Lighthouse Counselling & EFT

20/10/2025

Shades of pink.

20/08/2025

A good question to ask yourself when you feel hurt, uneasy or attacked in a relationship is: Whose responsibility is it to solve this? It's possible you may have modelled yourself on your parents/caregivers. Did one parent take too much responsibility or not enough?

When we love someone but they behave in ways that are painful, we compassionate folks (sometimes called codependent or people-pleasers) often bend over backwards to try to fix it.

After all, we are naturally responsible people, able to solve problems (plus caring and empathetic, too)!

Only…we can’t seem to make this relationship work. 😮‍💨

1. They keep behaving in ways that hurt, and
2. We keep trying to solve their behavior, and
3. Round and ‘round it goes. 😵‍💫

It’s a whole-ass dynamic. And we pay dearly for it.

💔 Our emotional health is in tatters.
💔 Our energy is sapped.
💔 Our self-confidence is shot.

So what do we do?
I’d love to help you.

Because there is hope, and it doesn’t have to be this way.

They may or may not ever change.
But you can.

That’s a boundary.

❤️
Molly
Therapist & Boundaries Guide

If you’re kind-hearted and boundaries feel impossible, you are sooo not alone. 😅

That’s why I created the Boundaries Breakthrough Mini-Course — simple, doable, and designed for compassionate people.

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11/08/2025

A helpful reframe on triggers. Rather than avoiding them, what about viewing them as an invitation to heal something trying to get your attention? EFT tapping is a great tool for reducing the emotional intensity of your triggers so you can heal the wound causing the reaction. Contact me to find out how I might be able to help.

Triggers are Warnings (Still Healing).

04/08/2025

This dead branch serves as a support structure for a living vine to climb up so it can get closer to the light and thrive. Sometimes, we feel as if parts of our lives have been a waste because they haven't come to anything. What if the ending of those parts could serve as the structure upon which to grow something new? Nothing is wasted.

28/07/2025

We often expect, even demand, that those we love must love us back equally. When they don't or can't, it can feel devastating. However, when we release the attachment to that specific person returning our love, we are more open to receiving love from other sources. Therapy may be needed to assist you with this process, especially if it was a parent who was unable to love you the way you needed them to. Contact me to find out how.
Image courtesy of Mansi Jikadara B

08/07/2025

An interesting take on the freeze response. Have you ever found yourself doing this? Going through the motions of life while being disconnected on the inside?
EFT tapping can help you to gently release the response, safely feel your emotions and release them.

Send a message to learn more

04/07/2025

Unless a love language is underpinned by genuine, healthy love, it can compound abuse.

5 Problems with Applying the 5 Love Languages in Abusive Relationships

03/07/2025

Can you find a moment to take a mini self-care step today? Eat a pickle, perhaps?

Image via Boynton Fanatics.

23/06/2025

Article in Oprah about the effectiveness of tapping.
"Tapping is like peeling an onion, Stapleton sums up. A person might realize that they’re not actually anxious—they’re sad or scared. If that happens, it’s best to restart. Tap the side of the hand (with the opposite hand) with a new setup statement and continue the process with this emotion."

Welcome to the strange and wonderful world of Emotional Freedom Technique.

20/06/2025

How therapy should be.

Know your circle. ✌️🫂❤️‍🩹🌎

16/06/2025

Some mental health tips to start your week. The first one is especially good. Stop what you're doing, put your hand on your heart and check in with yourself. How do you feel? If it's overwhelming, breathe with it rather than trying to get rid of it. You're just noticing and allowing. Once the emotion knows it's been 'seen without judgement', it can lessen or subside.

From .mind, shared by Psych Nerd

13/06/2025

Monotasking is the art of doing one thing at a time. I decided to try it for one week, beginning with meals. The pull to look at my phone or read or plan my day at the same time was strong, but after a few moments, it usually settled down. Results:
* I enjoyed my meals more.
* I didn't snack on autopilot.
* Boredom isn't as unbearable as you might think but is instead a layer you have to pass through to get to presence which is far more enriching.
* At the end of the day, I found I remembered my day better.
* Monotasking is a muscle you need to build.

Why not start small and choose one job to monotask this week, then see what difference it can makes?