is the gift hidden inside the ache:
Grief sets love free—not by making us forget, but by forcing us to forgive ourselves.
When we can finally look at our memories without flinching,
when remorse softens into understanding,
when shame dissolves into compassion,
what remains is a love that is pure, fierce, and unbound.
A love that expands instead of contracts.
A love that doesn’t punish.
A love that doesn’t need rewriting—only honouring.
If you’re in the thick of it, don’t rush this part.
The breaking is necessary.
The fire is part of the cleansing.
And on the other side, love becomes something truer than it ever was before.
🤍✨🙏